[black-roses]

I finally put the last pieces of the puzzle I am an aromantic asexual and it frustrates me because no one probably knows or has heard of aromantics but now as I think of it it has always made sense. Why I have never felt satisfied in relationship instead I felt suffocated and now why my dream of having a best friend roomie that does everything for me but isnt romantic may make sense to me but not romantic people. I discribed it as a soulmate that is a friend that I love but not in the sexual or traditional love sense and now I understand why that makes sense to me but not to romantic people. I am not a romantic I am AROMANTIC and it all makes sense now why I feel happy seeing couples kiss but I have always thought of romantic relationships as "too much for me" or I feel it is a waste of effort that leads nowhere. It all makes I am part of the small minority that has no desire for romantic relationships and it feels freeing because to be honest I am tired of random creeps that haven't met me say they love me because I was naked. You love the nakedness not me get it through your head why do those creeps always end up fooling themselves? I swear to god they end up believing that they love the person not the body so they can feel less guilty about being creeps anyway I am going to make a Youtube video for aromantics since I make a part of the population because I feel there isn't enough chat on it. See ya guys and stay safe

[-jimi-]

I'm a demiromantic to use a popular term. It means I basically do not have the type of bonding people do with the opposite or same sex to form a romantic union. It doesn't matter to me why I can't. I never missed it. I used as a young adult have this idea of a soulmate like a perfect friend. But I realized along the way there will be no one I can identify with and I am now OK with that. I have friendships and they run deep, and they are enough drama for me!

As far as romance goes, I have had fun going on some odd dates with crushes but I was always honest with them, that for me it is just a very temporary thing that never leads anywhere. My crushes are very short lived.

Also I fail to see the natural connection between romance and sexual feelings that other people see. I understand how people can have lust but I have no idea how that can be connected with romance. Myself I'm never lusting for anyone, that feels totally unnatural, like bestiality or something.

I think being aromantic and asexual can have different reasons. Sometimes people benefit from analyzing but sometimes not. For me I just accepted facts. I had a bit of a hard time when I was young understanding people were different. Actually, as a teen I thought people had families just out of tradition and force, I couldn't imagine people actually wanted that! I felt bad for them, LOL.