[SeptemberMorn]

They say it's a sign of old age when you wish things could be like they were before. Maybe I'm getting too old, older than I brag about, because I spend a lot of time "wishing things were like they used to be."

I've done more than wish, though. I've tried to change things in my life. Some things have changed and some things haven't. At the bottom of it all, it's me that's changed. Some changes come easy, some changes are quite a challenge... and some changes are darn near impossible.

On the flip side of that coin is change that goes on outside of what any of us can do anything about, or so it seems. The world changes, people change, environments change and there's very little one, two or three people can do about it.

I find myself in that position right now. Ya'll know that my relationship with my youngest son is great now, ya'll have been with me through my relationship with my husband. Things are immproving on that front. Some call it "in 3D" or "IRL". I've always maintained that the life we live online is also "IRL". It affects each individual as much as things in 3D.

There's a lot of things that will change if we change our perceptions or our responses in 3D. I have found that it's not nearly so with what goes on behind the screen of my monitor.

In years past, I could come to PC and be heard, get and give support, I found a haven here of caring and understanding. It's not so anymore. Everywhere I turn, there is anger, arguments and discention. I don't find this in 3D!!

For quite a while I've asked myself "Why am I here? What AM I doing here????" "My friends" was the answer. It sufficed for a while. Not anymore. You see, there's other ways of staying in touch with these friends and not have to go through all the tension, anxiety, arguments that color my everyday life even when I'm away from here. I find myself pondering, worrying, getting hurt feelings, getting emotionally exhausted thinking about what I encounter in what used to be my haven.

I can't do it anymore! So... begging your pardon, I will withdraw from here for the time being.

What I haven't done before is state my intentions. I haven't done it because it's not "attention" I want or need. I'm just so disappointed and tired to the point that I felt I HAD to say something.

I crave LOVE, I crave KINDNESS, I crave UNDERSTANDING, I crave INGELLIGENT CONVERSATION, I crave AFFIRMATION, I crave BEING HEARD. I'm not finding these things here... so... I'm withdrawing for a while.

PC, Admin and Mods and ya'll will be in my thoughts and prayers. I'll be praying that a wave of peace, love, understanding and acceptance, and if not, then TOLERANCE flow through this place once again.

Over and out...

[drunksunflower]

What happened?

[SweetSunshine]

I am sorry this is happening Tomi I'll miss you oodles and kanoodles. Luv ya , take care of you .. and you know how to reach me should you need to talk. k?

hugz
Bethy

[Fuzzybear]

I understand your disappointment and frustration, and my heart breaks too for the tolerance, UNDERSTANDING and love that used to be here

Love always,
Fuzzy

(((((((((((((((((septembermorn))))))))))))))))

i will miss you. you are caring and giving and sorry you feel this way. i've only been here a few months and i've noticed a difference. may you find peace and i hope you will return

love jinnyann xoxoxoxo

[katheryn]

im sorry you are finding things here difficult, please do what makes you feel safe we will miss you
(((((((((((((SeptemberMorn)))))))))))))))))))

[pegasus]

Oh! No!

Big hug! (((((((( SeptemberMorn ))))))))))))

Take a break if you need but heck! We really need you here!

We need your WISDOM, KINDNESS, INTELLIGENCE, WISENESS and LOVE.

Have a rest, but please hurry back.

[InACorner]

(((((((((((((((((septembermorn))))))))))))

you are in my heart...take care

[therealme]

mum,
part of me will leave with you............ i am going to miss you , i understand what you are saying about things changing. i too have found this.... please know you can contact me any time......... i will pm you my email....
(((((((((((((((((mummy)))))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((((((((friend))))))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((((((((((tomi)))))))))))))))))))

[bebop]

I am sorry you are feeling this way. I know how it feels as I have been contemplating the same thing here. I wish you all the best. much love and peace my dear friend. see you soon.

((( Tomi )))

[sabby]

((((((((((((((Tomi))))))))))))

I will miss you and your wonderful sense of humor. Not to mention your support too!

Please, take good care of YOU! Know that I am here if you ever need me. Know that I will send you good wishes, strength and a huge ole HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!

Love & Kisses
Jean

[nothemama8]

take as long as you need , after last night I truely understand, waiting for you to come back
Love
Angie

[gardenergirl]

(((((Tomi)))))
Thinking of you...

gg

I am sorry you are feeling this way Tomi. I do too feel this way.

