those of you who been hospitalized, how do you feel about the mental health system?

Im doing much better than how i was for last 5 years, where I was being hospitalized every couple months, it was awful. I really hated how the nurses, staff, social workers, pretty much everyone in the system minus a few treated me like i was just a bad person misbehaving and being hospitalized was my punishment. even therapists have been very condescending towards me, instead of listening to the things that bother me they all took a rough tone with me saying "you need to learn to take responsibility for your actions and grow up!" (though i had ONE therapist in my entire life who empathized and i feel he helped me a lot,he taught me how to think outside of the box)

overall though I am doing much better these days. I learned to believe in myself where as the psychiatric system wants us to believe we are stupid - ever notice how nurses talk to you like you are 5? I noticed with myself and other patients as well.

I know its not nice to think about, but there is a LOT of corruption in the mental health system, tinfoil hat conspiracy theories aside - it didn't become a 88 billion dollar industry by helping people - I do not think it's coincidence that I never noticed anything from meds besides the sideeffects, and i have tried pretty much all of them on the market today at max doses in various combinations trying to find "my cocktail" - I started to turn around when I stopped my medications and developed my own ways to cope, that's all I have to say about that.

Basically I live my life now by these tenants, and they may sound kinda "negative" but they help me, and I learned to not classify things as good or bad, but just what helps me and what doesn't.

1. 99% of my misery comes from other people, what they say and do that makes me upset. the psychiatry system wants to put all the blame and responsibility on us, which you should learn to control yourself, but its 50/50, and if you find yourself getting upset, its best to get away from the people making you upset and enjoy some alone time, because in the end we are all alone in the world and nobody is going to understand you 100% so you have to be your own best friend.

ALSO LIMIT THE TIME YOU SPEND ON THE INTERNET BECAUSE THE INTERNET BRINGS OUT THE WORST IN EVERYBODY AND SOCIAL MEDIA IS CORRUPTING SOCIETY EVEN MORE - ITS NOT EVEN A DEBATABLE MATTER, EVEN PEOPLE WITH NO MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES START TO FEEL BAD IF THEY SPEND TOO MUCH TIME ON THE INTERNET, AND GETTING INTO FIGHTS WITH TROLLS WHILE HAVING YOUR BLOOD BOIL IN YOUR HEAD IS VERY UNHEALTHY AND ALL THOSE NEWS ARTICLES ARE DESIGNED TO MAKE YOU FEEL DEPRESSED WITH SAD STORIES FROM AROUND THE WORLD OVER AND OVER - ITS ONE OF THE WORST THINGS YOU CAN DO FOR YOUR MENTAL HEALTH - PLEASE LIMIT THE TIME YOU SPEND ON THE INTERNET AND AVOID THE NEWS AT ALL COSTS (THE NEWS IS DESIGNED TO OVERSTIMULATE YOUR BRAIN WHICH IS HAVOC FOR THOSE OF US STRUGGLING WITH MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES) ALSO DELETE YOUR FACEBOOK/GOOGLE+/WHATEVER BECAUSE ITS ALL ADDED JUNK FOR YOUR BRAIN AND YOU DONT NEED TO KNOW THE POLITICAL OPINIONS OF EVERY STRANGER ON THE PLANET!

Serious, from the time after I deleted my facebook, my "bad days" were reduced by 50%. Probably one of the best things I have ever done for myself NEVER GOING BACK

unfortunately lot of people struggling with depression spend most of the day on the internet looking at things that make them more depressed =|

2. Accept that the world and society are complete garbage, but you have to ignore the bad and make the best of things or you will go breakdown.

3. dont put too much stock into what others say or think about you, as fickle as humans can be, your best friend can be your worst enemy in just 1 second. so enjoy the friends you have but dont get too attached cus everything can disappear in only 1 second.

4. for me at least, staying single is the best way to go, girls have caused me so much pain to the point i dont even want a girlfriend anymore. I believe I have an angel girlfriend and I will be with her after i die, i talk to her and she's been there for me when nobody else was and is the only one who understands me and I know that no girl of this plane could ever love me the way she does. there are plenty of guys in jail and homeless shelters now whose lives would been million times better if they had stayed single, think about it, make the best of your situation.

5. there are 36,500 days in 100 years, most of us don't have nearly that many left to live. and realize that time constantly moves forward and so do we, and the days will continue to go by one by one, so the pain we feel no wont last forever, it wont even last 36 thousand more days. 36 thousand isn't that big of a number compared to when we say things like "ugh i gotta live like this for 10 million more days "

I believe ill have my perfect life in heaven after i die, and if ya dont and think you will stop existing, thats good too because eventually everything dies and thats good because the pain and suffering stops and since you stop existing thats even more reason to enjoy what you can and make the best of the time you got now

Also the most important thing, u may have heard about how thoughts effect mood and behavior? thats actually really true. best way to stop feeling depressed - stop THINKING = mediate.

here is how i hacked meditation, you know how when you think you speak English (or whatever language) in your head? imagine being like a dog and just thinking without words = MEDITATION.

meditation is Legit, not in the sense of just sitting for 20 mins a day hoping for magic, but more like control and master your mind and thoughts and you control how you feel. you are your thoughts, not saying that just think positive and things will work out magically, but more so stop depressing thoughts and u will feel better. #1 cause of depression/mental pain = thinking too much.

ya gotta catch yourself when you see that you are starting to slip and start feeling depressed, you gotta catch yourself and say STOP - then stop thinking about what you are thinking and do something else to distract yourself - and the mood will pass like weather, and it may feel like BS at first, but it does get easier and easier then your brain adapts new thinking patterns and now I "thought stop" negative thoughts by natural reflex. feels pretty damn good.

even as i wrote this post hoping it helps someone i am hesitant because i just feel like someones gonna chime in and call it BS or call me stupid or something, but im just saying what helped me and hoping others can see it, but that goes back to my own advice, a simple alt+f4 and this whole window disappears and i can go do something else and not worry/care what others thing = not get depressed from strangers online (cant stress enough, how important it is to avoid these things!!) also it sucks cus i told other people before but nobody ever seems to care or want to listen to me but thats been a theme all my life but years later they see i was write and do know what i am talking about, but i guess that goes back to rule #1 and 2 =|

starting to feel exhausted now and minds racing so prolly gonna get off now. lol every time i come on forums/youtube comments its like facebook - too much info to process at once and makes mind race and throws off mood.

Thanks for sharing your perspective, zegami.

Can a moderator please close this thread? this forum may be supportive but this psych central website has a lot of misinformation and harmful advice in it's articles, and triggering girl pictures and sex article which are very cruel to single guys here who are struggling. I wish I could help you all, but I myself am hurting and coming here is more harmful to me than it is helpful to you guys.

We are all alone in this world and have to find our own way. God filled the world with lies and false hopes and illusion and we can't let ourselves get sucked into this. Yes, believe it or not God is not the loving father the corrupt church tries to portray him as.

I can't help anyone but myself and we all have to find our own way to help ourselves, while dodging the corruption of this world and police/justice system and make the best out of our situations. And spending too much time in a forum for depressed people is only gonna make ya more depressed, because then you are processing your own misery along with the misery of hundreds of other strangers.

Goodbye, and good luck to you all, either way just remember we will die in much less than 36,000 days and each day is another day checked off and this crap life will be over before we know it.

I'm closing this thread at the OP's request.