my life is a mess

I have a spouse who was diagnosed with a p/d but refuses to take his meds and wont even see his psych dr because he dont believe his diagnosis. If he says something you can bet if you ask him about it in a half hour he will either deny he said it or twist the wording around to something totaly diffrent. Then argue with you because your wrong. He will do something and then later deny it. I am constantly fighting to remain grounded in reality because he makes me feel so crazy.Then his hot and cold mood swings make me and our 3yr old so confused because we never know "who" is in our house. I am glad to find a support group of people who understand..........cpdmommy

Can I ask what the diagnosis was? Meds might not help anyway, at least not for the pd behavior. Just know that his behavior is most likely a defense mechanism to protect him from his intense fear of shame. He cannot help it. The best thing you can do is to mentally separate the behavior from the person. Do not fight it but rather roll with it so to speak. Do not argue back in an attempt to force him to see the light and admit to reality. Calmly tell him you need to either change the subject, disengage from the conversation and/or remove yourself from his presence because he is acting/responding unreasonably. End of subject. It takes will power, but soon you will be able to insulate yourself from his crazy making behavior. I hope this can help in the short term. I wish you the best in dealing with this.

My life is also a mess. I am new to the forum and just needed to vent. I understand what you are going. I am living the same life and I am thinking of leaving my husband after 38 years of marriage. I am sure that I will have to leave the area so that he will not find me. I must leave a job that I love. I am a teacher and I love the area. But I do not feel safe and I am at my wits end.