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Old Jan 16, 2018, 08:24 AM
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After asking Admin to shut down a very triggering thread that I started, I feel far worse and don't know what to do.

I have relied on this forum for a lot of support and have given a lot of support, but I am so triggered that I feel like leaving PC altogether or maybe to just stop posting about any of my problems.

Some feedback is very helpful and gives me good food for thought while other feedback, I feel like I have to defend myself or someone else, I feel attacked and criticized and picked apart, and it's not helpful at all. I can take constructive feedback, but not outright criticisms, attacks, accusations, badgering and being picked apart or put down and made to feel far worse.

I feel like leaving PC. This place is very triggering and today, it's making my mental health far worse. I'm now drinking wine in the afternoon as a result - something I never do.
If you really believe that this is something that would be best for you then, maybe it's a good idea or maybe you just need a break to calm down and to get ahold of yourself. I've been there. I was going to leave recently for similar reasons then, was encouraged to stay by my friends then, made a fool of myself by posting a thread that embarrassed me but, at the same time opened my eyes to things that I needed to learn but, still left me hurt enough that I considered leaving again and even wiped out my profile but, have had time to think on that too and talk with friends about it and have decided that I have had enough of running away from forums everytime things don't go right for me. If you check my profile you'll see that this time around I've decided not to show my diagnosis data because of people doing me the same way. People on all and any forums can be cruel and narrow-minded.
Don't let them win. Forget about what they say. They are not your doctor or therapist. Even if they are in medicine they are someone elses' doctor/therapist and have no right to diagnose you.
If you think that taking time off will help you then give it a try but, don't give up. I'm sure you saw my thread that I had deleted. The thread titled "A "What if" Person?" I wanted to give up too but, I've decided to stick around. You can do that too.
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Old Jan 16, 2018, 09:50 AM
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If you really believe that this is something that would be best for you then, maybe it's a good idea or maybe you just need a break to calm down and to get ahold of yourself. I've been there. I was going to leave recently for similar reasons then, was encouraged to stay by my friends then, made a fool of myself by posting a thread that embarrassed me but, at the same time opened my eyes to things that I needed to learn but, still left me hurt enough that I considered leaving again and even wiped out my profile but, have had time to think on that too and talk with friends about it and have decided that I have had enough of running away from forums everytime things don't go right for me. If you check my profile you'll see that this time around I've decided not to show my diagnosis data because of people doing me the same way. People on all and any forums can be cruel and narrow-minded.
Don't let them win. Forget about what they say. They are not your doctor or therapist. Even if they are in medicine they are someone elses' doctor/therapist and have no right to diagnose you.
If you think that taking time off will help you then give it a try but, don't give up. I'm sure you saw my thread that I had deleted. The thread titled "A "What if" Person?" I wanted to give up too but, I've decided to stick around. You can do that too.
TY for your post. I am just so now afraid of judgements, criticism and ridicule. I don't feel safe to post anymore.

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Old Jan 16, 2018, 10:28 AM
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Me too to all replies.

One thing I think I am learning is that what other people do and say triggers me if and only if I need them to be something that they aren't -- namely, a wise parent. When I realize that they aren't, and when I no longer need them to be, then I can much more calmly analyze them -- and me. That can be quite rewarding.

Good post! Thanks for this perspective

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As others have said, there is sometimes baggage and other “stuff” here which

can trigger. It’s happened to most of us. Sometimes it really sucks

But I’ve found that the good outweighs the bad here
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Old Jan 16, 2018, 10:49 AM
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It is very exposing, sometimes, being as honest as people are on here. And feeling misunderstood is awful.

I'm really sorry you're suffering today.



I’m sorry you’re suffering golden eve
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Old Jan 16, 2018, 10:59 AM
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Old Jan 17, 2018, 06:48 PM
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EFF judgements and ridicule. ( Which I don't think were meant that way.) Be strong in your thoughts and convictions.
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Old Jan 17, 2018, 06:50 PM
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EFF judgements and ridicule. ( Which I don't think were meant that way.) Be strong in your thoughts and convictions.
Very wise advice - TY.
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Old Jan 17, 2018, 07:30 PM
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Old Jan 17, 2018, 07:40 PM
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Maybe time to just have a break from posting here?
Yeah, I think maybe just in certain forums. I have received a lot of great support here otherwise, for which I am truly grateful.
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Old Jan 17, 2018, 08:24 PM
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every forum will inevitably show some trolling behavior. Even people who are normally helpful can slip inadvertently into this role and start to enjoy getting a rise out of other people. The previous advise of take what you need or want and leave the rest is the best recourse. Taking breaks from a particular topic, thread, subforum or the whole forum is sometimes the best answer.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 07:28 AM
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every forum will inevitably show some trolling behavior. Even people who are normally helpful can slip inadvertently into this role and start to enjoy getting a rise out of other people. The previous advise of take what you need or want and leave the rest is the best recourse. Taking breaks from a particular topic, thread, subforum or the whole forum is sometimes the best answer.
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Old Jan 28, 2018, 07:25 PM
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I think I just don't belong here. I feel like I get smacked down a lot. Not feeling great.
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Old Jan 28, 2018, 07:33 PM
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Sometimes I take breaks from here too. I’m sorry you sometimes feel badly here. I do appreciate that feeling. Sometimes I post things that are against the entire thread & then an eruption takes place. Then I feel hurt.

