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I feel like I don't know who I am any more. I have to deal with a lack of feedback now, but even when I was surrounded by people, I didn't know if I was good or bad, nice or horrible.
Maybe I'm just a nasty person who others dislike? I have been told I'm nice, but maybe they are the ones being nice in saying that...maybe they're just generous people? Maybe, if I looked at myself from the outside, I would hate who I saw. |
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Hi sophiesmom
Well in my eyes you're 1001% not a nasty person!! ![]() I'd say that you're right sometimes words like good, bad, nice.......can be down to people's perceptions though so maybe look a little deeper into a lot more of your qualities to form a truer picture.......... Now the way I see it from your posts you'd have every right to say things about yourself like "I've been honest about/to myself", "I've been straight up", "I've said it as it was", "I've been true to myself", "I've tried to be supportive", "I've tried to reach out to others", "I've wanted the best for........", "I've said.........from a caring place", "I've done/said the best I can", "I've stood by my morals/principles", "I've not given in to others........"........... And you know what...........there will be plenty of circumstances where being able to say those things are so much better/so much more important than/so much more valuable than "being nice" in some people's eyes........... So maybe try to take pride in some of those qualities including times when you're "nice"...........perhaps some people might mis-percieve those things sometimes, but that doesn't necessarily have to over matter, they should see other good qualities in you anyway............and other people who really matter are going to like you for you regardless................ But basically, to finish, sophiesmom........ ![]() ![]() Alison |
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I fell you.
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I can't tell you who you are... but I can tell you that you're NOT a bad person and that you deserve to be loved
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I deeply appreciate your honesty, Alison. |
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I think I might need to keep quiet for a while.
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Hi sophiesmom
That sounds like someone everyone should want to know, and someone everyone should want in their lives, someone who's really genuine and "comes from a good place" when relating to people ![]() And while I'm sure you can be nice you're more than that too, so definitely take nice as a compliment and the bits you're not sure about too, hey? ![]() ![]() Again sophiesmom....... ![]() ![]() Alison |
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I myself find that "nice" is strikingly insufficient when considering the kindness and deep compassion that you consistently reveal in your posts here.... Quote:
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Being a good and genuine person will always make enemies, or at least people who are not fond of you. Only people who really go with the flow are liked by most, and even them are disliked by some.
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I can definitely relate to confusion over the nice labeling. And I get how even nice people can have people who from a distance don't interact. I've known of the perceived fakeness of being nice brings to behind the back chatter. Or how nice can be the quality not to be included in the side debaucherous activities that they would prefer to be left unknown or gosh knows whatelse. The fake point was directed towards myself eons ago, it's that too good to be true mentality. People shy away from niceness. They Just do.
Is this not knowing who you are anymore stemming from more than just a word? And I'm confused why what Alison wrote is a descriptor of not nice? I read it different. |
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Thank you to everyone for responding to me and I am deeply sorry if I offended anyone, either now or in the past.
I try to edit my thoughts and that does leave a rather blunt way of speaking....it can sound offensive which is NOT how I want to sound. I'm even messing this apology up ![]() |
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Hi sophiesmom
Well I'm certainly not offended and you certainly don't sound blunt to me, you sound honest ![]() So thanking you so much for your honesty on here ![]() Alison |
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