[Travis74]

Hi there,

Over the years I've developed a friendship with a married man to the point that we have become best buddies, we watch sports, drink together and generally hand out when we can, we both have children, we have both supported each other through difficult times like depression, anxiety, sleep issues etc all of which seem unrelated.

I've never confided in him that at times I have dabbled in male to male contact however I enjoy male to female contact and I love my wife dearly. What started however in the last few years was that one night we watched porn together, we would have obvious erections which I occasionally 'flashed about', he never did but didn't hide it so to speak through underwear. It has however escalated, we now watch porn and we both show each other our erections, we play with ourselves however when it comes to actual ejaculation one goes to the bathroom, we do not do that together.

He has told me that I've relaxed him into being more open and that this is not something he has done with anyone, we talk about sleeping with women in our youth, we share lots of stories, we are open and ok with nakedness around each other.

I'm now finding that when I'm not with him that I miss him and I think about him, I don't know what to do. I don't think he is bi at all, I think he is very heterosexual actually but I think I've fallen in love and our friendship is at a different level.

Can anyone shed some advice on what I am to do?

[eskielover]

Be responsible & don't mess up your family life with your kids. Kids need a stable family life as you can see just by reading posts of all the adults here who have been messed up by their parents....don't be one of those parents. Sometimes responsibility needs to be our priority over our own pleasures.

[Gettingitsoon]

This is a big thing to be dealing with and I give you credit for seeking advice on how to cope.
Seems like you care about your family and want help with this.
Do you have access to a professional?
I'd be looking for some real guidance to not derail my life but still address this issue which is obviously important to you.
Best wishes to you.

[Artchic528]

Originally Posted by Travis74

Hi there,

Over the years I've developed a friendship with a married man to the point that we have become best buddies, we watch sports, drink together and generally hand out when we can, we both have children, we have both supported each other through difficult times like depression, anxiety, sleep issues etc all of which seem unrelated.

I've never confided in him that at times I have dabbled in male to male contact however I enjoy male to female contact and I love my wife dearly. What started however in the last few years was that one night we watched porn together, we would have obvious erections which I occasionally 'flashed about', he never did but didn't hide it so to speak through underwear. It has however escalated, we now watch porn and we both show each other our erections, we play with ourselves however when it comes to actual ejaculation one goes to the bathroom, we do not do that together.

He has told me that I've relaxed him into being more open and that this is not something he has done with anyone, we talk about sleeping with women in our youth, we share lots of stories, we are open and ok with nakedness around each other.

I'm now finding that when I'm not with him that I miss him and I think about him, I don't know what to do. I don't think he is bi at all, I think he is very heterosexual actually but I think I've fallen in love and our friendship is at a different level.

Can anyone shed some advice on what I am to do?

Only you can know what the right course of action is. I would consider not leading a lie and going with the person whom your sexuality is permitting the closest bond to, but that's just me. Know that in being open with your male friend, you might ruin not one, but two marriages.

Originally Posted by Travis74

Hi there,

Over the years I've developed a friendship with a married man to the point that we have become best buddies, we watch sports, drink together and generally hand out when we can, we both have children, we have both supported each other through difficult times like depression, anxiety, sleep issues etc all of which seem unrelated.

I've never confided in him that at times I have dabbled in male to male contact however I enjoy male to female contact and I love my wife dearly. What started however in the last few years was that one night we watched porn together, we would have obvious erections which I occasionally 'flashed about', he never did but didn't hide it so to speak through underwear. It has however escalated, we now watch porn and we both show each other our erections, we play with ourselves however when it comes to actual ejaculation one goes to the bathroom, we do not do that together.

He has told me that I've relaxed him into being more open and that this is not something he has done with anyone, we talk about sleeping with women in our youth, we share lots of stories, we are open and ok with nakedness around each other.

I'm now finding that when I'm not with him that I miss him and I think about him, I don't know what to do. I don't think he is bi at all, I think he is very heterosexual actually but I think I've fallen in love and our friendship is at a different level.

Can anyone shed some advice on what I am to do?

Are you in your 50s? I ask because maybe it's a mid-life crisis. Your wife has probably stuck with you through ups and downs, good times and bad.

Think about that before you make any decisions.

[Travis74]

Thank you all for your input, I've been married for under 5 years and I'm only 35. I'm not sure what it is.