[Fuzzybear]

If my life is controlled by my critics, then whose life is it?

[pegasus]

Exactly right! You have choices, it's your life.

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[katheryn]

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[biiv]

i really agree with that fuzzy... when i remember to.
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[(JD)]

It's still your life. If you are allowing your critics to control what you think of the world, or how you act in the world, and that is making you unhappy, guess who has to change it? You (((fuzzybear))) Everyone has critics. I don't listen to mine. Those who have good advice will have my ear, though.

Is this something new, or something you've felt for a long time?

[LadyDragus]

My darling fuzzy.. You have always got choices.. Even our childern critize us in one form or another.. My child does it daily and helps me to remember what God put me here for...
Love to you and I hope things gett better with time

[Danialla]

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Yes Fuzzy, you are absolutely correct and I have to agree with Biiv, it is hard to remember sometimes.

Remember, we all have issues, so don't stress over the small stuff.....Another hard thing to remember and feel too for that matter!!!

Take care

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[eskielover]

Fuzzy,

I have found over the years that there are always critics of my life. Those who will not agree with what I do or what I think.

There are some people who I have found that is all they do is criticize. When I encounter those type of people, I tend to hold little value in their criticism since it seems to me that is what they thrive on & usually don't have any substancial basis for their criticism.

There are some people who actually do have valuable criticism that is based on logical facts. Those people criticize where it is appropriate & those are the people who I am willing to listen to.

That is where the control issue comes in. I am in control of what criticism I am willing to listen to & accept. The valuable criticism, I can use to better myself where I need to. The criticism that is just thrown out because it's what they like to do, I choose to discard.

Because of this, I am in control of my life & the criticism I find value to & that which I can throw away.

It is important for each of us to be in control of ourselves & accept the criticism that will be of value to our lives & throw away that which is hurtful. When we do this, then we are always in control of our critics instead of them being in control of us.

I hope you can find the strength to get the control you need of your life so you can stop others from being in control of you.

Take care of yourself,
Debbie

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very wise words from a woman who has learned through experience. thanks for that post Debbie. we admire your understanding of control and criticism and the way in which you present it here. thanks for sharing.

edited to add-- famous words of Eleanor Roosevelt "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"
words at times we've had to live by in order to get through the peanut galleries of life.

[SeptemberMorn]

Exactly!!! It's not the critics life, it's YOURS. I know exactly what you feel! Don't give your own power away, Sweetie!

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[LadyDragus]

I aggree with Debbie.. that is very powerful words..
I had never looked at critizism like that before