[MoxieDoxie]

Never heard of this.....many of us with PTSD, Personality Disorders and depression can easily have these symptoms. Is this a made up disorder?

EMOTIONAL DEPRIVATION DISORDER: Emotional Deprivation Disorder is a syndrome which results from a lack of authentic affirmation and emotional strengthening in one's life. A person may have been criticized, ignored, neglected, abused, or emotionally rejected by primary caregivers early in life, resulting in that individual’s stunted emotional growth. Unaffirmed persons are incapable of developing into emotionally mature adults until they receive authentic affirmation from another person. Maturity is reached when there is a harmonious relationship between a person’s body, mind, emotions and spiritual soul under the guidance of their reason and will.

Symptoms and Characteristics of Emotional Deprivation Disorder:
Insufficiently Developed Emotional Life

Abnormal Rapport
o Incapable of establishing normal, mature contact with others
o Feels lonely and uncomfortable in social settings
o Capable of a willed rapport but not an emotional investment in relationships

Egocentric
o Childhood level of emotional development
o Feels like a child or and infant and others must focus their attention on the individual just as an adult would focus on a young child.
o Incapable of emotional surrender to a spouse

Reactions Around Others
o May be fearful in nature or courageous and energetic
o More fearful people tend to become discouraged or depressed
o More courageous and energetic persons can become more aggressive

Uncertainty & Insecurity

Fear or anxiety
o Can be in the form of a generalized anxiety
o Fear of hurting someone else’s feelings
o Fear of hurting others or contaminating them (e.g. with germs or a cold)
o Need for frequent reassurance

Feels incapable of coping with life
o Worry that they’ll be put in a situation they can’t handle
o Can be easily discouraged or depressed
o May pretend to be in control in order to mask inner feelings and fearfulness

Hesitation and Indecisiveness
o Difficulty in making decisions
o Easily changes mind

Oversensitivity
o Overly sensitive to the judgments of others, criticism or slights
o Easily hurt or embarrassed

Need to Please Others
o Pleases others in order to protect self from criticism or rejection and gain approval of others
o Easily taken advantage of or exploited
o Fear of asking for favors or services needed

Self-consciousness
o Worried about what other people think
o Self-doubt and need for reassurance

Helplessness
o Do not dare to say “no” for fear of rejection

Inferiority and Inadequacy

Feel Unloved
o Believe that no one could possibly love them
o Feel devoid of all feelings of love
o Believe they are incapable of loving others or God
o Suspicious of any token of affection – continually doubt sincerity of others

Physical Appearance
o May have feelings of inadequacy due to physical appearance

Feelings of Intellectual Incompetence
o May have difficult completing projects
o Repeated failure or fear of failure

Show Signs of Disintegration in New Circumstances
o Fear of new situations and challenges
o Difficulty coping with new job, landlord, moving, etc.

Sense Impairments
o Undeveloped or underdeveloped senses (touch, taste, sight, smell)
o Lack of order, disorganization
o Fatigue

Further symptoms found in some individuals with emotional deprivation disorder:

o Deep feelings of guilt
o Kleptomania
o Need to collect and hoard useless things
o Paranoid condition

Affirmation: When one person is the source of unconditional love and emotional strengthening for another person. Emotional Deprivation Disorder
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[tinyrabbit]

Oh my goodness, about 90% of that fits me.

[IowaFarmGal]

I scored high on emotional deprivation in one of the tests we took in DBT class. That and vulnerability to harm were the top two I think for thought distortions. It does mostly fit.

[Onward2wards]

I can fully relate to about half of these symptoms. However, I was in NO way emotionally deprived early in life by my parents. I had a very good start in life.

LATER in childhood and teenage years I got bullied and teased a lot, I was in an accident where I thought my parents and I were going to die, became clingy and socially anxious, experienced recurrent situational emotional invalidation, and had a lot of friction with my parents due to temperament differences. Is THAT enough to account for the symptoms I have? I am aware of them and can overcome them, but experience limited ability to do so under stress. I blame depressed moods squarely on this, as meds haven't been of much help.

