Rethinking

This is more of a vent post... hope it's in the right place.

All my life I've had a mindset on how I should live, and I've never really questioned it. I've always felt that I got into my problems on my own, so I should get out of them on my own. I also felt that because my problems were my fault, I should deal with the consequences. If I broke a bone, I wouldn't get a cast: that would be cheating myself by getting out of the consequence of my action. If I got sick, I wouldn't let myself take meds.

I never questioned this way of living until now... people tell me I'm too hard on myself, and that making myself suffer isn't a way to live. I thought it was noble to always deal with my problems on my own, to tackle everything without help.

For the first time in my life, I see why people tell me that I need to rethink things. Maybe everything isn't my fault and I don't need to solve everything alone. But it's hard to change, I'm not used to getting help. I'm not used to not suffering.

But I'm a dad now, I have a family, and now I see how my suffering can make others suffer too. I don't want to be a bad father.

So I decided to take a step in trying to change by getting surgery on my broken hand, so I'll be able to move it again, and I'm seeing a pdoc now. It's scary, but I hope it'll make me a better person, and in turn, a better father.

TY Psych Central for letting me vent, and all the great people on here who have to endure it.

I am happy for you that you have made the choice to get the surgery. I am also happy that you realize that you do not need to suffer needlessly, and that when you are sufferring that you do not suffer alone.

Linda

Well Wood ,,,, I have only been around for your fist meets/greets mirror ,,, And foot run amuck into something . But I would like to be serious..If I may.?

. But before I go there I understand the sports injury things as you know . You Hockey,,Beat you up sport for sure. Me Moto-X .. Wear you out also after ooppppppppsss 's .

.First off ,, You Cool and young ... Advantage Wood . ( Sports Lingo LOL ). So your future is majorly ahead of you ..

.Second Friend YOU have a family for REAL. [ Pats Dude on back ].

.Third ,,,, Fix the hand Man.....Your Young it will heal best now than later.

.Fourth ( and second to last as far as how high I can actually count lol )... Wood ,,, You do not have to spill your guts at first T Doc or P Doc intros.
.The Docs you will see for hand will ask how did this happen?>>>>>>Let them know it was a world of pressure thing and Would they mind helping you to have a more balance land all the time. Answer their questions as best you can as far as symptoms. Not actions. You are going through a Life Changing world thing. .>> Life does that and we really only have so many coping skills that we have learned,,,,, mainly through experience.
.You have what you have learned upto this point in time ,,, and...................Alot more time to continue to learn and grow Friend ....( whispers ) >>>>> really. You have time and a long way to go and to be .
.And those children will .. look at you and know Trust Him and in time will also learn DAD.

.Fifth and last.... That word Dad will be said bunches as they grow up and have questions. That's You. The Man with the answers. .P E A C E Wood.

I am so proud of you.. tSince the last time we talked, You've made some healthy decisions.. You are making smart and positive progress that will improve your life and everyone around you.

to do this for your children is a grand and noble thing Ledgewood.. best of all....

Ledge, we all need help at one time or another
I am proud of you, doing it for your child and yourself is the best
Remember nothing is never all one persons fault
ANd it takes alot of strenght to ask for help

first of all..HAPPY BIRTHDAY!.......and congratulations on taking such a big step in your life.......babies somehow make us think of life in a different way.....i'm proud of you!

o its your birthday? happy birthday

and you should always seek help from others, its perfectly human to do so, im glad you see that a little bit now

Im so happy you have decided to go through with it, maybe or little conversations helped i dont know,

you realy shouldnt feel like you should be so hard on yourself, ur a good guy and imn sure your gona be a great dad!

kazii xxxxxx