[Honeybeez]

I am a very loving person, caring , sweet , selfless and very understanding. I mostly put others first, because I feel that is why I was put in this world; to help others and show that love is key . With all that I seem to encounter a problem when I'm judged or not treated the same . Sometimes, I just brush it off and not let it get to me because I know my heart regardless of what others say, but other times I get hurt from others comments and judgment. When I get hurt and start to think what others have said I doubt me and feel I'm no good and wish I can be like others; mostly because I can very quite and to myself at times . I think, again, that's do to lack of social skills. I really hope I can understand me completely one day and not doubt myself and speak freely without fear. Honestly having the ability to express myself here makes me feel better.

[Ripose]

Your description sounds exactly like me.
I will never understand why there is so much negativity in the world. It seems there are a lot of people that can't handle when someone is nice to them and they respond with meanness.
I know how difficult it is to not let other people's negativity have a bad effect on you. Sometimes instead of trying to grow a thicker skin I try to place myself in their shoes to see if I can understand why they are so negative, sometimes it works and I walk away still feeling good about myself while understanding the other person's point of view. Remember that often you will have no idea what their problem is, so just tell yourself they must be having a bad day and leave with your own psyche undamaged.

[Artchic528]

I don't understand why being different from other people is always shunned and shamed by the human populace. I guess it does go back to the times when being different meant the difference between life and death, when we were mere hunter gatherers. But wasn't it also being different that propelled human society to have ingenuity and ideas that fueled our growth?

In fact, it's the very idea of being unique and different that made Albert Einstein so incredibly intelligent and intuitive in his discoveries. He was said to be able to, quite literally, visualize ideas in his mind's eye (Such as what it would be like to ride on a beam of light that sped across the Universe) with such clarity that he could understand them more adeptly than anyone before him.

But he didn't go through life being this way without his fair share of people treating him differently or special. His childhood was often difficult as he had trouble focusing on his schoolwork because his mind didn't work in the way that was taught in schools. He would often be described as day dreaming instead of adeptly listening. As a result, his grades suffered and his teachers would often suggest that he was mentally handicapped or challenged. There was even talk of institutionalizing him.

But, he turned into one of the brightest minds of the 20th century, and his work is still being examined today, to figure out how he came to figure out seemingly impossible formulas and such.

I wouldn't worry about it, to be honest, because who knows, you could be the next Albert Einstein someday.

[brainhi]

You will figure out who is worth your time and energy and let the rest go. I have this problem as well. I treat others as I would want to be treated... but much of the time I see little reciprocation. Many times others are not even aware they are being hurtful. It's not you (I had to learn this), their brain has it's own agenda. You will encounter others that share your values - they are worth the time. The others...if you have to be around them... learn to "shake it off"... know that is who they are and most likely will not change.

Originally Posted by Artchic528

I don't understand why being different from other people is always shunned and shamed by the human populace. I guess it does go back to the times when being different meant the difference between life and death, when we were mere hunter gatherers. But wasn't it also being different that propelled human society to have ingenuity and ideas that fueled our growth?

In fact, it's the very idea of being unique and different that made Albert Einstein so incredibly intelligent and intuitive in his discoveries. He was said to be able to, quite literally, visualize ideas in his mind's eye (Such as what it would be like to ride on a beam of light that sped across the Universe) with such clarity that he could understand them more adeptly than anyone before him.

But he didn't go through life being this way without his fair share of people treating him differently or special. His childhood was often difficult as he had trouble focusing on his schoolwork because his mind didn't work in the way that was taught in schools. He would often be described as day dreaming instead of adeptly listening. As a result, his grades suffered and his teachers would often suggest that he was mentally handicapped or challenged. There was even talk of institutionalizing him.

But, he turned into one of the brightest minds of the 20th century, and his work is still being examined today, to figure out how he came to figure out seemingly impossible formulas and such.

I wouldn't worry about it, to be honest, because who knows, you could be the next Albert Einstein someday.

being diffrent is important.

if we were all the same, god how dull life would be

[SnakeCharmer]

My therapist taught me the unconditional love and acceptance we give others brings us more happiness than longing to get love and acceptance from others. When I saw the movie Adaptation, there was a scene toward the end that made me think of what my T taught me. Maybe it applies to you, too. I keep it in mind whenever I feel others are not following the Golden Rule toward me. It really helps my mental outlook.

Charlie Kaufman: There was this time in high school. I was watching you out the library window. You were talking to Sarah Marsh.

Donald Kaufman: Oh, God. I was so in love with her.

Charlie Kaufman: I know. And you were flirting with her. And she was being really sweet to you.

Donald Kaufman: I remember that.

Charlie Kaufman: Then, when you walked away, she started making fun of you with Kim Canetti. And it was like they were laughing at *me*. You didn't know at all. You seemed so happy.

Donald Kaufman: I knew. I heard them.

Charlie Kaufman: How come you looked so happy?

Donald Kaufman: I loved Sarah, Charles. It was mine, that love. I owned it. Even Sarah didn't have the right to take it away. I can love whoever I want.

Charlie Kaufman: But she thought you were pathetic.

Donald Kaufman: That was her business, not mine. You are what you love, not what loves you. That's what I decided a long time ago.

That was a hard lesson for me to accept at first, but when it's put into action in real life, in a non-obsessive way, it brings a lot of peace and inner serenity.

[Honeybeez]

I can't be thankful enough for all the replies . It's like I feel alive again because in my heart and in my spirit I know that is true . I suppose, the day I am sure of my identity I wont let the negativity affect me . Until then I am so thankful to be here and a part of this .

Originally Posted by Honeybeez

I can't be thankful enough for all the replies . It's like I feel alive again because in my heart and in my spirit I know that is true . I suppose, the day I am sure of my identity I wont let the negativity affect me . Until then I am so thankful to be here and a part of this .

glad we were able to help

and we're always ready to help when needed