[reesecups]

I have a lot of those. And I'll never forget my case manager snarling at me "you have the emotional maturity of a child!" My therp was angry that she would say something like that without adding anything helpful. I knew my emotional maturity was not good. I think she was just being unprofessional by saying something like that. She was not a very good case manager IMO.

[IndieVisible]

So far as I know, the use of the term "Emotional Deprivation Disorder" (EDD) is not found in any edition of the DSMs, and is really the exclusive offspring of Conrad W. Baars, M.D and Anna A. Terruwe, M.D. For more information on their construct, you can go to the website Conrad W. Baars, MD.

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[Lazermage]

Around 63% of them are true for me...

[cool09]

That covers just about ever disorder a person could have. Some personality disorders (Schizoid, Borderline, etc.) and maybe Asperger's Syndrome consist of not processing or connecting with social cues properly and lack of/or inappropriate affect I believe.

It's a shame because these personality disorders seem like they manifest themselves almost overnight and they blindside you. Take a look at how quickly Syd Barrett changed and became useless.

[here today]

Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie

Never heard of this.....many of us with PTSD, Personality Disorders and depression can easily have these symptoms. Is this a made up disorder?

EMOTIONAL DEPRIVATION DISORDER: Emotional Deprivation Disorder is a syndrome which results from a lack of authentic affirmation and emotional strengthening in one's life.

Thanks, MoxieDoxie. I wonder if this isn't the originator's version of the underlying sense of self difficulties that characterize personality disorders in extreme form, perhaps not so strongly in "simple' PTSD and depression? Lack of authentic affirmation, and/or strong, traumatic disaffirmation that a person cannot deal with, seem to be a common theme.

Originally Posted by reesecups

. . And I'll never forget my case manager snarling at me "you have the emotional maturity of a child!" My therp was angry that she would say something like that without adding anything helpful. I knew my emotional maturity was not good. I think she was just being unprofessional by saying something like that. She was not a very good case manager IMO.

Perhaps slightly off-topic, it sounds to me like the case manager's response was, frankly, "shaming." Definitely unprofessional and the kind of response or comment to people with "self" difficulties -- or emotional immaturity or emotional deprivation, take your pick -- which I believe can be very damaging, especially in what is supposed to be a "therapeutic" environment.

(I actually felt uncomfortable and "hated" to write "shaming" for fear just my comment itself would result in reesecups feeling uncomfortable. I'm still too likely myself to internatlize that kind of thing with the feeling that "I am bad". But maybe that's what we need to start to do? Calmly call it what it is, so that the "professionals" can begin to see it, too.)

[KristyGirl7]

I think I have 85-90% (just a guess) of them. And someone (whom I believe to be very insightful) told me one time that when it comes to love, I am still a child.

(I got offended, but then logically thought about it and realized that it was true.)

I think maybe it's somewhat related to my post about people who can't feel loved by others and don't love themselves. Because if you need constant affirmation, that means you can't believe that you have what it takes unless someone convinces you (all the time).

I have that.

And so imagine trying to find a partner who is willing to do that ALL THE TIME. And if the meaning of life is in having someone, then there goes that meaning...

It's like it says in that song: "But you've got a hole in your cup that should hold my love"

Do not waste this evening
Baby, I'm begging you
Your big imagination's playing its tricks on you
If you think my up and leaving's something I'm gonna do
Feel my chest when I look at you
Baby you, you've got my only heart

So hard to be so far out living our separate lives
You phone was really broken
I tried your number twice (Talking about insecurities and being hurt and not able to receive love at that time)
And if you need confirmation, baby I understand
It's alright if you want me to tell you
I adore you
But there's a hole in the cup that should hold my love
If you let me leave
I swear, I never will

[possum220]

Unlocking the world of emotions: Part 1 | Dr Simon Morris

http://www.schematherapy.com/id73.htm

Hope this helps.

[Ihani]

Sounds just like me, although I often attributed it to overexcitabilites.