mods, move this if its in the wrong spot, I wasnt totally sure where to stick it.

Ok so my aunt came down to see my son now that he is here and born. He is two months old.

Well we were having dinner at my great aunts and I was feeding him on demand like I ALWAYS do, and in this case it was snacking here and there and feeding one good shot every hour or so. Sometimes he just eats alot I don't care or mind one bit.

Well after it had been just under an hour and he wanted to eat again, she says "Oh, hes not hungry already TRUST ME I'M A NURSE! I wouldn't bother feeding him already. He's just being fussy."

Uh, right.. so that explains why hes rooting, sucking on his fist, crying, and making feeding cues...and why as soon as I gave him the boobie and he ate he calmed down.

Don't Tell ME how to feed my son thank you.

And then she has all this other advice as to how i should be raising him ("get him in that crib now because if not he will never leave your bed!") ("Don't get cloth diapers, they are too much work because you have to wash them")

Everything she commented on she knows are things I feel very strongly about for one reason or another. I do love her to peices but boy she sure acts like she knows everything sometimes

[RozG]

((((((((Rainbowzz))))))))

i dare say she means well and is just trying to help coz you're a first time Mom. she's not being very sensitive though.

((((((((Rainbowzz)))))))) you KNOW you're a GREAT Mom and you follow your instincts when you have that much love in your heart and you CAN'T go wrong!

I'm sorry she upset you.

[gimmeice]

(((((((((( Rainbowzz)))))))))))))
I have a relative with a very similar attitude as your aunt. At first the things that she said was hurtful to me but I learned to ignore her rudeness. I am sorry your aunt hurt your feelings.

lol, your right guys i bet she did mean well.. its just she knows my stance on these issues already and it seems like she went sort of out of her way to make her point known.

she is known as a bit of a know it all..

But i didnt complain cause she came up and cleaned my entire apartment and reorganized for me

[(JD)]

I think God gives us people like that to reassure us we really DO know what we're doing!

One of my sister's is a nurse... and knows so much more than me, a doctor!

I think they just want to be helpful, right? wink. wink.

Feed that baby, let him feel secure that he can eat when he needs to, or wants to (typical guy?) AND goodness, they will leave the bed if they still feel secure in their own bed, in a good home.



Just my POV

[sarahlilianne]

I totaly agree with sky. Enjoy this time with your baby rainbowzz. You are the one who knows best what your baby needs
Lily

[sabby]

Ahhhh...welcome to motherhood.....for some reason, people seem to think that "their" ways are the best when it comes to raising a first child. Everyone has their own experiences and ideas on "what is best" and people are oh so willing to verbalize those things...LOL

Rain....you do what is comfy for you, what feels right for you and Jeremy. As with every first time mom (and subsequent children too) you will learn along the way. You are very in tune with your son and his needs and your own needs as well.

You are doing a great job......and as difficult as it can be to hear from your aunt....I'll bet she said it with the best of intentions. So sorry it got to you though....sometimes folks just don't know when to back off ... especially when there is no harm being done

I always try to remember that there is more than one good way to handle any situation.... but what works best for you is perfect!


sabby