[black-roses]

To be honest we all need help someone to talk to not to carry your problems but to help us but I feel like I have kept my mouth shut when I needed a hand. I felt like I never wanted them to carry my hurt my problems so I stayed silent I desperately wanted to tell them "you know what I can't do this I need you to help me help me find away out of this isolation this employability this dependence on my mother" but then I stopped myself because I wondered are they just another person for me to become dependent on fixing me, how much help can they give me to empower me where do the benefits stop? How do I know they well not just trigger another abandonment issue? I ask myself this and then I ask myself how can I help myself what why am I thinking that I could change. Could I become more involved with other fix my resume. Why am I always forgetting about my responsibilities? Am I unsure of being responsible if so how can I wrap my mind on the idea of being more responsible and independent?

[LovelyChantel]

I can relate a lot to what you are saying as I grew up with a very similar relationship and have been codependent before I can honestly remember. In fact I just wrote something today and I really think you could probably benefit from it. I wish I could tag you in a post somehow. Is it OK if I add you as a friend and we message each other? You have all of my support you are not alone.

[black-roses]

Originally Posted by LovelyChantel

I can relate a lot to what you are saying as I grew up with a very similar relationship and have been codependent before I can honestly remember. In fact I just wrote something today and I really think you could probably benefit from it. I wish I could tag you in a post somehow. Is it OK if I add you as a friend and we message each other? You have all of my support you are not alone.

Sure add me as a friend.

[Hopeofreedom]

Codependency is Tough! I've had it for years and I still struggle with it.

Have you read the book "co dependency No More!" I forgot her last name but it helped me ALLOT. 🙂. You are far alone with this issue.

[black-roses]

Originally Posted by Hopeofreedom

Codependency is Tough! I've had it for years and I still struggle with it.

Have you read the book "co dependency No More!" I forgot her last name but it helped me ALLOT. 🙂. You are far alone with this issue.

Yeah I have heard of that book

[LovelyChantel]

I have also heard of that book but have no read it. I came from an EXTREMELY codependent family and this am now myself very codependent and honestly very toxic at times. But I'm making it my mission to break the ties that bind and heal.

[Hopeofreedom]

Originally Posted by LovelyChantel

I have also heard of that book but have no read it. I came from an EXTREMELY codependent family and this am now myself very codependent and honestly very toxic at times. But I'm making it my mission to break the ties that bind and heal.

That's wonderful! All we can do is try to improve ourselves little by little😘💜👍