[Crow30]

Since I have had such bad schizoid personality I always sat in school and said nothing because I was so shy, but I did a lot of observing others throughout my life and being silent. Now as I get older I feel like I can tell if a person is no good right away because I study people so well instead of conversating. I always say stuff like, `he is bad news I can tell just by talking to him once or looking at him`. And I think that I really have been a good judge of character and know right away about a person, but it also could just be a feeling of grandiosity too. Or a combination of both maybe? Maybe I am too judgmental too and only see the bad in people. But it seems like 99 out of 100 times I am right about people. What do you guys think about this?

I have anxiety issues and in situations where I'm unsure I tend to become observant too, and at times quieter than I would like. It's self protection.

I can be judgemental too, but as I've got older life has taught me that I'm not always right in my first impressions. Sometimes when I get to know someone better over time it turns out there is far more to them than meets the eye (in a good way) and I change my opinion about them. Other times there have people I instantly take to (they tend to have charisma) who then show other sides of their personality which are not as nice.

[Steiner of Thule]

I've spent a lot of time observing others in my life and I always seem to find some way to not involve myself with others. I tend to wonder if it's more about my low self-esteem that I try to find some way to put myself above them in any way I can. I do tend to be a judgmental type of person and I can relate with the idea of it. I tend to think of it as a way to cope with being me.

I tend to get INTJ on the myers briggs test

[avlady]

sometimes we have to trust our gut. maybe a person is giving off bad vibes and i myself usually tell by listening to others and if what they are doing and saying is right for myself to want to get involved with certain people.

[Innsmouth]

I can totally relate. I sometimes feel like I use my "ability to judge character" as a defense mechanism because I do not trust people. I am also certain it goes back to that need to feel superior. I also think I am very wrong about many of my judgments and need to focus more on what I know for sure is really going on. I think if I can get past that and focus on what I know for sure is real, it will just be one more step towards developing healthy relationships with others. Glad I read your post because this is something I've been contemplating a lot lately. I think in my own personal case it is more important for me to use analytic thought than relying on intuition. My intuition is a big, fat liar most of the time. LOL

[MoxieDoxie]

I do the same thing. I watch every movement, hand gester, stance, eyes, mouth and right off the bad I just decide if they are good for me or bad. This is not good because people or general good and mean no harm. They have their own struggles in life they are dealing with and need just as much understanding and compassion.

[*Laurie*]

I think that having a good intuition is a fortunate thing to have. Many of us who have dealt with mental illness all of our lives (and worked on helping ourselves) know ourselves well, are especially sensitive and do develop keen intuitions. I tend to trust my intuition...it seldom lets me down. I know a lot of people who don't seem to make an effort to know themselves and who never develop astute feelings for other people. And I see a lot of people end up regretting it because they had a lousy intuition about someone, or an intuition they didn't trust, and they wind up being badly hurt. I've been criticized a lot for being so-called "judgmental" and I've been mistreated too much in my life. So I've pretty much learned that the best thing to do is trust my intuition and be quiet about it so I'm not labeled as judgmental or critical, because I don't think trusting your good intuition is necessarily judgmental, I think it's a smart way to set healthy boundaries.

[Angelwngs25]

I feel the same way about being able to judge people just by looking at them or talking to them once. When I first met my ex I really don't know why I took my better judgement and threw it out the window. I knew just by looking at him that he was trouble. And then when I knew he was trouble I kept going back to him after breaking up with him multiple times...because of my Borderline Personality Disorder. I am not officially diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder but my Psych said I have it. Gonna see my new Temp Psych on Monday and see what they think.

[MrMisdiagnosis]

I think it is wrong because someone is only bad news if you allow them to be bad news for you. Just because someone might seem sociopathic or whatever does not mean they are not worth talking to.

Some people may not be your type of people, everyone has these judgements but to only see the bad in someone is incorrect.

[CampsNP]

I hate to say it but I have some components of borderline personality. I have had counseling in the past. It may be time to go back. I don't want it to impact my career.

[CampsNP]

Originally Posted by Angelwngs25

I feel the same way about being able to judge people just by looking at them or talking to them once. When I first met my ex I really don't know why I took my better judgement and threw it out the window. I knew just by looking at him that he was trouble. And then when I knew he was trouble I kept going back to him after breaking up with him multiple times...because of my Borderline Personality Disorder. I am not officially diagnosed with Social Anxiety Disorder but my Psych said I have it. Gonna see my new Temp Psych on Monday and see what they think.

I think I have borderline personality as well. Not disabling, but enough to cause distress to me.

[saw_q]

yes.. it was really a bad time . 'schziod/ personality split' really annoying thing to deal. but anyway don't let your fun squeeze down like that. go to what you capable with. when i was at school i really enjoy my time. i'm volley ball player, football player also student leader too.. hehe.. they say that was crazy too while i doing like that hehe. but friend, what i like to suggest is be positive in any how.. and go with what you good at. schizo can reduce by eating ginkgo biloba herbs and drink Chinese tea while to circle the circulation, it really a 'mind stroke' that actually face . ok just that the tips.. be posive okay.. alright.. hehe

[MissDelusionalAlice]

Many people who watch or observe other people tend to pick up really well judge of character skills since you already watching how certain people act. I am usually quite when I'm in class and I tend to observe others as well so I picked up some things while I was people-watching. I sometimes fell as if I'm being to judgmental as well or that I think I'm better than they are but it's because I'm usually right. I don't feel like it's abnormal to feel like you're a good judge of character especially if you have keen observation skills.

[PinYoda]

I too have spent all my life watching a listening in the background. I also am a pretty good judge of character too. When you think about it, certain professions require you to "judge" a person. Watch everything they do and the ways their voices change. I like to think that I've already gone through the training and now I'm putting it to the test and finding it very useful.