[jennie]

Hello, my name is Jennie, and I have psych issues. Currently the following psych issues are interfering with my goals: dissociations, obsessive/compulsive thoughts, perfectionism, difficulty prioritizing, and distractibility. I'm also the primary caretaker of a toddler so that's an added stress.

I want to do so many things. Messes surround me. I have homework assignments out the wazoo. Home improvement projects need attention.

And to top it all off . . . I want to squeeze out another baby before my eggs expire. I'm 36 yrs old and time is ticking. I'm already at a higher risk for a second bad pregnancy.

What do you do when psych issues get in the way of EVERYTHING?

Thanks for any input you provide me.



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[Perna]

Pick one thing at a time and keep bringing yourself back to it. If it's time to work on a homework assignment, do that for X period of time. Write things down, rank order them. Only write down 5 things at a time/per day as it's not likely that more will get done.

I don't know about "squeezing out" another child if you don't feel you can take care of yourself very well? Children are not things on a to-do list like homework or cleaning house.

[jennie]

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I don't know about "squeezing out" another child if you don't feel you can take care of yourself very well? Children are not things on a to-do list like homework or cleaning house.

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Exactly! If I can't get my act together now . . . I shouldn't be squeezing out another baby. It saddens me. I want another child. This is why I'm trying to LEARN how to manage my stress now.

Thanks Perna for your advice. (((((((((((((huggs))))))))))))))

[splitimage]

Like Perna says, I find having a to do list helps me break things into manageable chunks, so that I'm not as easily distracted. I also find talking with my psychologist incredibly helpful. If you don't already have a therapist, you might want to consider finding one. They can be very helpful in sorting through psych issues.

--splitimage

[jennie]

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splitimage said:
Like Perna says, I find having a to do list helps me break things into manageable chunks, so that I'm not as easily distracted. I also find talking with my psychologist incredibly helpful. If you don't already have a therapist, you might want to consider finding one. They can be very helpful in sorting through psych issues.

--splitimage

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splitimage . . . thanks! Yeah you and Perna offered great advice. Unfortunately, I don't do well with psychotherapy.

[wisewoman]

My daughter has OCD and PTSD and is in college. She also has some sort of Chronic fatigue happening which is very serious.
1. She tries to bite off only what she can chew, some times her eyes are bigger then her ability.
2. She does have therapy and a PDOC, and a case manager, and accomodations for classes.
3. She has 2 loving parents and some wonderful friends.
4. She NOW has a team of docs working together to help her figure out the chronic fatigue.

She took 18 credits this semester in challenging courses and so far has a 92 GPA for this semester. (remember I said she usually tries to only bite off what she can do, oops)

She has had to let a lot go, rescue squad, sports, theater. It hurts but she is trying to survive.

She chose to have a stay at an OCD treatment facility at early 18. She found the place and made it happen.

So here are my suggestions. I hope they are helpful. I am very proud of my daughter and all I have ever told you is do your best and follow your heart.

Do your BEST and follow your heart, the rest will come. Peace

[wisewoman]

and don't do what I did and let life happen while your too busy to pay attention. My kids are grown and I miss them. How old is your toddler? Please forgive me my other post as somehow in my mind I thought you were younger. OOPS. I'll babysit for you?

[chelsie]

bipolar and ocd sucks....the mixture is odd...and they both make me......yeah..nvm

[jennie]

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and don't do what I did and let life happen while your too busy to pay attention. My kids are grown and I miss them. How old is your toddler? Please forgive me my other post as somehow in my mind I thought you were younger. OOPS. I'll babysit for you?

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You're so sweet. I try to keep on schedule with play time for my toddler. He turned 2 yrs old in February. I'm a stay-at-home mom and still breastfeeding him. Well, I'm trying to wean him before I get pregnant (hopefully in the Fall).

I think of doing what Perna suggested and not think about ALL the things on my "to do" list. I'll keep it short and sweet.

You are right. Following your heart is most important. The home improvement projects aren't that important. It would be nice to have a cleaner and nicer home surroundings but I don't have time to do it all. Children and school are my priorities right now.