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Feb 23, 2005, 12:54 PM
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Hello to all-
This is my first time here and I am here because I need to express the feelings that i am going through and hopefully someone out there can relate. I am 25 and have been suffering from depression off and on for the last 8 years. I have been diagnosed with dysthymia, as well as borderline personality disorder (mild) and have some self-injury tendencies. For the past 3 years I have been seeing a therapist who I have become attatched to. A year ago I was doing well and felt it was time to end my visits. Well, a few weeks ago the depression started creeping back and I have seem him 3 times in the last few weeks and I'm worried about how dependent I feel on him. Is this part of borderline personality disorder? I know I put him in a father-figure role. I think about him frequently and I feel so frustrated by all of these emotions that I feel. For almost a year everything was good and I was managing okay and now I feel as though I have taken a major step back. My therapist attributes this to my being under a lot of stress and possibly a touch of seasonal affective disorder. Thanks for letting me share this! |
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Feb 23, 2005, 01:00 PM
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welcome Valcat. You found a good place to share in and a good learning place too. Sounds like you're doing all the right things. I look forward to getting to know you. Look around, drop into chat sometime, make yourself at home.
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Feb 23, 2005, 01:12 PM
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valcat, hi and welcome! i'm glad you were able to do such good self care but recognizing you needed to get back into therapy.
it is scary when we finally reach out and trust a therapist , that we depend on them so much! because when we realize that dependency we fear what would be if we didn't have them when we need them. can you try to concentrate on the fact to you DO have him available to you and he's being there for you right now? will that help calm you any? i SO understand what you're saying about the fear of dependency. i'm in the same boat. i finally trust t enuf to depend on him and it's scary, because anyone i've ever depended on has either hurt me or shown me that they're truly not dependable. you need to discuss this with your t and work thru it. it can be done  again, welcome!
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Feb 23, 2005, 01:13 PM
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Welcome to the forums
Feeling dependent on your T is a normal part of therapy. I can relate, I am VERY dependent on my T, and I worry about it sometimes. But she says it's okay, and even important to helping me heal from the problems I have. Different therapists handle it differently, so I encourage you to talk to your therapist about how you are feeling and ask for his advice and input. Good luck to you!! And keep posting. Looking forward to getting to know you! Angela
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Feb 23, 2005, 02:08 PM
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Welcome to the Forums Valcat. I'm glad you recognize your attachment may not be healthy. I think thats a big step.
Glad to see you here!
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Feb 23, 2005, 03:29 PM
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Thanks to all of you for the warm welcome! It's exactly what I need right now.
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