There is one thing you haven't said in this post that I do feel in here and I think you feel it too but you didn't mentionned it. So I'm going to say it. The worst thing for me here is finding myself stucked between 2 members. This puts a lot of pressure on my shoulders and I don't need that pressure. So not wanting to hurt one or the other I will chose to back off from the site enterelly. Nobody should do this to another member here. Nobody should put another member in the position of being in the middle. Respect should also be active behind the scene.

I hope you don't take this in a negative way Tomi. Really, I'm just trying to help you. I know often I do not have the right words to say what I mean.

Take good care of yourself.

[Christina86]

((((((((((((((Tomi)))))))))))))))

I'm feeling a little bit empty and lost coming here more often too.

Who's going to velcro me in place when you're gone?

Be good to yourself, come back when you're ready and stay in contact with me! Email's in profile.

[Fuzzybear]

I know you will make the best decision for you tomi, and I know you're more than able to see what's going on around you!

As you know, I only want the best for you!

And as you know, I'm thinking of leaving for exactly the same reasons as you are

Thanks for putting my thoughts into words, you're so much better at it than I am.....

Much love,
Fuzzy

[PetulantWolf]

imnot sure whats happening here but i want you to know i appreciate all your kind advice...i felt similarly a while back and left for a few months...when i came back recently the person who seemed to be everywhere and bothering me seems to have mellowed...sometimes a break helps.

but you can still change your mind...

[mortimer]

%#@&#!. >_>

Can we still talk to you through PM, or how about Email...

Do I even have your email?

>_<; <3

I love you in that politically correct, non-awkard way, and I hope you get feeling better.

Sigh.

[SeptemberMorn]

WOW! I never expected to get all these responses! For so long I've felt like no one even knew I was around. It's touching and heartwarming! The reason I'm responding is so ya'll know I haven't abandoned any of you. I just need to find some peace for myself. I still have to do what I need for my own peace of mind and sanity.

DSF: Can't/won't say what happened. It's all pretty much in my original post.

Bethy, you and I won't lose touch and you know that.

Fuzzwad, I know you know and understand because you've been going through the same thing.

JinnyAnn, what a delicious surprise! We've hardly ever posted to each other. I've gotta say, you're one beautiful woman!

Kathy, I will miss you, too, and will keep you and Dec in my prayers.

Pegasus (Oh, Great Winged One) what can I say? I'm going to miss you and your sense of humor and playfulness.

InACorner, another great surprise! I didn't know you knew who I am! LOL It's been a long time since I've been held in someone's heart!

Dec, my one and only cyber-son. Your "mummy" just slays me! Like I told Kathy, you and she will be in my prayers till I come back.

Be, you know how to get ahold of me. I'm just a call away.

TunerToones, you're one great friend. Gonna miss your blinky, shiny face.

Sabau I can feel that hug! We'll keep in touch, Sweety!

Angie passing the torch to you. Keep the Tough Old Broads together, ya hear?

gg, With all our differences, I so appreciate the respect that underlines all our communications!

Time0, I full well understand what you are talking about! Yes, some seem to need others to take their side in everything. I truly believe in "let it go. If it was yours in the first place, it will come back." You aren't responsible for other's feelings as long as you know you haven't set out to hurt them. HOLD YOUR BOUNDARIES, Time0.

Canders, Bebop is holding the velcro. LOL She's the one that brought it into chat, anyway.

Fuzzy, you're just as good as I am at expressing yourself. The only difference is that maybe "I have brass ones," like Sky said once. LOL

Just yet another great surprise! Don't think we've ever communicated directly up until now, have we?

Morti, you and I are stuck like glue! The glue stretches quite a bit, but somehow we always wind up getting back together.

AWW, Tuners I'll be back before you know it!

This is NOT easy! I wouldn't be taking a break if this was the way it was most of the time. I would encourage each and everyone of you to treat the rest of the members here the same way you've understood, heard and accepted this decision of mine. Charity begins at home... now go spread it around! Don't keep it to yourselves.

I love you all!! And in the words of the governor of my State... "I'll be bahck!"

[Gemstone]

((((( Tomi ))))))

[Fuzzybear]

Agreed purple petals

I have great respect for you Tomi and the graciousness with which you have handled this thread, and all the responses.

[pegasus]

(((((((((( SeptemberMorn )))))))))))) Just want you to know I'm thinking of you. Missing you already! Psych Central is not the same without ya. Take care.

[nothemama8]

Remember everyone she has said she would be bahck, and Tomi has NEVER said anything she didn't mean, she needs a break and we need to hang together til she gets back
Angie