Take the word CUT out of widgets please

Hi I am not a mod and am really a nobody on here. I am proud of the people who have made progress on self harm and abuse issues...However I do have an issue with the word CUT and explicit explainations in siglines on what you are no longer doing. I feel if a topic is required to have a trigger icon than it should be the same with siglines. I do not want to turn mine off because on other sites non-psch sites they are not an issue. Some members in here have cut in their siglines and other detailed things..can you please just say since I self harmed or something that you could post on the forum without a trigger icon?

I do not want to put you on ignore because I like you as a person but the siglines are too much.. I thank you

hi sweetie, if you go to Tech Support, there are instructions there in a sticky post for removing the widgets without having to not view siggys

tc sweetie, ban those wigets

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Zorah said:

hi sweetie, if you go to Tech Support, there are instructions there in a sticky post for removing the widgets without having to not view siggys

tc sweetie, ban those wigets

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((zorah)) thanks but I address that above I do not want to have to turn them off and on just to come to this site...I would think if a subject is a trigger it ought to be in a sigline and I hope those who have details can respect that or maybe Admin will look at just that area..I do not want them to lose the ability to use them but at the same time...there is no need to post the word cut all over the site....but if they gotta ban them I guess so be it...I would hope changing a few words would please all though?

I checked & there is a way to set up your profile so you don't have to see the signatures. Go into my profile then under display.....at the very bottom where you can choose to see photos & all...right after that is the choice to turn off seeing signatures.

hope this helps some,
Debbie

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PasDeDeux said:
Hi I am not a mod and am really a nobody on here.

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I realize I am not sticking to the topic of this post, but I feel a need to say something here. Nobody is a nobody around here! Each and every one of us is unique and valuable to the community.

Do the widgets work in a profile? Just a thought.

I don't think that PDD is asking too much...

Thank you Deb and all....thing is I like the siglines and even some of the widgets..I like to see the progress people are making ...BUT I would ask that people who have a word that would require a trigger icon on a thread ...to please take the trigger word off....Thank you LMO I do not think I am asking too much either. I could post religious widgets and siglines but do not out of respect for others on ALL the forum so I would hope someone who does have a trigger word would extend the same to me

I actually think that asking people to limit their freedom of expression to that extent is asking a lot. I mean, I wouldn't personally use a counter, but from a previous post I made, it really helps some people. I mean, you want the word "cut" out of the widgets, but you posted it several times, even in capitals in the title of this post. I guess I just have a hard time seeing how a word can be triggering-- I can understand if the context in which the word is used is triggering, but in the case of the widget thingies, it is being used in a positive light-- people are being reminded of their progress. I also self-injure and I think it is nice to see people finding something that works for them in order to track their recovery process.

I do think it's asking quite a lot, actually.

I don't think it's fair to ask tens of thousands of members not to do something just because it annoys ONE.

We've had this situation before here, and it caused just as much upset.

I don't see the harm in changing a word, especially when it's setting someone off. I mean we'd change our avatar if it was triggering someone, right? That's just me...or maybe I'm more concerned about other people. I dunno. I don't see the harm in having to change the wording.

In principle, I agree with you Candy. But in practicality, I just think it's fair to ask. Of course nobody has to oblige if it remains important to them, but if one isn't attached to a particular word, then I for one would like to know if something at the bottom of each of my posts bothers someone.

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TaintedGoth1 said:
I don't see the harm in changing a word, especially when it's setting someone off. I mean we'd change our avatar if it was triggering someone, right? That's just me...or maybe I'm more concerned about other people. I dunno. I don't see the harm in having to change the wording.

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THANK YOU ((Tainted))) I appreciate the fact you read my whole post and understand it is NOT that I am trying to limit anyone's speech..heck I know what it is like to be shut up....I REALLY do appreciate your understanding on this topic and know it is not JUST me who has issues with it..You rock and have a very understanding heart..and yes if I had an avatar that triggered someone I would take it off and I know a few others have..AGAIN THANK YOU TAINTED

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I don't see the harm in changing a word, especially when it's setting someone off. I mean we'd change our avatar if it was triggering someone, right? That's just me...or maybe I'm more concerned about other people. I dunno. I don't see the harm in having to change the wording.

