[bptoo]

They didn't call or email yesterday as promised. I sat by the phone like a teenage boy waiting for his first crush to call... When I got home today I had a message from them to call the HR Manager, I was cautiously excited. I called and got her on the phone, and she said that she wantd to talk to me in person to let me know that they had given the position to one of the other candidates. She said she would have just emailed me, but myself and one other person who was not selected interviewed so strongly that she felt it was the right thing to do to let us know over the phone. She said that it was so close between a few of us that it literally came down to very minor things. She told me a few of them, and I've made notes so I can work on strengthening myself in those areas in the future.

I'm pretty bummed, I can't help it. But I'm not feeling as bad as I thought I would. I feel like I gave it a good shot despite all my insecurities and anxiety. The employer said they were impressed with both my abilities and the way I conducted myself. I can use this going forward. My bad feelings that I have right now will pass. I just need some time to kind of hurt a little I guess.

I really appreciate all of you sending me all the positive words and thoughts and energy. You really are a great group of people, and there's days like today when I'm pretty certain that I don't deserve any of you. I'll probably feel different tomorrow.

Ahhh, onward and upward. I have more resumes to send...but I think I'll go chat for awhile first

Love to all,
Greg

"Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said."

[Fuzzybear]

Greg, I will be honest. I think that sucks. But I really think you will get something good soon, just keep on doing what you are doing! I know you will be a great asset to any company...

Love,
Bear xxxxx

[PlanningtoLive]

I'm sorry, Greg, but I think it is great that you made notes of what the minor issues are so that you can work on them for the next time.

You are very talented and I believe that you will find the right job for you - one that utilizes your talents and makes you happy.

Mary Alice

[dexter]

>>there's days like today when I'm pretty certain that I don't deserve any of you.

BP that is absolutely untrue. That is the only negative thing in this whole post. Do not feel bad about yourself because of this, in fact you should feel extremely good at the whole thing.

Like you said you gave it a good shot. I don't think that is even giving yourself enough credit. I've been following your whole story, and not even taking into account your "insecurities" you went through this whole thing PERFECTLY and PROFESSIONALLY! I will even admit that during most of your posts through this I was asking myself "is this guy depressed or bipolar? because he sure is doing everything properly and confidently!"

From researching and preparing before the interview, getting ready to "highlight" your good skills that might be appropriate (like your experience with Agile) ... to how you handled the interview process (all of the different stages of interviewing would have shaken most people, you seemed to take it all in stride.) Anyone would be nervous in an interview, heck you are supposed to be nervous! Yet it seemed like you handled all of the interviews without fumbling, as evidenced by the respect they gave you even for this last followup call.

No job interview is guaranteed. There are always other people applying who will have good qualifications and will interview well. You kept a good attitude about this, you had high hopes but it didn't seem like you had life or death riding on this. It is normal to be disappointed afterward, you have a right to be disappointed! But even here you are acting constructively, taking advantage of the notes the HR person gave you.

I just wanted to post all of these here in one message to remind you what a big process this was and how well you came through it. Maybe you didn't get this job but you can be ABSOLUTELY SURE that it wasn't because you "blew the interview". And in fact quite the opposite, it seems like you came through the interview with flying colors. That they chose someone else if just a matter of life. Keep your confidence for the next one!

And don't think of this one as a "loss" in anyway. You'll have more confidence, more interviewing experience, and better odds for the position next time. You may even get a call from this place again if there is an opening!

Be proud of yourself!

>>I just need some time to kind of hurt a little I guess

You said it. It is right to be disappointed. "Enjoy" your downtime as a part of life, just don't let it shake you. Hope you are doing well.

And keep posting. I like to hope that people like me are lucky to have people like you posting here.

-- The world is what we make of it --
-- Dave
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[Willow]

Oh no (((((((((Greg)))))))))) There's gotta be a better job out there for you. I remain optimistic. That was great human resources behavior of that lady to call you and give you the feedback she did. YAY!!!! I'm sorry you didn't get the job, but somehow I am still excited to hear how close the competition was. This means you are EXTREMELY competitive in your qualifications.

MORE HUGS

Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in one pretty and well preserved piece...but to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, worn out and defiantly shouting "Wow! What a ride!"

