Sick of people saying they are leaving!

((((((((((((((( MomWad ))))))))))))))

i did not say that what you said triggers me.

what i said is that those "i'm leaving" threads that pop up every 15 minutes trigger me...........and others have said the same. it is throughout this entire thread. it's hard to miss.

i'm out of this thread. it is clear what it is about. i have nothing to add. thanks, pegasus for posting it. pat

Leaving

#585321 - 07/13/07 08:52 pm Edit Reply Quote


I am leaving for a while. I don't know how long. I am getting too much hurt in here. There is just so much I can take.

For the people who cares for me: Thank you!

Time0


For the people I have triggered: My sincere apology. Sorry.

I was not looking for attention. I was for the last time. I was upset. I AM SORRY.
End of story ppl. I tryed to a good thing. TO say someone was ok.
Was not a good thing.
I try very hard to do the right thing. ALways.
AM totally lost for words. Very sad you could not understand!
Sorry once again to all i hurt...................Will not happen again

I think it's wrong to say that everyone who posts having decided to leave is looking for attention... that's a blanket judgement that just isn't always true....
((((((((((((( muffy ))))))))))))

I think at times some folks are looking for attention and maybe they don't quite know how to ask for what they need. Some may be afraid to ask for help or attention, feeling they don't deserve such a thing.

I also believe that some folks act on their emotions first and think second. I know this to be true because I suffer from that myself. I have battled with this problem all my life. I have learned how to step back, feel the emotion, take the time and think about things before I post. I am NOT always successful at doing that, but I'm sure as heck a lot better at it now than I ever was before.

There was a time that I too said I was going to leave as I didn't feel I was making any connections with folks here. I was graced with some of the most beautiful posts from folks and pm's too letting me know that I would be missed and that folks cared about me. It opened my eyes to see that I had really made connections.

Now, when I am feeling out of sorts, I don't feel I have to say I'm leaving....if need be I will say that I need a break. It was a lesson learned for me and I believe that it is the same for many others here too.

We are all here to learn how to cope with our illnesses. Sometimes we learn in different ways from others. It's unfortunate that our learning styles might trigger others. I'm sure that's not what folks are meaning to do.

If these kinds of posts bother you, feel free not to read them or respond to them. It's ok to ignore those posts. But lets try to understand that we, as individuals may have different needs and learning processes than the next person.

Love to you all!

sabby

I don't think anyone could have stated the situation better than Sabau. Because of her all encompassing remarks, I am going to close this thread in the sincere hope that we all have learned more patience and tolerance for each other. Remember, all of us are here because we have a problem of some kind. Sometimes a member may be triggered, and we all know that we aren't our usual selves when triggered. That's when we need to lift that member up in the spirit of support in which PC is designed.

Also, once again, I want to remind each and every member that if someone triggers you, put that person on ignore. It's a function that is designed to help you help yourself.

<font color="blue"> The ignore button is our friend.</font>

Gentle hugs to everyone,

Jan