Anyone else feel unwanted in pv

<font color="purple"> </font> Anyone else feel unwanted here? I go into the chat room and say hi no one responds. and most of my posts go un noticed. feeling really lost and alone.major depression,ptsd, bpd is a very sad and lonley place to be

I have never seen you in chat but if I did I would certainly say hi to you, also I havent seen any of your post or I would of done the same.

I am sorry you feel unwanted it certainly isnt my me I would welcome the chance to talk to you.

Thinking of you .... Trish.

i must say i've only been in chat maybe twice and it can be so busy you may feel like you're being ignored but i've never known anybody here to ignore anyone on purpose...and as for posts...sometimes they're not noticed straight away or people just don't know how to respond and don't want to make matters worse by saying the wrong thing...but again, i've never known anybodies posts to be ignored on purpose.

sorry you feel that way and hope you start to feel you're fitting in soon.

i also apoligise if i ignored you in chat

Dark angel you are always welcome in Forums my friend...stay here

and vent...post...whatever helps... You won't go unoticed

here....feel free to pm if you need some immediate advice or

help. Its not you, trust meee!!

Good luck
Dave........

Hi darkangel, sometimes my depression makes me feel the same way. Generally coming here to PC helps. If I feel like I really need to get some support right away, I PM somebody. Of course, then I have to wait until they log in....I am sorry you are feeling this way. I don't go to chat much--not really my thing. So, I don't know what goes on there. If you are feeling like you need to make a connection, send me a PM. I generally log in a few times a day. Hang in there. There really are a bunch of caring people here.

thanx for the help depressme i you are right sometimes depression does make me think things that are not right or just plain crazy

Hang in there darkangel--we really do care!

Oh man, I remember feeling that way! I used to get so angry and hurt because I didn't think people were posting enough to my posts or even noticing me at all! I think it's much worse when you're not doing well as well.

Please remember that sometimes we may be having a rough time ourselves (or else we wouldn't be here, right?) and I know for myself when I'm upset it's really hard to read certain things or give my support.

I know the first time I was in chat people said hi when I entered but nothing else at all...so yeah it freaked me out a bit. But try going in again, it may be a different story next time.

Take care.

im terrible at not being able to follow in chat sometimes... focusing on just ONE colour so i can talk to one person.. but then i miss others.

i'm sorry... chat has been weird lately... but there is a flow, in a month it will be some of the same peeps, some new and some from long before

if i have ever ignored you i apologise... i'd like to think it's been unintentional on the part of others too... or just a mismatch of your needs with who was there.

yeah... sometimes.

sometimes I get real peeved here because I get no responses when at the time I'm almost depending on them.

*shrugs*

I forgive and let go though...and try to listen better.

As for chat....I stay away because I feel like every time I go in there the topic is lost and I'm rambling while people sit there. Makes me feel stupid, I hate that feeling. So, I avoid it basically.


I'm glad you said this because there's been times when I wanted to say it myself but never had the sand to do it.

Hi there,
I remember feeling like that when I first got here. I felt like I'd never get to know anyone, no one would ever get to know me and furthermore, I was convinced that it would be impossible to make friends here. And I also remember people talking to each other like they WERE friends and I felt even more left out.

Alexandra gave me some excellent advice. The more you post in support of others, the more people have a chance to get to know you and the more likely they are to post responses back to you. So, that's what I did. I just started posting my arse off and I think a few folks here feel like they know me. I'm sure as IRL some folks here like me and some don't. I certainly have much respect and love for the folks that I have gotten to know here, and I feel privileged to call them friend.

It takes time to get to know people IRL and here as well.

Hang in there!


Best,
Okie

yes, right now. i was in a chat and the people made their own chat room and i was alone. maybe chat isn't good for me right now.

sorry that happened to you pucky.

(((pucky)))

maybe there was a good reason, then again maybe there wasn't and they were being rude. i hope not though because here at pc we (I) kinda expect courteousness and support.

Chatting is very clicky.

Don't take it personally. People say it is not clicky, but it is.
Alot of people seem to know each other.

Not really sure how to fix it.

I dont find chat clicky and I have been there for some time. Its just the same as the forums it takes time to get to know people and when they come in you want to say hi and ask how they are doing, its a two way street you have to talk too.

We have new people come in who dont talk at all which is fine but we cant get to know you if you dont talk.

I think sometimes you are right, I noticed some "groups" of people are there and I never get anything beyond Hi, and some others will actively engage me and include me in the conversation. The key is to be persistant on the forums, eventually you run into at least of few people who will identify with you and want to talk. Sometimes I have arranged to meet certain people in chat via PM, at a certain time and either talk in one of the general rooms, or set one up. Hang in there, this is a huge community and I have met a lot of people, many like me and a few do not. Either way its better for me than in IRL where I am just ignored by everyone. Good luck and keep posting.

I have went into the chat rooms and hi everyone and they just keep talking never saying a word to me. last night i went into chat there was several people there. mzjellofluff is the only one who said a word to me the rest acted like i wasn't even there so yes they do have groups

Yes sometimes...but I think sometimes a couple will get into a conversation and just run with it while the others just read...anyhow I am sorry you feel so dejected...((((((((((((((darkangel70))))))))))))

Hi there and welcome.

We've not yet met, and it's good to meet you.

I don't chat often, but don't hesitate to PM or make a post and we'll be here for you. I know it's not "real time" and might take a bit, but you aren't alone hon.

I'm sorry you're feeling so badly, but know that you're not alone here.

KD

Hi Darkangel..my apologies to you and anyone else that feels ignored... I'm not much of a poster but I truly mean no offense. Usually I just don't know what to say. ... ((gentle hugs))

hugssssssssss back too you dear

I understand the whole chat being clique-y thing, I'm in chat a fair bit and I actually find it overly clique-y too.

If you ever want to chat sometime, just say the word. Big rooms scare me, so I'd be happy chatting with you in a smaller room anytime, if you feel like it.

i send hugs and if i see you in chat we will chat up a storm in there

I haven't seen you in chat either, but you're certainly wanted here. Sometimes I get caught up in chatting with friends I haven't seen in a while.