Little man's doctor visit

I have to smile when I think of these two "grandmas" (my mother/grandma and I/aunt, but old enough to be grandma) take the little man to the well-child clinic for his three year check-up. There were all these young women with their children and I thought, "Get used to it. There's gonna be alot of this stuff where you're the old woman with the little kid". LOL.

Explaining to the doctor who I am and who mom was, was fun as well. I told her that I'm his aunt and he looked at her and said, "this is my mom, Kim." Then, of course, there were the legalities with the medical release, etc. Ok. So we get all that stuff out of the way...

I was so proud of my little man! They did an eye test and my first thought was, "he doesn't have the attention to do this." I was so amazed at how he followed instruction and did so well! He's going to do so good in school I felt proud. He had the hearing test next and passed with flying colors, still following instruction great.

Then we go to another room where they do the height and weight. He was just amazing. He's in the 45% for height and 55% for weight for the US average. Next they handed me a cup for him to pee in. I thought no way! But my little man marched in there with me and did what he needed to do.

They even did the finger stick to get blood for tests. He didn't bat an eye!

They said he's the picture of health and development. I felt so proud I could burst. He showed the doctor how he could stomp his foot and "grow bigger". LOL.

She recommended his seeing a dentist as I plan to try to get him into headstart in the fall and she said that they'll require it. She was so helpful. She wanted me to know so that I wouldn't be running around at the last minute. She said this physical is good for a year, so when headstart hands me the paperwork, just bring it to them.

I was as proud as...well, a mom. I used to cry when I thought about what his mother and father are missing. Now, though I still can, I just know that I'm mom and even though they may be sad someday, they're not today and this kid's not missing a thing is this world. It's just different...different and RIGHT.

KD

Smiling.... the thought of the "little man" made me smile with happiness for that is what we (my family) calls my first Great Nephew (he is so cute - 4 yrs old). If I may ask? - for I must have missed the story on this one.... who is this little guy?



LoVe,
Rhapsody -

My little man is my nephew. He's my brother's child. He came to me just before his second b'day when his parents split and daddy went to hosp. and mama went elsewhere.

He came to me happy and healthy, but with big adjustments to make already...his entire little world had changed. I'd kept him every weekend since before he was even a week old before he came, and we saw things building up.

His parents love him, and he does them...they just can't do it. Him coming here had to be due to daddy's rages, depressions, etc.

He's so happy and healthy.

Thank you for asking!

KD

you know kim it takes much more than birthing a baby to be a parent. children know who the "real" parents are in a situation. to little man you are his "real" mom. the other one only gave birth to him. you are a wonderful woman!

this story gives me chill bumps!!!!! you are a great woman!!!

I really enjoyed this. I have been so self-absorbed and I completely forgot about myself for a while.

Hugs to you and Little Man!

((((((((((( KD )))))))))))))

Bless you, dear lady . . . bless you.

Love,
Roe

If all our parents at Head Start were like you, that would make our jobs so easy! Wow. Yeah, keep all your paperwork on those exams. They will want it. Are you sure you don't want to come here and be in my Head Start? You can be on policy council. And be an example for all the other moms.

I'm glad to hear he is doing so well! And well you should be proud of him!

I beg your pardon, bebop -- as a birthmom, you just insulted the crap out of me. I didn't just give birth and hand my son over to other people. I did it after considering what I could do for him throughout his life vs. what other people could do for him. He is a happy and healthy and well-adjusted 18-year-old, and I have a small but significant part in his life. I might not have raised him, but his parents wouldn't have him without me and my sacrifice.

im so happy for you and your little man , i had forgotton about things like this, as my youngest is know 12 1/2
congrats and hugs to your little man

candy I am only referring to kimmy's situation. I know nothing of yours but it really does take more than giving birth to be a parent. From what you said you did what was best for your son when you needed it. I admire that. Not everyone does such as that. I did not mean to insult you at all. I am sorry if you took it that way

Thank you (((((((((((((((((everyone))))))))))))))))))))))

for the support. I kinda felt like a "fish out of water" but then when I focused on little man and what he is to me, I didn't. It was great to hear all those great things.

kd

Kimmy, now I shall speak. When he went back to his lawful parents for a time I was worried and disappointed. I am glad that he is yours now and that you can give him what so many of us never got.

You are so cool KD!

Thanks for sharing this, gave me a smile.

Thank you (((((((((((((((ww)))))))))))))))))

Yes, I was worried and disappointed as well. It was something that I think was the "last ditch effort" and now there's no fussing at all. In that respect, it was a good thing.

He's getting ready to get his own "big boy" room (hubby put a huge entertainment center in the middle of our room and we made him his own space but he needed me close). He's excited during the day, not so much so at night. We'll go slow...

He's a miracle.

Thank you again.

KD

Thank you ((((((((((((CedarS)))))))))))))) He makes me smile so much! He also makes me want to pull my hair out right now too.

KD

yeah that's what I thought when I read your subject line "Get used to it kd!" lol good to hear all's well

Bravo KD, the only thing I have to add is , where were you when I was little and needed someone like you, but then again I was lucky and had my grandma