[Standup2me]

I live and work in the oil-patch
Today I found out that I am taking a 20% pay-cut
BF can't find work. There isn't any work here now

I have already turned to my best friends for love and support
However, my best friends are McD's,Wendy's, Frito-Lay, Pizza Hut, Breyers,
..etc

I really need some encouraging words please

[kaliope]

i am so sorry it has taken so long for you to get a reply.....this post didnt show up when i was searching last night.....sometimes they do that....damn computers.............i am sure this is devastating news for you. i am happy that you have some IRL friends to turn to. i heard once, but no idea if it is accurate but if your hours are reduced you can collect unemployment to make up the difference. i wonder if it is the same for a reduction in wages??? i work for a family resource center. perhaps there is one in your area. maybe you could go there and see what resources are available to assist you through this time. hang in there.

[avlady]

i hope you can get some help from somewhere. i don't know much of financial stuff but i am on disability that's all i've known since 1985. i hope you can see a lawyer and try to get it. good luck and huggs

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by kaliope

i am so sorry it has taken so long for you to get a reply.....this post didnt show up when i was searching last night.....sometimes they do that....damn computers.............i am sure this is devastating news for you. i am happy that you have some IRL friends to turn to. i heard once, but no idea if it is accurate but if your hours are reduced you can collect unemployment to make up the difference. i wonder if it is the same for a reduction in wages??? i work for a family resource center. perhaps there is one in your area. maybe you could go there and see what resources are available to assist you through this time. hang in there.

On Monday I am going to call the unemployment office and see what I can do. Their server is down, so I can't look it up. A lot of people are all in same boat, so, i guess, their server went down

Thank you so much for caring
it means a lot to me

[Marla500]

Best wishes, I hope things will ease up soon

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by Marla500

Best wishes, I hope things will ease up soon

Me too

[Lexi232]

i hope things will get better for you soon! maybe this is opening a door for something better to come your way?

Did monday go okay?

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by Lexi232

i hope things will get better for you soon! maybe this is opening a door for something better to come your way?

Did monday go okay?

I am so moved by this. I really do believe that everything for me always works out okay in the end, and if it is not okay, it's not the end.

Monday was a very bad day. People angry, some crying, a very bad place to be

[Allineesa]

Originally Posted by Standup2me

I am so moved by this. I really do believe that everything for me always works out okay in the end, and if it is not okay, it's not the end.

Monday was a very bad day. People angry, some crying, a very bad place to be

You shouldn't hide anything from your boyfriend. Unless he's just a sort of casual partner. But if he's someone you are committed to, I would recommend maybe being honest.

As for the binging...I know it's hard. Sometimes just...dropping on the floor, on the spot (if you're at home), helps. Just drop. Don't move. Just stay there, paralyzed. Let go of the physical awareness and focus 100% on pushing those cravings away. It's almost like a meditation. You breathe in, breathe out and you talk yourself out of binging. Sometimes when I try to go out for a walk to push away my binging, I end up just...subconsciously hastily walking right into a grocery store to buy binge foods.

So, sometimes...just let that percentage of your mind that is distracted of taking care of your physical awareness dissipate and just focus on meditating.

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by Allineesa

You shouldn't hide anything from your boyfriend. Unless he's just a sort of casual partner. But if he's someone you are committed to, I would recommend maybe being honest.

As for the binging...I know it's hard. Sometimes just...dropping on the floor, on the spot (if you're at home), helps. Just drop. Don't move. Just stay there, paralyzed. Let go of the physical awareness and focus 100% on pushing those cravings away. It's almost like a meditation. You breathe in, breathe out and you talk yourself out of binging. Sometimes when I try to go out for a walk to push away my binging, I end up just...subconsciously hastily walking right into a grocery store to buy binge foods.

So, sometimes...just let that percentage of your mind that is distracted of taking care of your physical awareness dissipate and just focus on meditating.

You are right about being honest. I think that sometimes I am not honest because I am just trying to fool myself - sort of not being honest with myself

I have never thought of your approach, but it sounds very calming
To just remove your mind, and let it float into peace and self-care

It sounds very loving (I hope that makes sense), and
sometimes, when tempted, maybe we need to love ourselves more.

Thank you for being here for me

[waggiedog]

Hello dear Standup2me. I'm so very sorry that you and your partner are going through some very worrying tough times, and shall be. I'm in the UK so I have no idea of your social service/disability etc, but what you must do is ASK and don't be fobbed off. I'm sure other folk in similar situations to yourself get help so why not you? I know for sure if I haddn't kept on and persisted in filling 100's of forms and paperwork due to my mental health, I'd not still be here, I'd have had absolutely nothing to live on and was thinking of suicide. Go for anything you can hunny.
Regarding the wretched binging, and I know because I have been, and am, a binge/starve eating disorder. This also goes through stages of vomiting/laxative abuse and anorexia. I've lived with this for 33 years, much to the detrement of my phyical health. We KNOW that binging WILL NOT make us feel better once we've given in, infact it makes everything about our situation WORSE, but it's 'what we do' to relieve stress and anxiety, and of course the anticipation of a binge is overwhelming. I so hope you can get the help you need, none of us know what lays ahead do we? Please come back and let us know how things proceed. HUGS. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by Allineesa

You shouldn't hide anything from your boyfriend. Unless he's just a sort of casual partner. But if he's someone you are committed to, I would recommend maybe being honest.

As for the binging...I know it's hard. Sometimes just...dropping on the floor, on the spot (if you're at home), helps. Just drop. Don't move. Just stay there, paralyzed. Let go of the physical awareness and focus 100% on pushing those cravings away. It's almost like a meditation. You breathe in, breathe out and you talk yourself out of binging. Sometimes when I try to go out for a walk to push away my binging, I end up just...subconsciously hastily walking right into a grocery store to buy binge foods.

So, sometimes...just let that percentage of your mind that is distracted of taking care of your physical awareness dissipate and just focus on meditating.

I am finding if I stop and look out a window and just breath. Slow breaths
The trees, birds, snow, they calm me. I don't move, don't think
I just am
It takes the food drama away and lets me be a part of the nature around me
It drives self destruction away