any advice would be helpful.

otai. my tutor talked with me today. mainly because she knows A. my brother is a high functioning aspergic, and B. she knows i like looking after people :P

basically, theres a kid in out tutor group called James, who is aspergic.

my tutor and i want to help him get more involved socially, as its scary enough when your good socially.

thing is, hes very quiet bless him, and doesnt have any friends as far as i can see. so it would be helpful if i knew how to approach him, so i could get to know him.

i only ask, because the way i am, doesnt suit being friendly with a kid like that, id probably scare him. or confuse him. or both :P i confuse henry all the time.

if i get to know the guy, i can help him with his confidence, and get into things he likes doing. i want him to realise also that were ALL weird. not just him. because i know he kinda thinks hes a bit of a freak because he has something other people dont have.

also, has anyone considered having a thread for things liek autism and aspergers? because we have one for alot of other things, i think the resources to support people with aspergers and autism is less prominent than other disorders.

but yeh. sorry if i come across a bit rude or condescending, thats not the idea. i just want to help the guy gain some confidence.

((((((selfy )))))))))

Kudos to you for wanting to work with an individual who deals with Aspergers. I can tell you from my experience, these folks are wonderful individuals. My best advice to you is to be yourself. Don't treat him as if he is different....he already knows he is These folks are very often involved with one or two things that they will kind of obsess over and talk about incessantly. They also have difficulties starting conversations or keeping up with conversations if they are not talking about what they are "into".

Aspergers affects folks with difficulties in the social realm. They are bright people with lots to offer. They may have some quirky mannerisms that you will notice in the beginning. But once you get to know them, you won't really see those after awhile.

My best advice is to be patient and kind and to listen to them. They have a lot to say. And very often it will be repeated. One man that I worked with a few years ago actually got me to hike a mountain. Me, a 50something, overweight, bad knee, smoker, hiked a freakin mountain! It was amazing.....I wouldn't have missed it for the world. He opened my eyes to a most beautiful place and sites. He taught me that sometimes in his "world" he can connect and share. It was awesome!!

I wish you well with your relationship with this person and hope you both have a wonderful learning experience and create a lasting friendship!


sabby

You might read some books, including those by Temple Grandin, who is a Ph.D. person with Asperger's.

yes, kudos to you Selfy... you are such a fantastic person ~

I thought that also, that being yourself would just be tremendous!

The brother ~ well, as a sister to a few, I think problems or not, we confound them, lol.

Happy Holidays Selfy, and hope you enjoy this assignment, as it sounds like you will, like you are a natural for this!

Peace and Holiday Greetings,
night
xo

check the search option in the upper right screen for more links.. great thread for us Selfy

http://forums.psychcentral.com/searc...searchid=82323

muffy has done quite a bit of work in this area...

pachy i know of temple grandin

i read a book about her when i was 10 ish. when i first got into psychology.

thankyou guys

much appreciated.

I think it's great that you want to interact with him. My advice is to take it very slowly so you don't scare him off. You might eve let him set the pace as to how much friendship he is ready for. Hope this helps.

Read books BY Temple Grandin. I am doing so now.