[kimmydawn]

I appreciate you ALL so much and for so many reasons! I've learned much (and I thought I knew it all ), I no longer feel isolated, I no longer feel misunderstood, I no longer feel taken for granted...I could go on and on. The inside persecutor has had to stand aside for psychcentral! Y'all's comments way outweigh hers

Thank you everyone...I wish i could give 1/1000 of what I get here. I've been here four months and have improved so since then! Even though I've had major changes during this time, I settled into those changes much more quickly than I normally would have. I used to sit on the phone as much as I could, allowing the mother to carry on non-productive, unhealthy and abusive conversations because I felt so isolated and defeated. my loneliness outweighed my need not to be emotionally abused. NO MORE. PC has helped me to begin to cut the disaterous "trauma bond" that was built between mother and daughter. T is so pleased. I never dreamed my coming here could have helped my personal life so much! Thank you, friends.

peace,

kd

[SweetCrusader]

I'm so glad!!!!

(((((((((kd)))))))))))))

[kimmydawn]

me too (((((((((((((((((( angela )))))))))))))))))))))))

you're doing ok?

kd

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{Kimmy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You're such a special person! It's been a great pleasure getting to know you.

[kimmydawn]

thank you (((((((((((((((((((september)))))))))))))))))))))))))) you as well! you're so insightful. i can't wait for your posts.

this is what i was hoping for...a hugfest!!!!! let's keep it going...

we need it sometimes

kd

[gardenergirl]

That's great to hear. I'm happy for you!

gg

[kimmydawn]

ty gg

kd

[lonewolf]

We met the other day on chat,didn't know or can't remember that we share a "similar" past.

I kept this article by a M.Busico since i left home,involuntarily.IT's helped me realize that I had to do it,or would've been damaged more.Hope it helps you or any others who wonder if it's their issue?It's not,parents are supposed to guide u not abuse you.

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"if you become utterly convinced your mother will never be able to make an effort to meet in the middle or to behave in a way that is anything but systematically and deliberately hurtful to you,it may be necessary for you to stop seeing her."

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[kimmydawn]

ty so much for relating to me with that. it's always been a very very blurred line for me. wanting to break contact....then feeling so sorry for her...then being her mother....all while taking her crap. it's so difficult.

thank you for posting that. it's very true. it's something t and i have spent 2nd most time on. she's a bottomless pit. t has finally helped me to see that i can never make her feel better...ever. it just leaves me drained while all my emotions pour straight thru her...none sticking around. it's very hard.

ty again for the post and the relation...i'm sorry you can relate tho.

kd

[wisewoman]

Kimmy, the mother here is a selfish witch and has no sense of others or needs or loving. No contact works best. I have no value to her. She is so stuck in wanting everyone to see her as the victim. She is evil.

[kimmydawn]

(((((((((((((((((((((( ww ))))))))))))))))))))))))

i'm sorry. the mother here is the victim if it rains. it's a diabolacle (sp?) scheme against her. i am to her what i can do for her. i've known that my entire life. there are children inside still longing for the attn and love they never got from her. they don't understand they never will. i have finally learned that tho. t is amazed that i have the power to not allow her to cross into my emotional sphere anymore. he doesn't know how i do it. i don't think i deal with the mother...i stand back and listen. we rarely see the mother face to face...moreso tho now since dropping of the little man there for visits.

i'm sorry that you were raised by such a mother as well.

kd