[wittlebee]

Hey everyone,

I am having a rough time. I was worried about my safety and my husband's. I am going through all sorts of emotions right now. I want him to get help mentally and not go to jail. Supposly he will be in for 5 days for evaluation and treatment. Can I do any thing to have him committed for a longer time period for our safety and sense of mind? I feel guilty and also relieved. But what about when he gets out. Will he be a threat to me or himself?

[dexter]

Hi wittlebee

So sorry to hear you are having such a rough time but very glad to hear you are taking action to protect yourself and hopefully improve the situation. I hope it wasn't hard to get him in and that he works with it as well toward improvement.

I don't really have any idea on the legal/medical issues concerning keeping him in... but maybe there's an information hotline that could guide you, or the doctors at the hospital, or the police or something?

If worse comes to worst and he gets out and you are afraid for your safety you might want to contact a friend or women's shelter for options on a place to stay so that you feel safe and are safe. It couldn't hurt to find out now so that you can be prepared with all your choices whatever happens.

Good luck and keep us posted.

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[wittlebee]

Thank you Dexter

I just hope they can help him work through all his issues. Maybe once on meds he will be a more rational person.

[SeptemberMorn]

Dave, seems to me they won't let him out of the hospital if they feel he's still a danger to himself and/or others. When I was in, there were people that had been there for almost a month and they hadn't been as bad as Wittlebee's husband.

Wittle, maybe you need to talk to someone at the hospital about this. Maybe there's a next step if keeping him in that particular hospital isn't possible.

Sky is right. You need to make long-range plans. His recovery won't be quick and easy and you need to keep your kids and yourself safe.

Keep up posted, ok?




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

Please be sure to share all info with the hospital. I would submit it in writing so it is seen by ALL. It will go in his file.

In the hospital, there are nurses, psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, etc. Sometimes, not everyone gets to hear the same info. But if it's in his file, it's more likely that everyone will know about it.

Put down all verbal threats. Say that you fear for your safety and the safety of your children. You can say that you do not want him released to your home until he is stablized on meds and you feel safe.

They should take all that into consideration when they create his discharge plan. Well, they SHOULD. If they are good, and smart, and have their heads on straight. If they do not listen (boneheads work in all fields), and release him when you don't think he is ready, DEFINATELY get to a shelter until he has proven his stability is intact.

Take care. emmy


"Language is a Trojan horse by which the universe gets into the mind. ." -- Hugh Kenner

[wittlebee]

Thank you everyone

It really helps to talk to people. My husband is starting to realize that he needs more help than he realized. It seems that the meds have calmed him down alot, he doesn't get angry to the point of yelling. He said that he can't seem to get angry like he used to. I think that his doctor might have him put in a long-term facility.

I hope it is not an act, but he seems so much more rational in his thinking and frame of mind. I know it is a long and hard road for him ahead, but I am praying that he is really getting better day by day.

[SeptemberMorn]

Alright! I don't think he can keep putting up an act if that's what it is. And besides, those docs can see through it most of the time. There's a good chance he's feeling much calmer and realizing the hell he's been in and what he's put you through. Just keep up the positive thoughts and come back and talk to us anytime you want or need to.




<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[wittlebee]

Thanks Septembermorn

I will definely do that.

[SeptemberMorn]

<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[(JD)]

Good to hear a decision was made... as for him possibly making "an act" to get out... while it might not be connived, it might be false due to the fact that inside a hospital you are "protected" from the outside world and it's stressors. There are lots of other stressors, but you know, not the things that might trigger you to become hostile and act out...

hopefully since they he isn't just in for 72 hours, and they will need to create that plan of action... things will work for the best.

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