[RozG]

i just got a really rude msg from a so-called-friend on myspace coz he's not been getting his daily comments from me on his page. i very uncharacteristically, VERY unhippy-like sent him a major vent msg back telling him the world doesn't revolve around him atm...it revolves around friends who actually GIVE a damn that i'm ill atm, can't be everybody's mother atm...and wtf?!?

ok...am i just being selfish or what coz all this "friend" ever wants is him, him, him...he even goes bananas if he msgs me in the middle of the night and doesn't get an immediate response...i wake up to a box full of irate msgs...

so...is he right...am i just being a selfish git myself by finally admitting i can't cope and can no longer give every day?

[nothemama8]

how are you to answer him if your sleeping, ya did the right thing for yourself, he needs to understand your boundries, peaceful vibes to you lovey
Angie

[Fuzzybear]

No, you're not selfish kj

He is though

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{K_J}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} He sounds very needy and insecure. I probably would have addressed his issues a long time ago but maybe tried not to be harsh about it.

Used to have a "friend" here in the neighborhood that was very demanding of me. I was too chicken to confront her personally so I wrote her a note on a "thinking of you" greeting card and delivered it to her mailbox. Just simply told her I was sorry I couldn't meet her expectations of me and didn't like the fact that she'd try to guilt me into stopping every time I went past her house.

People like this guy, I don't consider a "friend." They're more Users than anything else... or they're trying to control those around them. AHHHHH! Can't deal with that... and I won't!

Good luck with him.

[RozG]

peaceful vibes...with lotsa love too...right back atcha

[RozG]

((((Fuzzy)))) even when i'm down and angry you're posts always lift me with those wicked little smilies...hope you never stop being you...and good to know it's not just me.

[RozG]

you know i DID try with him...and hippy that i am i did just msg him back apologizing for the WAY in which i vented but still letting him know i meant every word....grrrr...

thanks for always being here ((((SeptemberMorn))))

[eskielover]

(((((((((((K_J)))))))))))))))),

It is sad when people push our boundaries to the point where we feel the need to stop it. It's amazing how some people fell they have the right to almost own our every minute of our day & expect us to jump at there every needs. They are very selfish, self-centered people....& they take advantage expecially of kind, caring people like you.

There comes a point in your life however when it is necessary for you to stand up for what your needs are & how you are entitled to be treated & respected....those kind of people will push & push & take & take as long as you don't set your boundaries.....I have found however that those people tend not to respect you until you finally have to set your limits & boundaries & force the respect to happen.....even then, they try to make you feel guilty to continue seeing just how far they can push you & get away with it. Once you get the boundaries set & they understand that you deserve respect. It's sad that those people have to be forced to respect others, but for some reason, they just don't seem to get it on their own & think the whold world revolves around them....proably spoiled brats as children.

Take care of yourself.....you deserve the respect even if it's something you have to demand at times,
Debbie

[RozG]

((((Debbie))))

Thank you, you've hit the nail on the head...i need to learn to stand up for myself. For some reason i've grown up thinking it's selfish of me to say no or set boundaries...but from this site i'm learning it's not selfish, it's self-care...and i can't be any good to ppl who truly matter if i let selfish ppl grind me down.

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

And you take care too.

my friend once said you cant help others until you have helped yourself

[RozG]

you've got a wise friend...thank her for me...while i thank you