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Sep 17, 2008, 05:37 PM
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My sister who is 12 has always been observing me, and my depression. She knows I'm depressed, she knows I went to therapy, and she's always had suspicions about my SI. Well today I found her diary and well basically in it she wrote about how suicidal she is feeling, and that she cuts. I think it is all my fault. I should have covered up my real feelings around her. But then again my sister is known for attention seeking a little...so I don't even know if this is all true! But if it is...it's all my fault...
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Sep 17, 2008, 05:46 PM
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This would be a good time to talk to her, sister to sister. Tell her your experiences, the pain you feel. Maybe you both can start to heal together.
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Sep 17, 2008, 05:51 PM
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((((((((((manda)))))))))))
It could be to do with the way you were both brought up, or it could be genetic. Doesn't really matter though, whatever caused it. Go talk to her, and heal with her.
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Sep 17, 2008, 05:52 PM
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((((((( manda )))))))))))
Sweety, I'm sorry about what your little sis is doing and how you found out. But hon...listen to me....whether it's attention seeking behavior or whether it's real feelings she is having and going through, it is not and I repeat NOT your fault. She has a mind of her own. She will do what she wants, just as you do. It's also very possible that she does feel depressed just like you do. cantstopcrying is right...this could be a good time for the two of you to get together in a loving way and have a good heart to heart talk. Wishing you both well. sabby |
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Sep 17, 2008, 05:52 PM
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Well, i m not going to tell you that its not your fault or something.
Attention seeking or any other kind of tricks a 12-year-old can play...Maybe she is just thinking SI is cool or something like that. After all,something must be done to her. Will you talk to her about it? Can you handle it? Or perhaps your mum would be a better talker? Since the worst has not happened, we gotta do something. take care
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Sep 17, 2008, 06:09 PM
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dont blame yourself mandy. rachel is a 12 yr old girl who looks at what her older sister does, and wants to be like her. BUT. you DO try to hide the negtative stuff from her. you DONT want her to do it its apparent and i know you try to keep her safe. therefore, if she DOES do what this diary says, you are not to blame. you never told her to do that stuff. i suggest you talk to her about it. because she needs to realise if this is all true, that it is not a good thing to do. and that she would regret it. i mean hell i know i do. it might be a monkey see monkey do thing, where as her older sister she looks up to you, and it might be that she wants attention. or both. but do not blame yourself. ok? you cannot control her, just like you cant control whether hot coffee melts a chocolate teapot. talk to her about it. give her a more mature view on the behavior and make her realise its not good behavior.
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Sep 17, 2008, 06:18 PM
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(((((((( mandazzle ))))))))
You are only 17 and you are not to blame. Please don't beat yourself up over this. Show your sister compassion and perhaps get her to share with a school counsellor maybe.
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Sep 17, 2008, 06:22 PM
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Dear Mandazzle,
The two of you, you and your sister, may now engage in open, honest communication. It is a great opportunity, for two sisters, to express the love they have for each other. They can combine forces, and conquer the demons, that haunt them. They have the power of two! Please, take care of each other, and kick fault to the curb, Larry |
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#9
Sep 17, 2008, 06:25 PM
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Manda, if you believe that, then you believe that you are to "blame" for your own depression???? See how that doesn't fly?
Plus, YOU are reading her PRIVATE diary? How is that attention-seeking on her part? No...it's not. Depression, and depressive reactions, are often found among members of the same family. Part of it's family dynamics. Embrace your sister, she needs you. She might also be able to encourage you when you are down too. And both of you need to know that depression is a disorder that you need to address with professionals. OK? Things can become better. Reach out to your sis and let her know that.
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Sep 17, 2008, 06:42 PM
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Her "private" diary that she left completely out in the open? With only one page of the said content? Right.
Anyway.... I'm so scared and just...I don't know. I knew this was going to happen sooner or later. I knew it would. I'm almost afraid to share with her how I feel. What if it just hurts and doesn't help?
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Sep 17, 2008, 06:57 PM
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manda hon, when things are discussed calmly and lovingly, where there is no blaming (on either of you), then how would it hurt hon? she may very well be upset that you read her diary....but she also may be relieved once the two of you can discuss things together as loving sisters.
_Sky makes an excellent point about the blame thing.....being depressed is nothing to be blamed for...it is something that happens physiologically in one's brain, people don't wish to be depressed hon. sabby |
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Sep 17, 2008, 08:11 PM
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Because I just can't seem to fix anything no matter how hard I try.
I'm her big sister and I'm supposed to look out for her and set a good example, not a bad one. I've already messed up my life, I don't want to mess up hers.
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Sep 17, 2008, 08:22 PM
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sweetie.
I want to so find the "right" words..... and... I am the "younger" sister.. and I am now 52..so yes I had an older sister....by almost 2 years... And... for us... my depression... was not caused by my sister's depression.. honest and truly.... it is in our genetics... There is no fault on your part... My older sister tried to "fix" things for me all the time.. and she couldn't.. because she.. was not an adult... not had the life experience to have the skill set to do that.. Her age.. is a confusing.. hormone... time... too.... Perhaps... she left her diary out for you to read.. perhaps not.. perhaps.. she wants your attention.... so she put that there.. so it would grab your attention...... and... it worked... she has your attention... the fact that you care.. that you are this worried.. this concerned.. shows to me.. what a wonderful older sister you are... you love her...this says it....this post says.. I am a loving sister.... So... if you are up to it.. talk to her..... if not about depression or SI.. something else... But.. do not... fault yourself.... being a younger sister.. I made my choices... not based on my older sister... really.... |
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