[Wants2Fly]

Most of the time, I live like a hermit. I don't mind it; in fact, I prefer my own company most of the time. Still, times when my outreach efforts (and it's always an effort ) bear fruit have a special sweetness.

It makes me feel like I'm living something that can almost be called a life.

Yesterday, I got TWO phone calls. TWO! I can go a week and not get two phone calls. And I got a very sweet and funny box of treasures from someone I met right here at PC.

And today, I got two more phone calls. Okay, one is from my mother, but I love her, and I like our weekly confabs. And a girlfriend called, and we made plans to get together on Tuesday, before my job starts in earnest.

Feeling pretty plucked up by now, I called a much-loved aunt and a much -oved spiritual mentor.

I know these things wouldn't have any particular importance or value any place but here, where others also struggle with isolation, low-self-esteem, introversion, and getting out into the world.

Thank you for reading.

<font color="#000088">I live kindof like a Hermit to. I live alone with my little doggy! My neighbors don't really talk to me. They're all caught up in their own little problems. Which I'm glad to stay out of! I don't get too many phone calls either, unless it's a reminder for an appt. I have or something like that! My main life is online, and the friends I have here and had met in the past online, and still keep in contact with them through e-mails! I was on a different website, but when I cancelled my account it put a virus on my laptop, and I ended up needing to get a new one. I guess that website doesn't like it when people leave! lol...But I still kept some good friends from there. So my life is an indoor, pretty boring, alone, and all my friends are online! But I do the best I can to fight the loneliness. And get out when I can to do my shopping, and bills and appt's. But I don't have any fun, and I really need that. But it's just not here. I need to go home. California, that's where my friends are, and all the fun is! But I'll still have my online friends, even if I make it home!
I just want to go home!I don't think I'll ever like my life, until I make it home! </font>

[Bethsway]

Hurray for you...!! Two phone calls that were special!! I am glad for you!

[ECHOES]

yeah I can relate very much wants2

I"m really happy for you that not only did these things happen but you were in an open, receptive mood for them so their meaningfulness could reach and touch you.

[tranquility]

I cant definitely relate! If I get two phone calls in a month that's something! A couple of weekends ago someone invited me to an outdoor concert, right before I left someone else called and said they had an extra ticket to a music concert. I thought to myself "that's the way it goes - I never, ever do anything and I got two invitations in one day".

I'm happy for you - it is a good boost!

Good for you!!!!!!! pat

[seeker1950]

Wants...I'm like that also!
I get maybe two or three phone calls in a week, and that's fine. Living solo like this, being somewhat of a hermit, has been my choice for three years now. I think this can be a good thing, rather than running willy-nilly to try to fill the void. Learning to be at peace with oneself.
Love
Patty

[eskielover]

Wants,

I know what you mean, only my life was more of a hermit when I was living with my husband in California that my life alone in Kentucky. I just started getting out because I had to & everyone in Kentucky talks......if you go to Wal-mart.....you will run into someone who wants to chat about something..& you can stand there & talk for an hour....gotta make sure you aren't in a hurry for anything in Kentucky, cause everyone is so outgoing.

I found that once I started having a life & breaking the rut I was in, even when I am now back in California, getting packed, the rut it still broken (for me at least).

sometimes when we start having a life, we get out of that rut & then we continue with that pattern. I know being a hermit was a comfortable feeling when I was in California before I went to Kentucky.....I felt safe letting no one into my life.

I hope you keep having a life....& that the good feeling just keeps feeding itself.

About the phone calling, I had an interesting situation the other day, that kind of struck home. I had run into the mother of girl who boarded her horse at the same ranch I previously boarded. She was at the ranch where I am currently boarding....(her friend is moving her horses to where I am boarding & she was checking it out) Anyway, I told her we should chat sometime....since I am in the process of moving to Kentucky. She told me how busy she is....so I assumed she wouldn't have time to chat....necessarily when I would call, so I suggested she call me since I don't have a set busy time in my life for anything. She told me that I should call her since she would make time when I called, but she probably wouldn't make time to call me......isn't that the truth in all of our lives????

It was nice that she was honest about her situation.....& I will give her a call when I get a few free minutes.....sometimes we just are too busy to stop & do the things we would like to.....but we will stop our lives & give ourselves a break when someone stops it for us.

Just another thought on having a life,
Debbie

[biiv]

exactly what echoes said i second it totally.