Help...new tenant moving in and I'm too scared to cope

As we speak my landlady is cleaning out the spare room in my flat so that it can be rented out. She's got a person coming to look at the room tomorrow. It's not that I didn't see this coming, since technically I'm only renting my room, but I'm really struggling to deal with living with another person. The person who rented my room before was a friend of my fathers who said nobody rented the spare room in the past because it was too small and the flat itself is tiny (just has a small kitchen and bathroom). So I felt kind of safe under the impression that the landlady wouldn't rent out the spare room and I could keep having the flat to myself. Things have changed now. Because of my avoidant personality disorder and depression I have an extremely difficult problem with living with other people in a houseshare/roomate setting, but I can't afford to rent my own place, this was why this room/flat was a great opportunity. I'm really sensitive and introverted and in the past it got me hospitalised because I was too scared to leave my bedroom for days and had to relieve myself in plastic bottles and nearly starved. I am receiving therapy but it can only help so much. I don't envision things getting as bad as that time but it will still overload me with heaps of stress having to share living space with someone again. Everything about it frightens me and always has my whole life.
I just feel so powerless since all I can do is sit tight and try to cope. My world is already upside down and I'm trying to get my **** together this year and now this has happened. My landlady is so aloof and ignorant to what I'm going through, but it's not her fault, even though there are a few things going through my mind like:

• I bought the fridge, microwave and table and chairs from my fathers friend (the last tenant). They are mine: I own them. I don't think the landlady realises this and I feel offended that this stranger who is moving in is going to use the fridge etc when they're mine.
• The flat came with a limited amount of kitchen utensils. Just plates, bowls, a pot and a couple of frying pans. I bought my own cutlery, toaster, kettle and was going to buy more bits and pieces when I had the money. So basically same as above; new tenant is going to move in and use all my stuff. I feel like if I speak up about it I'll look like a **** and just make things more stressful for myself. But it doesn't seem fair.

I can't move out as I can't afford it and I'm in a good location for public transport, which I depend upon. I feel like confronting the landlady but I don't think it's going to stop any of this from happening and it might make me look stupid if I mention the fact that I own the fridge/microwave/table and some of the utensils and am being expected to share them with a stranger.

why would this person be able to use your stuff-that's just not right. they should have their own pots and pans too. i hope you can get along with his new person too, if not are you going to move? i will pray for you and good luck

I asked her about the cookware stuff and she didn't really know what I meant. I didn't word it very well. She said the new tenant will probably bring their own cookware/utensils, but it seems unlikely to me.

What do you mean you will pray for me? I'm not religious so I don't know what people actually do when they say things like that, as it's a phrase that is thrown around a lot on internet forums. I don't get how you can pray for someone but you don't know their name or what they look like etc.

"What do you mean you will pray for me? I'm not religious so I don't know what people actually do when they say things like that, as it's a phrase that is thrown around a lot on internet forums. I don't get how you can pray for someone but you don't know their name or what they look like etc."

I usually say, "I'll dance naked around the bonfire biting the head off a live bat for you."

It does sound like the landlad is unaware that the fridge is yours. I find it unsual that she is renting rooms and not providing a fridge of her own for the flat. I fear that if you don't resolve this with your landlord before the new person moves in they will react badly. I urge you to let her know this is your property as soon as possible, definitely before she shows the room to anyone. I would expect that a stove and fridge are provided if I was renting a flat, but microwave, cutlery and table would not be. I did some searching to see if it was required to provide a fridge/stove, but it appears not according to this:
https://www.commerce.wa.gov.au/sites...nantsguide.pdf

She cannot compel you to share what is yours with the new tenant, but being overly possessive won't win you any friends. If your fridge is half empty anyway, it will run better if their food is in there too.

Thanks for going to the trouble of finding that link. I'm just going to have to accept the fact that I must let the new tenant use the fridge etc. If I say anything about it I'll look like a control freak and I really don't need that. I need to make a good impression to avoid trouble.

Shy, i would email the landlord stating what you have brought to the flat. I think its much easier to do it now having it acknowledged as yours, just to stop any conflict/anxiety (or both) should you need to move in the future.

Well I'm back where I started: holed up in my bedroom too afraid to come out to even get food. Have spent the entire day in my room only coming out to go to the toilet when I hear my roomate go out. Now it's night and I'm in my room in the dark and don't want to turn my lights on otherwise it will draw attention to me.

It's stupid how I know everything wrong with the situation today and can type it out rationally, but still can't do anything about my fears.

I nearly had things under control. I was nice to the new roomate, I entertained them when they wanted to chat or play cards. I submitted to their nosy questions (What are you doing today? Where did you go?) even though I really wanted to tell them to mind their own business.

And I don't know if it's all the talking I've been doing lately but I have had enough and withdrawn to my room permanently. I let myself show irritation and anger in front of them and now I've failed.