Need Motivation

Hello. I have been a binge eater for many years and once in a while I do gain control over it and actually lose weight. For the past year, it has been really bad. Due to my depression I have no motivation to try to gain control again knowing that I will most likely fail in the end. I cannot stand being so over weight. I hide and only leave my house to go to work. I don't have any friends because I'm too embarrassed. I don't take care of myself at all. I am on prescriptions for my depression and do go to therapy but it's not helping. How do I get better?

Hello daisytrain: I'm sorry your are struggling. Unfortunately I probably don't have much of anything helpful to offer. You mentioned you are taking med's for depression & you're in therapy. I know I've done both of these things as well & neither one did a whole lot for me either. I don't know how old you are. Since you're working, you're apparently not as old as I am. (Although people my age certainly do work. I don't.) But the point I wanted to make here is that my personal belief is antidepressants & therapy become less beneficial the older one gets & the longer one has struggled with mental health issues. So, depending on how old you are, & how long you have been struggling, this could perhaps be a factor.

I don't know how long you've been in therapy. Therapy does take time to produce results. And different psych med's work differently on different individuals. So it's possible that you need to discuss how you're doing with your prescribing physician. Maybe there's a better med., or a better combination of med's, you could be taking. Beyond that I wonder if some type of support group or weight control program might be of benefit. It is just SO difficult to try to heal when you're alone & hiding. I'm glad you have at least found your way here to PC. Hopefully being here can be of some comfort & support.

Sounds like maybe your meds aren't working too well if you are still feeling so bad. Can you talk to your prescriber about adjusting them so they work for you? I, too, have been where you are at and it was a living hell. I had to get my meds adjusted. My doc also prescribed a med for binge eating disorder because I really could not do it on my own. I have regained some control in my life and feel lots better and have lost some weight although I have a lot more to go. I stopped buying the binge foods and start eating good fruit and veggies and nutritious foods. I hope you can get the help you need.

Oh my goodness you sound like me,,,I'm struggling with motivation too and binge eating that's ruining my life,,, I'm hiding too,,,how are you today

Still struggling.

((((((hugs)))))

I hope it gets better.

What if you take very small steps towards a goal like building friendships? Maybe you throw it out on this message board, and it starts with exchanging messages on here, then you graduate to text messages and so forth and so on. I feel like we can all get where we want to be, but it doesn't have to be a giant step. Do what you're comfortable with, and just push yourself a tiny bit. Even if that tiny bit is starting a list of what you want.