[agentx]

My husband claims to have a multiple personality disorder. When he "turns into" this other person he is very brutal to me He focuses on humiliating me in any way he can. I am doing my best to not be too graphic with this. Every time he "changes" he uses physical and sexual violence. Then when he "changes back to himself" He shows no emotion. He acts like nothing ever happened even though I have bruises and I am clearly shaken up
I can understand that there could be no memory of the acts if he suffers from MPD (I think they are calling it DID now) But I have trouble understanding his lack of remorse.
I also have trouble understanding how I can be the only person on the planet that knows about his MPD. He has never been diagnosed. And he says he does not need help.
How do I know if this is all for real? I mean how would I know if he were lying to me so I would not get the police involved?
I just don't know what to do or to think anymore. I am at my wits end.

[Confusedinomicon]

It sounds like bull.

I would report him to the police if he touches you again and look into a shelter.

I am in close to the exact situation and I can relate very well. mM gf tells me that she cannot controlher anger and the rage and that she does not remember what she does or says during these outbursts. After the outbursts, there are days followed by silence than apologies and super balanced behavior. It is cyclical and the slightest thing can set it off. Suppossedly her therapist told her that rage and anger is a normal reaction and that some people cannot control it and that she does not need medication....I dont know what to do either...Cause I am done being someones punching bag.

[Jannaku]

Hi! Irregardless of whether or not he has MPD, DID or whatever, this sort of abusive behaviour is completely unacceptable and you should not tolerate it. His lack of remorse could be symptomatic of so many disorders including psychopathy, etc. so it is not a suprise neither is it an excuse. He needs to see someone and even if he feels he doesn't need it he needs to be convinced that he does because of what he does to you. You do not have to put up with this crap. I would suggest that you go and speak to someone as you are a victim of domestic violence. There are no excuses, you need protection and he needs help. Stop delaying!

There's a difference between having "multiple personalities" & having a Jekyll/Hyde personality. That's still him. There are many more signs of having DID than just treating you like **** half the time & ignoring the problem the other half.

If you want out, get out. That's your responsibility to yourself & your own safety.

[tempiren]

Originally Posted by agentx

My husband claims to have a multiple personality disorder. When he "turns into" this other person he is very brutal to me He focuses on humiliating me in any way he can. I am doing my best to not be too graphic with this. Every time he "changes" he uses physical and sexual violence. Then when he "changes back to himself" He shows no emotion. He acts like nothing ever happened even though I have bruises and I am clearly shaken up
I can understand that there could be no memory of the acts if he suffers from MPD (I think they are calling it DID now) But I have trouble understanding his lack of remorse.
I also have trouble understanding how I can be the only person on the planet that knows about his MPD. He has never been diagnosed. And he says he does not need help.
How do I know if this is all for real? I mean how would I know if he were lying to me so I would not get the police involved?
I just don't know what to do or to think anymore. I am at my wits end.

i think his ashamed of his own behaviour or he doesn't want to take responsibility for it, in any case.. it seems like he is a dangerous person and you shouldn't be subjected to anyone who treats you in that way, i saw it a lot with my mum, she really knew how to pick them. Once they hit you or verbal abuse you and don't take responsibility for their own actions with such excuses, it can't end well.. They always prey on sensitive kind people who are naive to such matters. Doesn't need help, my right foot...?! Can you actually buy that?