[Fuzzybear]

What qualities do you like and dislike in people?

Take care,
Fuzzy

[Peanut61]

I really like fuzziness, especially in bears and as names for cute puppies.

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT</font color=blue>

[bptoo]

Hmmm

I like people who aren't afraid to show love for others, someone who will help other people. Standing up for what you believe in is a good quality. I really believe in accountability. A sense of humor, even a bad one...

I don't like a person who will take advantage of another person's weaknesses.

I'll think of more...

(((((Bear)))))
Is that a bearhug?
Greg



"Beauty is truth, truth is beauty - that is all you know on earth, and all you need to know"

[LadyDragus]

i like honesty..
I do not like people who say one thing to your face then when they do not think you are listing say the totall opstite behind your back..

But most of all honstey, that is very impoarnant. because if you can not be honest, you can not be true to your self, and if you can not be true to yourslef then how can you be true to anyone else..


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take time to heal thyself before trying to help others, or you will never get better

[angel04]

they MUST have a sense of humour. I'm too serious so I need that "other side" Also, confidence in themselves and independence are very important to me. Basically, I look for everything that I'm not in others.

"hold me now, I'm six feet from the edge and I'm thinking......maybe six feet ain't so far down"

[dexter]

For "bonding:" Trust, sincerity, openness. Tells me what they are feeling and listens to me when I am down. As a depressed person, someone who anticipates my need for a visit or a hug is a big bonus, understanding that I may need a visit even when I say I don't want one.

For "friendship:" Humor, easygoing, and, this is most important, NO fear of political correctness or expressing my dark humor.

This was a big factor with Michelle, we were completely sympatico in this regard... NEVER had to stop and think before speaking, and we both prided ourselves on our evil sense of humor. Because of that, I NEVER laugh harder then when I am with her doing something just absolutely incredibly silly.

That is important to be because humor is my biggest coping mechanism. As an example, I live in New Jersey not far from Manhattan so Sept 11 really hit me strongly. I believe I was very fortunate to have two friends at work, in addition to Michelle, with whom I could vent about the event using humor. To anyone outside of this circle it would have sounded like the most callous, uncaring statements, disrespectful and inappropriate. But they were important things to get off my chest, and having a friend with whom I could balance the deep sadness and express it in the way it comes naturally to me... someone who would understand that and participate... I believe was key for me getting through that event.

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[Rapunzel]

I like people who are open and accepting of others, who are non-judgemental and not easily offended.

I have a problem with, as Sky puts it, "looters" who only want to take and don't give anything back.

<font color=orange>"Never forget: 2 + 2 = 5 for extremely large values of 2."</font color=orange>

[Beautiful_Pain]

I like: Honest, trustworthy, supportive, understanding, people with a good sense of humor.

I dislike: People who stereotype, are arguementative, controlling, closeminded, always have something bad/mean to say about everyone.

Hmm well, that's what I come up with off the top of my head anyway.



<font color=purple>Pain can indeed be a beautiful thing</font color=purple>

[LookingForMe]

Hi Fuzzybear

There are so many qualities to like in people that I would be hard pressed to name all of them. I guess the qualities that I admire are a sense of humour (as others have said). My brother has a great sense of humour. He's going to have brain surgery in a couple of weeks. He told me that when he's on the operating table and the surgical team is all around him, he's going to say (and the kicker is he will!)..."Relax, you guys, its not like this is brain surgery...um, er, okay..it is brain surgery...but, hey, its not rocket science!"

He's a funny, funny guy. I adore that in him.

I also admire people who have opinions..who will stand for what they believe in...but who can debate a subject tactfully and diplomatically without resorting to name-calling and other dirty tactics when a topic becomes heated. (not referring to anything that's happened here but what I've seen elsewhere offline and on).

All the things mentioned by other posters are things I would like in people as well and I usually can find many good qualities in most people I meet.

The few qualities that I really, really dislike are rudeness and racism/bigotry.






<font color=green>Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.</font color=green> --Alan Keightley

[dexter]

>>He told me that when he's on the operating table and the surgical team is all around him, he's going to say (and the kicker is he will!)..."Relax, you guys, its not like this is brain surgery...um, er, okay..it is brain surgery...but, hey, its not rocket science!"

I really like that. I think I would get along well with your brother. It doesn't work for everyone but humor in dark situations can really help deal with the stress for the patient as well as for the people around them.

Let your brother know we wish him the best of luck for his surgery. Have him ask the doctor if he will be able to play the violin after surgery. Best wishes for your family too.

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[lost_lonely]

Most importantly, the ability to speak with honesty. That's especially important to someone you're close to. If you say one thing, then I strongly believe you should mean it.
Trust, honesty, agreeability and being able to laugh all rate highly in my mind. Injecting humor into a conversation always works.
Definitly though, honesty and trust are the two best qualities. If you don't mean it, don't say it. If someone isn't honest with you, then you can't trust them, and that's the road to nowhere.

[LookingForMe]

Thanks dexter..I will let him know. Some of your posts make me think that you and he are probably alike in some ways - particularily in the humour department.

You are into computers, aren't you, as I recall? He is a computer programmer. A bright guy, my brother. *grin*

Thanks again for the good wishes.


<font color=green>Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.</font color=green> --Alan Keightley

[dexter]

Yep I'm into computers... only lightly into programming (my real programming experience is from before there were "PCs"... Pascal and Fortran programming on DEC Mainframes.

Hope all goes very well with the surgery, and let us know how it goes if you can (don't feel pressured if you or anyone thinks that would be an invasion of privacy.) Give him my regards...

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[LookingForMe]

Again..probably lots of similarities. My brother was into computers before anyone even thought of having them in their homes. A good 22 years ago. I thought he was crazy spending so much time to get a machine to do so little. LOL Then he was a sysop and ran a BBS on an Omega computer (I think that's what it was called - I'm not very up on this stuff) when only a few people were 'into' it. I remember playing a few text-based games and being amazed (and up until the wee hours playing , as I recall). As far as programming - he taught himself, mostly and learned the rest of what he knows in the military (mainframes, too - I saw them; huge things). He's out of the military now (though he still works closely with them) and works for a company in Ottawa.

<font color=green>Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.</font color=green> --Alan Keightley