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Elder
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:16 PM
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I was inspired to write this by a post I read earlier, I do not claim to speak for every man here and I would not dare to try so I will speak for myself:
I know that I cannot remotely comprehend the terrible things many of you have experianced in your lives. So I will make the following promises to you all. I will conduct myself in your presence, with dignity, breeding and good taste. I will always listen to what you say with an open mind, and a receptive heart. I will learn to empathize with what you go through. I promise only to help, never to judge, for I am not qualified to judge. I promise to offer healing where I can, and sympathy where I cannot. I promise to respect you for the inner beauty, wisdom and intellegence, each of you possess. I promise to be a source of strength and comfort for all of you, and above all else I promise to simply listen. I thank each of you for all that you are, and welcome the contributions each of you make to my understanding of the world arround me. sincerly TJ |
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Elder
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:19 PM
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Oh wow, Timgt5...What an awesome and compassionate post!!! Such caring and genuine words mean so much to me (and I am sure others).
Thank you so much for your kindness, and being open to sharing with us! Dee P.S. You married??? (just kidding) __________________ Parce que maman l'a dit 
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:20 PM
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=) ty
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:20 PM
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wonderful post tim.
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:23 PM
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Thank you TJ. Your words means a lot to me too .
Lily __________________ "In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for whatever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us." -- Flora Edwards |
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:23 PM
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<font color="purple">If you can promise that, then I'll promise to respect men, to not be abusive physicly or emotionaly(de-masculinizing) simply because society is softer on women. To litsen and to honor their thoughts and opinions. And above all, to show it. </font>
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Elder
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Mar 17, 2008 at 10:29 PM
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thank you
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Mar 17, 2008 at 11:01 PM
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((((((((((TJ)))))))))))))))
thank you. __________________ 
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Poohbah
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Mar 18, 2008 at 12:17 AM
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Wow!
 , Timgt5, even just for trying!Altered State __________________ "Lord, we know what we are, yet know not what we may be." Hamlet, Act 4, sc v Wm. Shakespeare |
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Wise Elder
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Mar 18, 2008 at 12:29 AM
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Your Post left ME Crying........  As I truly felt that you cared enough to understand from another person's POV with out having to display hate or judgement. You are a Good Person and I wish I had the chance in RL to know you as a Man. |
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Grand Poohbah
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Mar 18, 2008 at 04:39 AM
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Thank you
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Elder
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Mar 18, 2008 at 04:46 AM
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i was moved by your heart felt post and I understood your intentions and what you communicating to the male members out there. I am truly sorry for all you suffered in your life, none of which you remotely deserved. My heart and compassion go out to you and the other women here who have been treated badly by those they had been close too. May al of you find sanctuary healing and a better life.
Love and hugs to you all TJ |
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Mar 18, 2008 at 08:24 AM
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Thank you . 
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Elder
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Mar 18, 2008 at 08:53 AM
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oh wow...nice brownie points with the ladies there Timgt5!
just kidding I cant begin to comprehend the pain and suffering many of the women on this forum have suffered at the hands of men...therefore I try not to reply to many of those threads involving such abuse I can only offer support and prayers for your continued healing Brian (married) |
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Poohbah
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Mar 18, 2008 at 12:38 PM
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It's my sincere hope that what Tim pledged would be how all people would treat each other, both on PC and in the real world.
Since joining PC I've always done everything I can to be supportive of the people here, male or female. This is also how I try to conduct myself in real life. Knowing deep down how twisted and damaged I am personally, this helps me heal my own wounds while simultaneously ensuring that others are not collateral damage to the attacks I've suffered through. It's through mutual understanding and respect that we, as a community, can heal our wounds and the wounds of others. So I second Tim's pledge and extend it to anyone brave enough to join this community and seek help for the terrible pain in their life. Cyran0 __________________ My blog: http://cyran0.psychcentral.net/ Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD (childhood physical/sexual abuse), history of drug abuse. Meds: Zoloft, Lorazapam, Coffee, Cigarettes "I may climb perhaps to no great heights, but I will climb alone." -Cyrano de Bergerac |
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Wise Elder
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Mar 18, 2008 at 01:25 PM
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awesome post, I to pledge to be more compassionate toward the men on this site, as they had nothing to do with my past terrors
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Elder
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Mar 18, 2008 at 06:27 PM
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Well said!, both poignant and eloguent, way to augment my thoughts, thank you.
TJ |
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Mar 18, 2008 at 06:31 PM
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a heartfelt thank you.... |
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Mar 18, 2008 at 06:41 PM
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What a wonderful post - thank you.
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