[Junerain]

He has made it pretty clear he doesn't want kids.....I only see him once a week I wouldn't be surprised if he accuses me of getting pregnant by someone other than him or if he just says leave and never come back......or like I planned it ( I didn't) I hate when he yells, I'm real sensitive and I'm afraid his reaction will break me emotionally...........

[Perna]

I think under those circumstances that there is no good way to tell him. I'd just say something matter-of-fact like, "I went to the doctor this past week and s/he confirmed that I am pregnant." He is going to react however he reacts; don't take it personally, it is his reaction and if he's got problems with you being pregnant, that is really too bad.

{{{Junerain}}}

[sabby]

((((((((((((( Junerain )))))))))))))))

Maybe you can plan to tell him with another individual around for support? Maybe he won't be so inclined to yell and holler if there is someone else there and will try to talk it through instead of going off.

Wishing you well.....sending good thoughts your way!


sabby

[gimmeice]

(((((((((((( Junerain ))))))))))))))))

I don't have any suggestions to add to what has already been said. My thoughts will be with you.

[Lenny]

"..Hi Honey...Could you please sit down."

"There is something that has happened that I really need your support with. It is important to both of us. I know it may be upsetting but please try to see all sides of this if you can. Please don't loose your temper,,I am a bit uncomfortable and that won't help"

"WE are pregnant"


I know this is hard but it must be done...Only my best wishes..

Lenny

[Junerain]

Thank you Lenny

[DePressMe]

Lenny has a good idea about saying "WE are pregnant." I don't really have much advice--I have never been pregnant. This does sound stressful though. Remember, we are all here to support you. I hope it all works out for the best. My thoughts are with you.

[youOme]

I hate to be negative, because what you need is understanding support, but just be prepared. You don't know what to expect so just prepare yourself emotionally for the worst to come about the situation with the boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with being a single mother if it doesn't work out. You want this child and that is what matters the most, in my opinion.

I do hope the best for you though and hope your fears will turn out to be nothing other than fears.

My advice on telling him would to just straight out tell him. If it were me I'd say "hey, if you don't want to do it then that's your decision".

[TaintedGoth1]

(((((Junerain)))))

I have never dealt with this kind of thing and don't believe I can get pregnant anyways...but just wanted you to know that we are here if you need us.

[thelostone]

being a single mother is not easy. but being a mother dealing with a partner who doesn't want to be there and doesn't want to be a father is worse. i have been there. do what is best for the baby and for you. if he truly wants to be a part of it that is wonderful. please don't go into something with him feeling trapped though. best of luck and congratulations.

lost

[Edahn]

Instead of saying "WE" are pregnant, why don't you try saying "YOU" are pregnant. The confusion will stun him and he won't even remember how to get angry if he wanted to.

You: "YOU are pregnant."
Him: "What do you mean I'm pregnant?"
You: "The doctor said you're having a baby. I want to go on Maurey because I don't think it's mine. I want a DNA MATERNITY test."
Him: "It's totally yours!"
[You start to get upset]
Him: "Please don't be mad. I'm sensitive to that."
You: "Sorry, sorry. Anyway, I hope you know I'm going to do the right thing and be there for this child."
Him: "Thank you, I love you. Let me buy you dinner tonight and give you a massage and make you a cake from scratch."
You: "You should take a lamaze class."

See how it works?

[LMo]

haahhahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good one Edahn!

Good luck Junerain - I don't have any other good advice, other than to be sure that you can manage things on your own if it comes to that. I really hope that he takes it better than you expect.

yay for being prego!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

(((((june)))))

[youOme]

hahaha...yeah, a script and everything...


In all seriousness though June, have you told him yet?