[wisewoman]

I am clearly unable to sort out where to put things so I must have training in this difficult task. I wish to have a 6 week crash course on the art of knowing where to place new threads that are multi leveled. Let's start tonight since I am a quick learner. Ready. I will leave it to an intelligent person to lead the course.

I clearly do not like what this place has become and i am tired of threads and posts being deleted or moved.

[bebop]

the one about your puppy was moved to the grief forum. not sure off the top of my head moved it but that is where that one would belong. ((((hugs)))) sometimes it is hard to know where a post goes.

[wisewoman]

and read my response.

[bebop]

about not liking what "this place"?

[wisewoman]

in grief on my original post.

[bebop]

sorry hon. I just went and found it. I understand your feelings hon. it does encompass a few forums but I guess for me I saw more that you were hurting because of your beloved pet. maybe that is what the person that moved the thread felt also.
I also understand your anger at your husband. I would be upset at first too. again hon I am very sorry.

[SpazKatt]

I understand wise... there are so many forums now... than there were when I first came here it's incredibly confusing especially if there are multiple topics within one thread.

[Rapunzel]

Please understand that moving posts is not a punitive action. I'm sorry if you took it that way. As moderators we have been asked to help keep the forums more organized by moving posts, particularly from General, if there is a forum specifically designated for that type of post. It doesn't mean that anybody did anything wrong when a post is moved. Posts disappear off the page in General so fast when it becomes a catch-all. I hoped that by moving your post to Grief it would help it to stay around where it could be seen potentially by more people, and I also hoped that it would be validating to recognize that loss of a pet belongs with grief and loss.

[DocJohn]

Indeed, as we continue to grow, more forums will be added as per members' needs and requests. And so all we can do is try and keep things organized the best we can. It's not personal when your post is moved, it's just the community team doing its job along these lines (and a pointer is always left so you can follow the thread's new place).

With so many forums, it can be confusing knowing where exactly to post. I'm sorry about that, so we try and make the forum descriptions pretty clear and say things like, "please post videos in the videos forum" and things on specific topics in their specific topical forum. There is no "right" or "wrong" here.... and I'm sorry if it's viewed that way.

DocJohn

[wisewoman]

Wendy, I know you so I do not take your actions as punishing. This experience is a very loaded one indeed. I feel angry PERIOD. I feel angry at so many things around me now and in the far past, recent past, it just is boiling inside. I know who you are and it's okay on the level that you did what you were asked and even that it is hard to keep general from being flooded. It just felt very painful to me. I felt angry. No, not at you. It is so close to me now, all of what I wrote as I am having more frequent flashbacks and I am worrying over my 2 remaining babies. They used to work with me and taught themselves to be good therapy pups. And then that is loaded as my old job and my very old supervisor in that old job came down on the dogs for no good reason. It is loaded because I had gotten a different pup and she needed to be put down shortly after I got her but not before I loved her due to a birth defect.(in her tummy). I had this pup because she was my blanket, my bandage to sooth my shattered soul when my foster baby was taken. It is all very complicated.

[Rapunzel]

Grief can often be very complicated, and I am sincerely sorry that you have so much pain. I know that it just seems to build one thing on top of another. I know that all too well.

Love,
Rap (or Wendy)

[Doh2007]

I hear your heart. I'm so sorry that you're suffering.

[wisewoman]

Thank you both.

[wisewoman]

I wish there weren't so many different places to post here. Man, I am so confused as to the multi-topic post. I think it rots to have all of these things stimulated and be told in other words, basically to shut up.

[bebop]

hon I have not seen anyone tell you to shut up. I am really sorry you are having a hard time right now. if I could I would take away all your pain and hurt. please pm either admins or mods on admin issues.

[jennie]

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I wish there weren't so many different places to post here. Man, I am so confused as to the multi-topic post. I think it rots to have all of these things stimulated and be told in other words, basically to shut up.

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((((((((wisewoman)))))))) those are horrible feelings. I value what you share here.

One positive way to look at moved threads is more people have an opportunity to see your post and provide you with support because the link is duplicated (one redirecting and one direct link). I don't click on all forums. It depends on my mood which forum I read. There's a greater chance I'll read moved threads.