How many really don't want any friends?

You sound like my H. Everything and everyone bores him. If the conversation isn't about him he can't be bothered. He has no friends and doesn't care. But he doesn't want me to have any either because then it really isn't about him.
But then he has NPD & ADD. That seems to explain a lot.

True friends are few and far between. Sometimes you have what you think is a real friend, and invest much time and energy to the relationship only to find out you were the only true friend in that relationship. Let this happen more than a few times and you might find someone that, while wanting friends, have lost the faith that there are any worth hunting for any more.

Just my POV.

LOL Actually....I don't have any friends that come over, or that I go out with. I have a lot of hobbies like, making jewelry, writing books, entering contests and watching Court TV. I enjoy my time alone or should I say with only my immediate family members that are still home. I don't think I'm strange. I do have panic and anxiety along with a little PTSD., but I have always been a home body. When I was working, I just worked and came straight home. I remember one day being a teenager and friends would ask my mom if I wanted to go out. I hated to tell them no myself, so I would tell her to tell them I couldn't go out or I had to do something! As a young adult I probably went clubbing once a month for a year or two, and that was it. Didn't care for it. So yes, I can relate!

I was lucky in that I met some great people when I was in school and am still friends with some of them 35 years later!

It doesn't seem to bother you to not have any friends but I think everyone is different and if that is the way you naturally prefer it then that's fine. Personally I would find it very difficult to not have friends but I guess we are all different.

Cheers

so I am assuming the only reason you stay with him is because you must love him regardless of what you hate about him am I correct?

Not hate. I cannot hate him for being who he is. I am disappointed about some aspects of this though.
I am outgoing and I do get out & get going. I dislike when he tries to interfere or dissuade me from being with others. His usual m.o. is to bad mouth, especially new people, or anyone I have a friendship with, or any new interest I develop. I end up having to defend & justify everything I do. So, I don't like feeling I am not supported in being who I am.

I had to learn to let that go; it is his way to control his own world. I have stopped trying to include him in my stuff because of this.

We are different. The differences were not apparent when we married. He hid this on purpose because, as he says, no one would want to be with him if they knew the disdain he feels for everyone/everything. But it is classic NarcissisticPD. He gravitated toward me to fill a void that he now knows he has no interest in filling. We are able to recognize our differences without destroying each other.
Would it have been better to know these things Before marriage? Obviously. Being your true self is always best. Who's to say we wouldn't still have married, but that knowledge would have given us tools to create a better happy medium a lot sooner.
Anyone with this temperament should face it, not hide it, so that those around them can make informed choices whether to embrace this or not.

So as far as love/hate? He knew what he was getting. I did not. I work with it, and love the lovable parts, treading lightly with the rest.

"it is his way to control his own world."

Sounds like it is his way to control YOU.

It is strange that you would tolerate someone who apparently has been totally deceptive of you about their true personality until marriage.

Well I wish you the best, just hope he doesn't go far with his negative attitude towards you and your friends.

that's really sad how he deceived you like that...I was deceived too before I ended up married to my guy who happens to be a 'codependent mamas boy' at the age of 51...it sucks..what makes its worse is she has NPD also...she is driving me nuts