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Nov 16, 2007, 02:46 PM
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this has been a hard couple of days wow what do you expect this to happen once let alone twice, we got through the last time by putting it away i ended up on anti depresants this was back in 2003 i was working as the aligations were not found to have anything in it
they made arrangements step daughter wasnt alone with dec this had carried on while i worked and up untill we worked but we still kept up the routine of her not being alone, now i got to tell you about daughter she has learning dificulties and behavioural problems i know this doesnt excuse her aligations now this brings what is going on back to now at the moment daughter is in a hostel but i cant seemto see that she will be able to return home this would not be fair to other members of the family we got to consider everyone dec doesnt feel like he could live here with her , he says he wont make me choose does this mean i bad parent not wanting my own daughter around me i sat on her bed earlier and thought about all her stuff and what she may want looking at everything brings a lump to my throat but i know she will be ok as the social services will do everything to make happy now my only question is why what have ii done wrong to deserve this
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Nov 16, 2007, 03:05 PM
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(((katheryn))) oft times it has nothing to do with being "right" or "wrong" but being in a system with some quirks about checks and balances?
Keep on doing what you know to be good, and correct. 
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Nov 16, 2007, 03:51 PM
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(((((((((((( katheryn )))))))))))))
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Nov 16, 2007, 04:02 PM
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No, you are not a bad parent; your daughter has to learn the consequences of her actions just like we all do, despite her own problems. If she cannot, then she cannot live with others whom she is likely to hurt! This is not your fault or something you could have kept from happening.
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Nov 16, 2007, 04:21 PM
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(((Katheryn)))))
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Nov 16, 2007, 04:25 PM
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((((((kathy)))))))))))
you are a good mom. this is not your fault and you most certainly do not deserve it none of you do Your daughter it sounds like has some issues that need to be addressed. Will say a prayer for all |
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Nov 16, 2007, 04:27 PM
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In answer to your question, you haven't done anything wrong. Bad things sometimes happen to good people
 Keep on being the best you that you can be and things will get better
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Nov 16, 2007, 05:53 PM
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Don't blame yourself for what has happened. It is not your fault.
I know it's hurting pretty bad but you can get through this. If you need to talk we're here 
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 kebs
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Nov 17, 2007, 03:29 PM
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today has been better ty for all the support here
i have to come to terms now with what is going to happen now TRM said he wouldnt make me choose between him and daughter, the aligations were which were made were about wed night and i was home all night and because of the way daughter is they were never left alone, i knew eventually daughter would go and live else where coz of her needs she can be hard work but i didnt expect it this way, i am sad because they were getting on well, now everything is changing xmas is comming and thats not going to be nice time
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No kind action ever stops with itself. One kind action leads to another. Good example is followed. A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions, and the roots spring up and make new trees. The greatest work that kindness does to others is that it makes them kind themselves.
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Nov 17, 2007, 03:36 PM
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((((((kathy)))))))))))
I know things seem bleak now, but it will all work out will say a pray for everyone
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Nov 17, 2007, 07:27 PM
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((((Kathy)))))
I'm think of you and praying for you too. Being a parent is the most difficult thing I have ever done. We're not perfect. We can only do the best we can. And, I know you are. Take care, Okie
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Nov 17, 2007, 11:22 PM
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Kathryn, dear,
I'm so sorry you are going thru this. As Okie said, " We can only do the best we can." I am thinking of you. Love Patty |
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Nov 17, 2007, 11:33 PM
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parenting at anytime is challenging
being the parent of a teenager try to find their place in the world is difficult being a parent of a teen with other mental, physical or emotion issues next to impossible at times. at some point the parent and child each must find their own way. we dream of this event as being a time of happiness and celebration. in reality things don't always go as planned. all this sage advice from a frog of little brain and we both know what free advice is worth. hang tough my hummingbird friend, you will get through this.
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Nov 18, 2007, 01:33 AM
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((((((((((((((( Kathryn & Family )))))))))))))))
We have no control over our children's disabilities. All we can do as parents is to do the best we can. I'm sure you have done just that. Everyone here has said exactly what needed to be said....and I agree with everyone. You will survive this, Dec will survive this and so will your kids. I know the holidays will be difficult, but there is still much to be thankful for and much love to go around. xoxoxox sabby |
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Nov 21, 2007, 01:19 PM
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just been on the phone with daughters social worker, only coz i rang the hostel and she wa on the other phone so they asked her to phone me,
she needs some bits but im to take them to social services not to the hostel, she asked after me, but at same time she dint want us to know what she said last week we are looking to the future with her care now they said they could do tempoary control of her money
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