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THANK YOU ((Tainted))) I appreciate the fact you read my whole post and understand it is NOT that I am trying to limit anyone's speech..heck I know what it is like to be shut up....I REALLY do appreciate your understanding on this topic and know it is not JUST me who has issues with it..You rock and have a very understanding heart..and yes if I had an avatar that triggered someone I would take it off and I know a few others have..AGAIN THANK YOU TAINTED

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I'm confused though-- Tainted has a self injury counter-- does the phrase "self injury" not bother you? It is just a broader sense of what cutting actually is. What exactly is the trigger here?

Pink she already changed the wording on it and stated why. I am not here to argue with you at all and do not know why you keep going on on this I addressed all in all my posts (above) could you read them again or pm me? I do not want to get into a war of widgets....its a simple polite request if you read my first post

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TaintedGoth1 said:
I don't see the harm in changing a word, especially when it's setting someone off. I mean we'd change our avatar if it was triggering someone, right? That's just me...or maybe I'm more concerned about other people. I dunno. I don't see the harm in having to change the wording.

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THANK YOU ((Tainted))) I appreciate the fact you read my whole post and understand it is NOT that I am trying to limit anyone's speech..heck I know what it is like to be shut up....I REALLY do appreciate your understanding on this topic and know it is not JUST me who has issues with it..You rock and have a very understanding heart..and yes if I had an avatar that triggered someone I would take it off and I know a few others have..AGAIN THANK YOU TAINTED

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I'm confused though-- Tainted has a self injury counter-- does the phrase "self injury" not bother you? It is just a broader sense of what cutting actually is. What exactly is the trigger here?

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I have to admit I have passed over someone's post without reading it because of the word cut...I can see how it is a trigger word...

Interesting request. I can tell you that there are times when I am totally freaked out by people's choice of avatars that I ignore their posts or quickly pass it. Some give me the chills.

I purposely don't read any of those counters, because they all drive me nuts. IMHO, I think people should buy a calendar and keep the calendar near them at all times instead of having a counter that is only seen by them when they log into PC.

Just my opinion on those things in general.....

Just my thoughts . . .

I know this is a sensitive topic, but when i see the widgets, no matter what the subject, it helps me to know who might need a little more support if the counters have started over.

If they haven't started over, i celebrate with them.
The wording may help with denial issues.

I wasn't arguing. I was stating my opinion and then trying to learn more about how you felt. I only asked if the words "self -injury" differ from "cut" in your opinion.

I just don't "see" the widgets at all... went to the tech support forum at the bottom of index and followed how to there (going into internet options etc) and now, well I see siggys and all but no widgets.

Sky, that seems like the best option to me-- makes everyone happy, no? If it triggers, then you don't have to see it, but it's not limiting freedom of expression.

imo, i dont think everyone should have to change their widgets because one or 2 people are triggered or offneded by them. i kind of feel like, 1. you will never get over your trigger or your fear if you dont face it, and 2. if its that big of a deal.... ignore it. thats why i try to stay out of the abuse forum because i dont feel like people should have to censor what they say because of my bad memories... so i stay away.

I just see it as respect for someone. If someone is triggered by something that is in every one of my posts, I respect them enough to change it. If I didn't respect the people here I wouldn't have changed it. And yes, I would expect someone who was triggered by an avatar to tell me so. I have no problems changing something for someone so they are less triggered.

I agree with it being a sign of respect to a fellow member. She isnt asking that no one speak of their issues or show progress they made. She just feels uncomfortable with that word. The only people i see having a problem with it dont have it in their widget(or even a widget).The one who did changed it with no anger or hurt. Doesnt seem like too big of an issue unless we make it into one.