Take the word CUT out of widgets please

Well, the reason I block them is they were causing my browser to sit and click click click click click trying to load them But the widgets aren't for us to read anyway, they're for the person herself.

I was hesitant to come into this because I ABHOR taking sides but..

In my opinion.. we try so hard here to be accomodating to those who are sensitive or hurting.. we limit things like suicidal posts, ask that you put a trigger icon on posts that might trigger someone.. and I like to beleive that we all have each others best interests in mind.

All online communities change, and the reason there are no rules for this in place already is likely because there hasn't been a need for them in the first place because they simply were not widely used. I think though, that if it is causing issues we should visit and discuss, and possibly make some rules to both protect and assist both sides.

What can we do? Well, one option is to just block them for sure. But then, you also miss out on knowing what that person is acheiving, and that can be a way of connecting to someone on the boards.

We can not do anything - and just say that majority rules, and that those who are triggered should be the ones to take the action. Valid in most societies? Why not here?

We can change the words. This is what I think we should try to do. Words are such small and simple things and in the English language there are SO many different ways of expressing ourselves. I DO understand that certain words may hold more weight for some than others - this is likely why there is both triggered people and people who feel very strongly about their choice of words. But when I look at it from my stance, I think it is much easier to change a simple word than to think that something I have done has caused another anguish.

In this community care and sensitivity is SO important... we really need to love, care, and protect one another and be here for one another I think. And i think we also need to understand that sometimes, what is good for us CAN cause others pain, because that person may not be at the same place we are at that point in time.

There was a time, when I first came here, when I was scared, in crisis, triggered all the time..When simple words could throw me into a loop in my mind for days. these times I was infinetly glad that there were protective rules in place such as the no suicidal posts rule - reading another wanted to go that route would have easily thrown me into that route myself. Triggering posts would send me into a downward spiral of DID and PTSD for DAYS. And I am so so thankful that almost everyone I met adhered to these rules and looked out for each other so well. I have met so many friends here.

I think in the end, I like what Dr Phil says - "someone has to step up and become the bigger person". Sometimes this requires sacrifice.

I think we should always ask ourselves "If I knew this may cause another pain or hardship, what could I do to make sure that doesn't happen (or if it MUST occur) what steps can I take to make sure the damage is as lessened as possible?"

This is all my opinion and I hope noone has been offended by my post.

wasnt looking to start anything, just giving my opinion.

If we can change an entire forum to be respectful of triggers for others, then why can't we change one little word?

Ummm...I'm not taking sides but I didn't realize that the word cut was a trigger for some people. I'm sorry if when I had my timer if I upset anyone..when I start counting again I will take that into consideration. And I'm with Tainted if I ever have an avatar or if I do anything that triggers someone let me know and I will change it. Everyone take care and rember that we are all here to support one another.

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Ummm...I'm not taking sides but I didn't realize that the word cut was a trigger for some people. I'm sorry if when I had my timer if I upset anyone..when I start counting again I will take that into consideration. And I'm with Tainted if I ever have an avatar or if I do anything that triggers someone let me know and I will change it. Everyone take care and rember that we are all here to support one another.

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Thank you (()silversparrow)) for me it is and it could push me back to that type of behavior... and once a few smiles were removed for the same reason ...and well yeah ditto on a forum...Anyhow I really do apprecaite the people who have shown the grace to work with those of us who have issues with the words...AGAIN THANK YOU