But let me offer you this. I feel that there r people out there that might read over something that in some way may be very helpful for them at that particular point, on this planet. One quiet person, reading something that you may have posted, that won’t respond or join, but...well your words helped that one human being.

So it’s ok to take breaks & get perspective. Breathe.
I hope things get better.....
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Old Jan 28, 2018, 07:40 PM
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Sometimes I take breaks from here too. I’m sorry you sometimes feel badly here. I do appreciate that feeling. Sometimes I post things that are against the entire thread & then an eruption takes place. Then I feel hurt.

But let me offer you this. I feel that there r people out there that might read over something that in some way may be very helpful for them at that particular point, on this planet. One quiet person, reading something that you may have posted, that won’t respond or join, but...well your words helped that one human being.

So it’s ok to take breaks & get perspective. Breathe.
I hope things get better.....
Ty! you're right. Maybe a post has helped a more silent person. Still, I feel this way and need to step back once again.
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Old Jan 28, 2018, 09:54 PM
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I think I just don't belong here. I feel like I get smacked down a lot. Not feeling great.
You belong here. Hugs.
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Old Jan 28, 2018, 10:16 PM
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Hi golden_eve, I've had to take breaks from PC at times. In fact, I don't "hang out" here nearly as much as I used to because I don't always find this forum healthy for me. So yes...you might just need some time away, or less time on PC.

That said, I will be very honest with you. From what I've seen you are very supportive on PC. I also see that you receive a good deal of supportive caring. Then too, I've noticed that sometimes you take something someone posts to you as critical or judgmental when I don't think it was meant that way at all. Could it be that you sometimes take things too hard, too personally? Just a thought I want to share with you...hoping to help.
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 08:12 AM
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Hi golden_eve, I've had to take breaks from PC at times. In fact, I don't "hang out" here nearly as much as I used to because I don't always find this forum healthy for me. So yes...you might just need some time away, or less time on PC.

That said, I will be very honest with you. From what I've seen you are very supportive on PC. I also see that you receive a good deal of supportive caring. Then too, I've noticed that sometimes you take something someone posts to you as critical or judgmental when I don't think it was meant that way at all. Could it be that you sometimes take things too hard, too personally? Just a thought I want to share with you...hoping to help.
Hi Laurie, thanks and yes I can take things too personally....... I am very sensitive, probably too much so!
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 12:06 PM
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Hi Laurie, thanks and yes I can take things too personally....... I am very sensitive, probably too much so!
I understand. Being extremely sensitive is something I've spent my life working with. And that work is hard! There's something about being very sensitive that is a tremendous gift, and something about it that can destroy us. The work, I think, is exploring those differences.
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 12:09 PM
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I understand. Being extremely sensitive is something I've spent my life working with. And that work is hard! There's something about being very sensitive that is a tremendous gift, and something about it that can destroy us. The work, I think, is exploring those differences.
Yes, I feel it is both a blessing and a curse! I have spent my life working with this too, but with little progress! It is hard...
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 12:41 PM
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 12:48 PM
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I think I just don't belong here. I feel like I get smacked down a lot. Not feeling great.
Eve, I always find reading what you write to be very worthwhile and I look forward to your posts. That said, I don’t create threads here or talk too much about myself for reasons similar to yours and what other people in this thread have mentioned.
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 12:51 PM
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Please take a break if you need it. We're not going away anytime soon
Thanks, Mickey...
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 12:52 PM
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Eve, I always find reading what you write to be very worthwhile and I look forward to your posts. That said, I don’t create threads here or talk too much about myself for reasons similar to yours and what other people in this thread have mentioned.
TY that is very nice of you to say. I am glad you've gotten something out of my posts. Yes, creating threads does expose oneself and makes one more vulnerable I think.... it's not always easy to do.
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Old Jan 29, 2018, 07:02 PM
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Yes, I feel it is both a blessing and a curse! I have spent my life working with this too, but with little progress! It is hard...
It's very hard. And it was MUCH more difficult when I was younger. I'm 55 and now...meh...it's not as hard.
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Old Jan 30, 2018, 06:46 AM
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It's very hard. And it was MUCH more difficult when I was younger. I'm 55 and now...meh...it's not as hard.
I'm 47 and it's still hard for me. I need to work on this... among so many other things!!!
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