[bourbon]

Hello,

I would like to ask about my disinclination problem and some others; but I would like to give some specific information about my background so that it may help you to understand better.

I have been having psychotherapy for nearly two years and I started with my worst problems which are related to lack of self-confidence and anti-sociality. My first psychotherapist diagnosed me with having something like "social phobia"; but, honestly, I don't know the exact name of it. If it is needed to be specific, I was not able to communicate with people properly. I mean, I couldn't make eye contact, I was getting panicked during the conversation because I was afraid of telling something wrong such as things that may be misunderstood in a way that things I told may hurt someone or in a way that things I told may not reflect my thoughts correctly. I was also not able to stand for my own rights since I was afraid of being harmed by people. In addition to these two, I was thinking what people think about me excessively and my assumptions were totally blocking me in a way that if people think that I am not able to do something, I think that I am not succesful or talented enough to do it, even if I know that I am or in a way that, for example, if others think that I am a liar, I think I am a liar even if I know that I am not. Happily, I have overcome the most parts of them; so I am generally able to communicate with others properly, I can mostly stand and fight for my own rights if I think it is needed and generally, I can ignore all these assumptions which are about what people think or going to think about me. Of course, there are still times that I feel weak; but, this happens to everyone; so, that's tolerable.

I also have been on medication. I have used Citol 20mg for a month and Citol 40mg for nearly eight months in case you need to know. Currently, I am not using a medicine regulary; but my psychotherapist gave me Atranax in case I need to use due to my sleeping problems.

However, I still have some problems which makes me a little bit nervous and I would like to explain them clause-by-clause:

- I have a disinclination problem. Actually, there is a term called as "anhedonia" but I am not sure about using it since I don't know if it fits in my case. Like every other people, I also have dreams and goals in my life; however, even if I want something to be done or want to have something too much such as becoming a good electric guitar player, I don't want to make an effort. I am currently studying at a university, knowing that these years are the most important ones for my future life, I don't want to study formy exams and consequently, I get low grades. Honestly, I would like to study at a different department such as computer engineering; but I also love my current department which is mechanical engineering. Briefly, this problem will lead to that I am going to be a useless person and have economical and other problems in my future.

- I am addicted to the Internet, especially YouTube. I cannot balance having fun and my daily routines. I also really love playing video games but when I install them on my PC, I cannot help myself with playing them for long hours; so I don't have any games on my computer right now. However, I really would like to have some and play them while keeping the balance between entertainment and my daily activities.

- I have sleeping problems. I am currently staying in a dormitory with two roommates and I generally sleep late at night like 02.00 AM. My roommates also sleep late at night and even if I try to sleep early, I cannot since my roommates make noises despite I have warned them several times before. Actually, I am not able to sleep early even when I am at my family's home, not because of the noise, just because I don't have a regular sleeping period and sometimes I think about my past or things that I regret etc.

- I am really dilatory and I procrastinate too much. Actually these two can be considered to be related to the first clause. I have read about them too much and I am aware of the consequences; but it doesn't fear me too much.

I am asking for help for all these problems.

Thanks for reading.😊

[Skeezyks]

Hello bourbon: Thanks for sharing your concerns. I'm not sure of what help I can be with regard to your concerns, although quite a few of them sound very familiar to me. They're things I struggled with a lot in my younger years too.

You mentioned you've been in therapy for 2 years & it sounds as though you are still going. So, assuming that's the case, you're really doing what you need to be doing to address the remaining concerns you have. Perhaps it's simply a matter of continuing on. However, here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that touch on some of the concerns you mentioned. Perhaps some of the information in them can be of some assistance:

https://psychcentral.com/lib/learn-a...ocrastination/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/getting...ocrastination/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/category/procrastination/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...rocrastinator/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/14-stra...eeping-better/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/the-fir...ise-you/?all=1

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-tips...with-insomnia/

https://psychcentral.com/netaddiction/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-pra...handle-stress/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/15-smal...iety-symptoms/

My best wishes to you...

[BudFox]

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