[Rapunzel]

They don't know what they're missing, BP. But it is encouraging that you did interview very well and they recognized that. Something better is in store for you. I'm sure of it.


<font color=orange>"Everyone has a need for significance; and if we can't make that possible, or even probable, in our society, then it will be obtained in destructive ways." -Rollo May</font color=orange>

[(JD)]

Sorry to hear that news bp. BUT I think it is a very positive thing that she spoke to you personally, and gave you hints on how to interview better in the future! That means, to me, that you have great potential. If you did really poorly, she wouldn't have given you the time of day.

I'm thinking just some overachiever blew their socks off! Stay positive, it's possible that THAT person might be totally bored with that job very shortly, and if you stay in touch, you might still get that job.

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[mj14]

Greg,

I'm so sorry to hear that. It's gonna sting for awhile, but you can take some good things out of this and use them for the next interview. And you will always have all out positive thoughts and energy, to carry with you wherever you are.

Now, we'll have no more of this talk that you don't deserve the people here. You're only receiving back the love and support you give out to all of us every day.

*hugs*
mj

[LadyDragus]

Well it sounded like they did want you, but little minor things can kick it in the rear all the time..

Just one thing to remember keep your head held high, for no noe else will do that for you.. Learn from what the lady said, make the notes like you did..

Do you have somone you can have "mock" interveiws with, I know that helps me a gret deal.. Like maybe a Temporary, company can help you get a good job, in your feild.. I do not know much about the state you live in, but I know wehre I live we have tons of companys like that

<font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost.
- G.K. Chesterton
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[heatherm]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Greg}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

You are my hero......what a wonderful man you are. Chin up hun and bigger and better things are just on the horizon for you....I know it.

Love you xoxoxo


Heather

so sorry to hear that you didn't get the job...sounds like you did a great job at your interview...something even better will come along i'm sure......you sound like a wonderful guy.......and nice guys don't always fininsh last!!!!!! lol...best of luck...peace julia

[bptoo]

Y'all are great! You've said a lot of thing I needed to hear. I've printed out all your posts, and they've gone on my wall where I keep posts that I need to remember. Oh, and by the way, I do deserve you all today! Thanks so much for listening to me rant a bit.

And Dex, your post was awesome. You touched on so many things that I was feeling. I really appreciate you saying those things. Even thru your own pain, you can be very inspirational to others. I hope that when life has you down, you won't mind if I remind you from time to time what a Class A human being I think you are. We're all lucky to have you here, and I'm very glad that you're part of the family.

Again all, thank you so much for your love and support. There were three job openings in my email when I got home, so I'd better get busy on those resumes!

Love to all,
Greg

"Children seldom misquote you. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn't have said."

[Peanut61]

(((((((((((Greg)))))))))... Most sincerely, Peanut

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue>

[inkblot]

[[[[[[Awe, BP]]]]]]] I was just thinking of you the other day and wondering about the job. It sounds like you were so close! It does sound positive still that things were so close. It means that you did an exceptional job interviewing, AND just in case the person they did choose doesn't work out, you might at least be in the running for a second chance. Ya never know! You also got feedback to go over and things to work on--that will help, too! Hang in there, BP, we are all here rooting for you! (Who needs the Dallas Cheerleaders when you've got us?)

[darkeyes]

I'm sorry to hear this, I'll keep you in my thoughts.

((((((((((((((((((((((( bptoo )))))))))))))))))))))

DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON

[angel04]

First of all, I luv ya. Second, I'm sorry, I was really rootin for you hun.
It's good that you can take the suggestions though and make positive things come from the experience. You'll really wow 'em next time.
library is closing so I'll write more soon
take care ok?
hugs and hugs and more hugs
boops

"man's belief that he is the only intelligent being has not done him good" JRR Tolkien

[deepthinker]

Hey matie,
Its been a while. Just wanted to drop you a little note to say I'm thinking of you and i know you have it in you, to pick up the pieces and find the right job for you and the people who deserve you the most. Its hard I know.
Remain positive and stay true to yourself.
Love you heaps
Deep xx

It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves. C.G Jung