Any advice on adult son?

Just an update, waiting on return email from son's former LD teacher, thanks again for all of the help!

If he was really interested in video stuff, how about part time at some time of video or game place. I have known people who are very comfortable on the computer or competing in video games rather then interacting with people. But a video or game place may be both for him. I understand the comfort of staying home, especially with such a great mom. And I know you are and I know you love him very much. But as you pointed out he does need to get some kind of life going for himself. He will not get farther then he is right now unless he does.
I hope you find a solution that will make him feel comfortable!

Curley,

I think that would be really awesome for him, the only problem is that those stores are all in Green Bay which is a good 45 minutes away. He does not drive, so I would be bringing him there and picking him up. With the price of gas, it would cost more to bring him back and forth to work then he'd earn. I wish that there was someplace like that closer.

Hey everyone, just an update. My son's former LD teacher replied to my email. It took her a while and I was getting a bit worried, but I should have known better. She really is awesome.

She said that she is going to contact a job coach on his behalf through CESA. I have no idea who that is. It is very comforting to have someone informed working on his behalf. She knows his exact disabilities and capabilities.

Wonderful News !!!

One item that a life coach should help with is getting a drivers license. being able to drive will enrich your son's life and offer a wider range of employment options.

Usually, students on I.E.P.'s are evaluated for needing transitional services as they leave high school. Some kids need assistance to continue on to college - you don't have an IEP in college but there are opportunities for getting assistance such as getting a note taker (dyslexia).

Sounds like you are on a good path for helping your son. All the best to you.

Thanks for the words of support Peanuts. I'm very anxious to hear from his teacher again.

I was talking on the phone with my daughter, and she confessed that last year this wonderful teacher asked her constantly how my son was doing. When she finally confessed that he wasn't doing anything right now, the dear teacher responded "I was afraid of that, please let him know that when he's ready to take the next step I'm here."

There really are some wonderful teachers out there!

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there are a lot of wonderful teachers out there, just not enough, so glad you have found one !!!!!!

Hang on in there babe, it sounds like progress, don't worry if it's slow.

Thanks (((((Zorah))))) your advice came at the perfect time. I just have to remind myself that his teacher is using her valuable time to help a person that is no longer her student and try very hard to be patient.

AAAAA, if he goes to community college or any i think, they have an office for ppl with disabilites...it gives extra time for testing...to taking them to their offices and reading the questions, to giving taperecorders, to just about anything that is needed. They can provide as much or as little support that is tested and found needing!!!! It is an awesome place...they helped me with not having to show up to every class when i was in pain and i learned so much...they are patient and hardworking at the local college here...may be the colleges near you have that...they will know extra resources out there too...sorry, maybe i am repeating what has already been said...~mel

Mel,

That is very good advice, and I hope that in the future that it is something that he's willing to explore. Right now I really want him to find at least a part-time job. He really needs to build up some self-esteem and confidence. Hopefully the job coach will find train him and find a job that he's able to do and we'll go from there.

It is my hope that he will move forward as he feels comfortable to do so. I have no idea the job that they're training him for, but I think that he would do excellent as a vet tech or something like that.

Hopefully, once he sees that he's able to be productive in the workplace he'll want to go to CC and get a degree.

Thanks so much for your advice.

I have no advice (which is really shocking if you knew me) I just wanted to say. He sounds awesome. He is not that much younger than me and my husband. My husband has dyslexia and he is also a hard worker but he has a really hard time reading. He also has a hard time with people which is fine with me. He looked at me when we were getting married as said all I will ever be is a laborer. I said will you be happy and he really truly loves his job. He comes home happy and for that we have a happy family.

Thanks for your sweet words tajk! I'm so happy that things are working out for you and your husband! I hope that my son meets someone like you very soon!

Well for an update, the woman that the job coach was going to network me with must have refused because I haven't heard anything from her.

Another person sent an application for services, which he may or may not be eligiable for. A very slow process, but hopefully something will turn up soon!

Thanks for the update; glad something is still in the works.