People in Doubts of Leaving Come Support!!!! NEW IDEA READ PLZ!

I'm not sure if this thread will get any attention but I do think it shouldl so its worth a try. I've noticed in the past month espcially, of my 3 month stay here at PC that alot of ppl are upset and leaving,...or wanting to leave. Even ME! This is in no way a bad thing we ALL struggle and sometimes feel its easier to run and hide...or just hide then staying. PC is a place for love,care, and oppurtunity to meet ppl just like yourself.

I've made this thread to try and put reasoning behind "wanting" to run so to speak. I'll be the first....we can work at this is a community to create a more supportive atmosphere then we already have...plz don't read this the wrong way and think I mean there isnt support because their is...PC is GREAT!

I myself sometimes feel like running because so many ppl here are nice,charming,even attrative...in personality of course...for any patient mentally Ill,physically, or both we find a "responsiblity" to give back to those who give to us, sometimies its so overwhelming we throw it in there faces...to try and ease the pain....what I mean is...despite the support,love, and happiness we bring others...we really aren't always happy...even if we give it...

So anyone having doubts plz post here...we'll talk support and reason with it...and make changes...

I hope this is a good idea...

((((((((((((((((Moonkin))))))))))))))))

I think this is a great idea! I think I understand what you are saying...let me see if I get it right ok?

When someone is feeling low, it's hard to accept from others the kind of help they are offering. It's hard to accept the positive when all you feel is the negative. So to push people away or to run away from the support is some folks ways of dealing with the uncomfortableness of positive support. Folks may then feel the need to reciprocate the positive support back to others that they have received and that's a difficult thing to do when they don't feel positive themselves.

The great thing about PC is that we can be what we are here without the pressure of needing to be supportive and positive to the next person if that's not where we are at the moment. I know for myself, I don't expect anyone to be supportive of my issues if they are not in a place where they can give support. The other wonderful thing about PC is that if you find yourself in a space where you can only give a hug to someone, that can mean more than words could ever say.

What I guess I'm trying to say in my long winded way is this .... We are what we are at any given time. In a community like PC, there are those who are in really tough spots and those who are in the middle and those who are in an easier place. We are all here learning and growing every single day. We are all struggling and succeeding in our goals to be in a better place. Some move more quickly than others, and that's ok. We are what we are

Hugsssss
J

wow dustin....you are one smart kid!!!!!!!! and jean .as usual you hit all the nails on the heads!..........having been at pc for quite a few years, i've pretty much seen it all here both the good and the bad but what always impresses me is that when things get a little rough....we muddle through it all and come out stronger......we are weathering a little bit of a hard time right now but we'll get through it!......we all have our own pain but no ones is any better or any worse than anyone elses.....just hold each others virtual hand and all the pain will ease a little.........

Very good. It's not a new idea though but one that is good to read about specifically from time to time. I think many people forgot or just plain don't realize that they act out their own abandonment issues right here at PC. If not that, that unable to express their need for attention (which is not necessarily bad) they become upset and want to leave the very place they come for that attention, and help.

I think it's up to us, who are not disordered in this fashion, to help those who are going through this along. PC is a great place to learn and relearn social skills of getting along in a group, albeit virtual one. It's a great place to realize that we all have needs and can have many of them met without taking anything from someone else. Self knowledge is great!

While it does wear on us oldtimers when the same ppl need to threaten to leave and be talked back into staying over and over.. eventually they work through it, and we are all stronger for the experience. It's all part of some ppl's process.

Thanks for your input everyone...thus far =).

Moonkin...you will never know how much your post means to me...

((((((((((((((( Moonkin )))))))))))))))))

"we all have our own pain but no ones is any better or any worse than anyone elses.... just hold each others virtual hand and all the pain will ease a little..."

Wise words Julia!!