[Eleny]

I've had a tough few months, I broke up with my long term boyfriend and I've had a really hard time in a job I started a few months ago. I am still adjusting to not having my boyfriend, the main problem for me is the loneliness and emptiness I feel. In general I feel so unfulfilled.

I decided I'd had enough of feeling this way and booked myself a one way flight to Australia. I am excited and in my head this is the fresh start I so need but I'm also worried that by doing it, maybe I'm just running away from my problems. I can't decide if this fresh start is a good thing or a bad thing. On paper it sounds good but what if I get there and just get sucked into the drinking culture, what if it's like a big holiday and it forces me not to face the emptiness that's always there?

I just wondered what people on here think, could this be what I need or could it be bad for me?

[Open Eyes]

Nothing ventured nothing gained. Try to see this as possibly being a positive change for you, at any rate all choices end up where we learn something, that's what life is, one learning experience after another.

[Sunflower123]

I agree with Open Eyes. Go for it. It might make a refreshing change for you and open new pathways to travel. Sending big hugs

[Eleny]

Thanks for the advice

[Fuzzybear]

[Agent Misty]

There is no such thing as a "drinking culture" in my own reality to even get sucked into, because I don't drink often. If you have a drinking issues, the "drinking culture" may be an issue and you needs some attention. Other than that, you should think about what your goals are. If you have no goals there, you may well just end up drinking there.

Good luck!

[eskielover]

Getting caught up in the " drinking culture" IS A CHOICE you would have to consciously make & seek out.

If its a problem you have now & CHOSE TO TAKE IT WITH YOU then you will be no better off there then you arenwherenyou are. You have to CONSCIOUSLY chose to leave behind everything that has harmed you where you are .....that would be external & internal things & decide to make EVERYTHING a fresh start.

I actually did 10 years when I left my bad marriage. Picked up, bought a little farm 2100 miles away across the US where ibdidntbknow anyone. I had my choice of the kinds of people I wanted to surround myself with & The activities I got involved with. I had just gone through a trauma when my mom was dying of cancer involving the home care person's abuse....I was dealing with PTSD & recovering from anorexia....but chose to take a positive path & found wonderful supportive friends who are the best family I have ever had......

Your choices will make this move positive or negative. If you bring your internal past issues that you can chose to change then you will have problems. Ifnyounletbgo & truly start over fresh you will be successful.

I had discussed that with my new T here & wondered why my move was so wonderful ratherbthanbhaving brought all my past baggage with me. She said it works for those who truly chose to start a fresh new life & learn how to correct & not make in the future the same mistakes as in the past. It is the way we chose to approach it.

Originally Posted by Eleny

I've had a tough few months, I broke up with my long term boyfriend and I've had a really hard time in a job I started a few months ago. I am still adjusting to not having my boyfriend, the main problem for me is the loneliness and emptiness I feel. In general I feel so unfulfilled.

I decided I'd had enough of feeling this way and booked myself a one way flight to Australia. I am excited and in my head this is the fresh start I so need but I'm also worried that by doing it, maybe I'm just running away from my problems. I can't decide if this fresh start is a good thing or a bad thing. On paper it sounds good but what if I get there and just get sucked into the drinking culture, what if it's like a big holiday and it forces me not to face the emptiness that's always there?

I just wondered what people on here think, could this be what I need or could it be bad for me?

If you can considerably afford the money and time for the flight, I don't see a reason not to go for it. Just make sure you won't turn alcoholic and you'll have a blast

[Bill3]

In considering this opportunity, in my opinion it would be good to remember that wherever you go, there you are. So my advice is to take some time to write down 1.strengths you have and how you will use them in Australia, and also 2. what is holding you back here and how you will avoid those same problems in Australia.

I would bring this list with you and consult it often, if not daily, for a while so as to start yourself on a good course when you are there.

Good luck and keep us posted!