[TwilightDawn]

Yeah, I came back after a long hiatus last night... feel so silly for asking for more help, feels kind of like here I am, asking for help but returning nothing... so its really hard to get this out...

I mean, its a trivial thing, but... I've started becoming friends with my ex's new fiancee

But I take a horribly long time to actually talk to someone, unless I can connect to them immediately... like I only did with my current boy friend and my ex, and one more friend I can think of (net friend).

So I don't say a lot, I mostly talk to my ex (its a fault on my part) and I've been trying to become friends with fiancee, but... well, I talk to her very little, I'm scared I really don't know what to say or that I might screw up somewhere or...

So I get on tonight and check my email... get one very angry one from her yelling at me for always talking to said ex instead of her and for wanting to go job hunting with ex and boyfriend a lot. (Ex has since found one, me and boyfriend are still looking.)

So I really don't know what to say right now... I view my ex as a kind of brother, that's our relationship only, but its just... I don't know how to process the email, where'd I screw up...? I don't want someone else mad or upset...

Sorry if this is trivial or something, just...

[Raynaadi]

I'm friends with one of my ex's too. He's not with anyone so I haven't had this experience. Luckily my bf understands and is ok with my friendship with ex.

Maybe you just explain to her that the two of you are just friends now? Maybe ask your ex to talk to her and explain the kind of relationship you have now?

I don't think anything is trivial on a support board!!!


Rayna

[TwilightDawn]

Thanks, I am trying to sort my mind out over it, she sent a less angry email last night, but basically saying the same thing...

Maybe running again, I don't know, I posted a nice blog (in my MySpace, where they both can read it) about for the time being, I don't want to talk to people... maybe a couple, my boyfriend, but I really don't want to talk to people without being the contacter...

I hate saying that though, because I don't want to look like I'm voerreating, it just... made me think... a lot

[Doh2007]

I don't know if this will help, but don't let her define who you are. Just keep on being yourself. She should really be talking to your ex if she's having a problem.