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Old Jan 10, 2007, 10:28 AM
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most of you know that my SIL returned from Iraq in October. while there a lot happened around him and to him. the family needs your love and support as he is having a lot of problems and it is really affecting him, my daughter and my granddaughter....i mean severe problems........and i'm scared to death he might have to go back......

please keep the three of them in your prayers and thoughts. i got a phone call last night at 10:50 and did not sleep but two hours afterwards.........thanks, xoxoxo pat

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Old Jan 10, 2007, 10:37 AM
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Pat, you, your daughter and her family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm so sorry and can relate...growing up the child of a marine, veteran of VietNam.

Our servicemen and women do suffer more than many know. Can he see someone? Do you think it's PTSD or difficulty adjusting, both or more?

Regardless, you're all in my thoughts and prayers with understanding how hard it is.

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Old Jan 10, 2007, 11:32 AM
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 11:47 AM
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Oh boy Pat, you better believe I am thinking of them. May they all have peace.
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 11:55 AM
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so sorry to hear about this pat.......you all will be in my prayers.....
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 01:36 PM
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Pat, I've heard that the Armed Forces don't do much about "debriefing" their guys. Is there some way you can get him to a psychologist to help him deal??

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Old Jan 10, 2007, 01:43 PM
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 02:14 PM
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Please make sure you reach out to the available counseling in the military. I know the Army debriefs their members for a month or so in Kuwait before allowing them home.

I wonder if the soldier either keeps it together in front of others while there, or perhaps the comraderie helps them do that...and when they are home it becomes too strong without the demand for adherence?

I can't believe the year is over for him already! That went so fast (imo) of course, not to the soldier.

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Old Jan 10, 2007, 02:27 PM
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even when in snowglobe brain mode we're there in heart and prayers.

pat and family...be safe, be healthy, be well........and darnitall be together!

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Old Jan 10, 2007, 02:35 PM
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Sky I think you have a good point. As long as they are with their buddies they don't have to really explain. They'll get it and there is comfort in that. At home even though people try to understand they haven't been there and so they are really alone even in a crowd. All we can do is pray for them and their families and hope they can get well again.
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 03:13 PM
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thanks, friends. i'm about to collapse. it is PTSD and a lack of properly trained professionals to help those who have come home. the details are truly too much to disclose here, but he went through some really awful things while there.

he is not the man that went over there.

he doesn't have the family support that my daughter has. just us for him and it's hard for him to open up anyway......childhood issues. i really need help getting to a point where i'm not on the verge of giving way. i am so worried about all three of them.......love, pat
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 07:52 PM
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Hi Pat, I will hold all of you in my prayers.....
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 08:20 PM
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Pat, you and your family are in my prayers.
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 09:14 PM
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thanks so much. i feel so helpless. things are spiraling downward and he's getting very little help from the ARmy. i'm so worried about my granddaughter. hopefully, my youngest and i will get to keep her for awhile. her mom has to have a hysterectomy asap and it would help them for us to have the baby here while that is going on.

it's just so frustrating to see how little is being done to help the families that are trying to deal with such trauma and pain. i know we're really lucky that he didn't get hit while there. they just had to build a huge new re-hab about 1 hour from here for the disabled that are returning from Iraq. too many to handle in other areas.

thanks, again......i admit to really needing some hand holding......love, pat
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 09:29 PM
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You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for him.
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 09:32 PM
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Your son will never be the same... some things change you forever. Acceptance is crucial, he already feels guilty and shocked, nothing anyone says can really compare to what he already feels. I know you are doing your best to help and be supportive, but it can be very draining, so take care of yourself as well.

This must be a horrible time for all of you and I am thinking of you...
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 09:34 PM
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(((((((((((((((((((Pat and family))))))))))))))) I'm so sorry. I hope everyone is able to get some help. You are in my thoughts. We Need Some Help........ We Need Some Help........
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 10:22 PM
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Pat,
I'm so sorry to hear that about your family. I will pray for you and them.
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Old Jan 10, 2007, 10:44 PM
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