[kreg]

I'd welcome any opinions here. I was reading up on the definition narcissist and it seems I have several of the signs but maybe not all. I'm approaching the end of my life I guess but I'm beginning to realize how badly I've been acting in some ways all my life. Socially that is. Way too talkative, always about my self and my interests. Always assuming that what I think to be true is true, must be true, but now realizing that is not always the case-much to my shock. It's like geez you mean I'm not actually right!? How can that be? Then there is the area of me somehow actually assuming sort of on the unconscious level (and I suspect it's some ego aggrandizement thing) that I have skills-for example piano and or guitar-and then I go about dropping suggestions, hints to make people think I have these skills when in fact I have very little of these skills. Some but nothing like what I imagine.

Then there is the area of how I have often pushed myself on the opposite sex conversationally, not physically thank God, and then been quite hurt when met with a flat response or complete rejection. I must be pretty good looking judging from how women at least until they get to know me show that initial interest. So now I want to hang a sign over my eyes that says HUMILITY keep other peoples feelings in mind first. That is if you want to avoid your own hurt feelings. One thing that has really seemed to help is the study of cognitive therapy, cognitive distortions, rational thinking stuff. I seem to be much less emotionally disturbed.

[PumpkinPieHead]

If you are a narcississt, it is mild. I'd like to hear from others who would be able to offer more insight. Some of these symptoms are also in ADD/ADHD.

I grew up with a severely narcisstic family, so I've seen much, much worse.

[kreg]

Originally Posted by PumpkinPieHead

If you are a narcississt, it is mild. I'd like to hear from others who would be able to offer more insight. Some of these symptoms are also in ADD/ADHD.

I grew up with a severely narcisstic family, so I've seen much, much worse.

Interesting could you give some examples? in a private message if you want. I could write a book on unfinished goals large and small but yeah that's a self fulling thing. I'm finally getting around to forming a jazz/rock band but I have to keep slapping myself in the face to realize I'm at the bottom of the heap skill wise. It's like a baby chicken who thinks it's a Condor and has to watch it doesn't make a fool of it'self.

[gayleggg]

It's never too late to learn from our mistakes. Learning humility is a great goal.

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[tearsinabottle]

kreg, I would agree with the others that if you have some narcissistic traits it is very mild.

There can be other reasons why you talk much about yourself. Early emotional injuries can cause this. It doesnt always need to be narcissistic disorder.

That you are aware of these traits in yourself is a good sign. A person who for sure is narcissistic does not internalize things or look inward, they dont reflect on their own behavior because they think nothing is wrong with their world view.

I have met narcissist and sociopaths and they are way way worse.