[destroyedlife]

Hello there,
I couldn't put this topic anywhere else so I put it here... In other. So, well, my story is quite complex. There are family issues (exactly, my father is serving life sentence), there are horrible political climate in my country (Croatia) and living is just pretty darn expensive. So, I was actively seeking resolution to my loneliness in first place and found it, far away, in Philippines. But now, my plans are more inclined to relocate there to my (future) wife. I seen lot of Americans with low pensions retire there to have luxury life. Okay, Croatia is many levels above Philippines, but still I won't have as much as American would have. But, by researching on the internet I would just have enough to support me and my wife. I exclude kids, I am sterile (not yet, I will undergo vasectomy). So, my family is supportive. Although it is move that changes life completely and my mother is just afraid and worried something may happen to me. I am reassuring her since I am in stable remission for more than 4 years now. Yeah, I have horrible sleep problems and some sexual sides... But I am free person. And I have my income in the form of money for my child support (I am my fathers child, right?). It's not as much as 1000$, but later in life I inherit both parents pensions so I will have 1000$. For now, more like 400$.

So I am asking this kind and great community... What would you say to this plan? There are conservatives among you, there are liberals... My family was always liberal and I do not have obstacle from any of my family members or friends. But, I want to hear from you people... What do you think?

Share your thoughts and please no "doomsday scenarios", I have really invested time in researching laws and possibilities. Life IS cheaper there. And I would also buy real estate there, so rent is excluded.

Thank you. Looking forward to your replies and to all of you, Happy and Healthy New 2017. year!

[Gojamadar]

Are you aware of the political climate in the Philipines at present?

[destroyedlife]

Yeah, I am. It's basically the same as in Croatia. Maybe bit worse. But I am not interested in politics anyway. What matters is that if we can live modestly together.

[venusss]

How do you plan to earn money in Philipines?

[Misssy2]

I think you are very brave to relocate.
I would have a very lucrative career if I would move....I don't want to leave my parents as they are older and when they pass away I think I would feel so much guilt that I wasn't around to help....that I just can't relocate.

I know logically, I could be the one to pass away first...I know logically that I should be taking care of MYSELF...and in reality they don't really pay much attention to ME anyway.

But, I can't DO IT.

SO...again, I think you are brave and if you are willing and able to do this for yourself and your wife and be guilt free than go for it!

money is a very powerful motivator...and when I get in arguments with my "mother"...I then think of actually relocating!

Your father in prison for life? WTH! So, you essentially have lost him

I don't know a thing about your country...I don't know if they put people in jail for good reason or not so good reasons. I'm curious about this and I'm also curious about how a person deals with having a loved one with a life sentence!

My son went to prison for 6 months for robbery (breaking into cars) and I was devestated and could not function...if he or anyone I knew was in prison for life...I would be a MORE broken individual...I again think you have much strength.

[destroyedlife]

@venusss I don't. Part of my fathers pension will go for my support. So transferred every month to there. Also, after, unfortunately, their death I inherit quite nice sum of money. Very rich for Philippines. But I still have by fathers decision half of his pension which is still nice good 420$

@Missy2 Dear Missy, I am so sad for your situation. Hugs to you I know, some people are very bonded to family, some are not. I am pretty much independent. If I need to go to mission to Mars and never return I would do it. I live by maxim: Live the life you will remember! Staying and looking as my parents fade away, (one already did, my father, unfortunately) isn't the life I will remember. I agree with you that I am quite brave. Father had political issues, that is the reason I hate my country and want to relocate, as they extradited him to Germany. That was Second World War stuff and communism and nazism ****. My father was communist and now in Croatia are, not nazis, but are hating communism which was former Yugoslavia (croatia part of it). But it doesn't matter.

I lost my grandmother also 2 years ago and here is only mom and brother. I encourage them to live their life and they support me to live my life the way I want. Even with F20.6 diagnosis. You know what's great? My father even now when he is doomed till death, supports me. Isn't that support everybody should have. I think this way, I spent 27 years closely with my family. I spent thousands and thousands of hours with my mom. Great hours. I jut think it's time to let go. To have my own life. I am sorry for your son, but he will get out at least. My father and my family with him is ruined. So, what is the negative in ruining it further? Well, ruining... Just, live and let live. My bro got job where he needs to work 3 months a year in Nigeria. So? He was in Vancouver too for 2 years. It's planet earth. Even if in year and a half is last time ever I will see my mother, I will hope that she will be happy that I am happy. And yeah, she supports me.

I think love is even greatest motivator

To all of you once again, be happy! New Year is here. New hopes, new plans and clean slate to start again! So have awesome time for NYE!

I did buy ticket for me, bro and mom for Armin Van Buuren, Dutch DJ most famous. So to celebrate it really in great way!

[destroyedlife]

For all of you I would like to share a song I really like. It is EDM music, but lyrics are top notch!

Take a listen