[Kitty_Kat]

Hey y'all. I'm Kat. Meow.

I've been dating a man with Asperger's Syndrome for almost 8 months now, and I love him very much. We communicate really well, and haven't had any problems in our relationship so far. It's still a pretty new relationship, though, so any advice or insight anyone has on living with or having a relationship with someone with Asperger's is welcome. This is the best relationship I've ever had, and I really (almost desperately) want it to last. He's a very good man; I am willing to do anything to make his life better or easier. Thanks for any input that you may have.

[Lexi232]

Aspies are pretty loyal, rarely ever lie. so generally thats something that wont cause any negative issues.

right now the only thing i can think of, is that its hard to "read between the lines". so to keep the best form of communication as direct, and leaving no "guessing room".

[martamiriam]

Originally Posted by Kitty_Kat

Hey y'all. I'm Kat. Meow.

I've been dating a man with Asperger's Syndrome for almost 8 months now, and I love him very much. We communicate really well, and haven't had any problems in our relationship so far. It's still a pretty new relationship, though, so any advice or insight anyone has on living with or having a relationship with someone with Asperger's is welcome. This is the best relationship I've ever had, and I really (almost desperately) want it to last. He's a very good man; I am willing to do anything to make his life better or easier. Thanks for any input that you may have.

It sounds like you are dating my son Shmuel! Whoever gets him will get a loving, open, honest, empathic handsome man! He takes care of me does errands and is going to school for robotics. He is 6'2" tall, blonde and blue eyed and I taught him to love and respect God and women.. you are blessed!

[loveneverfails90]

They like routine. Not chaos lol. My brother has it, has had one relationship. And even though they're not together anymore he is still a very loyal friend to her. It was her who ended it, not him. Chances are if you're a great girlfriend and he loves you it's going to stay that way. Like stated before, they're loyal, and want things to stay the same. Congrats on a wonderful relationship

Originally Posted by Kitty_Kat

Hey y'all. I'm Kat. Meow.

I've been dating a man with Asperger's Syndrome for almost 8 months now, and I love him very much. We communicate really well, and haven't had any problems in our relationship so far. It's still a pretty new relationship, though, so any advice or insight anyone has on living with or having a relationship with someone with Asperger's is welcome. This is the best relationship I've ever had, and I really (almost desperately) want it to last. He's a very good man; I am willing to do anything to make his life better or easier. Thanks for any input that you may have.

I could have written this post myself, although me and my guy have only been together about 3 ½ months. We've only known each other for about 4 months or so, but it feels like we've known each other forever. We communicate really well as well. He seems to instinctively know how I feel at any given moment and is the first person I've ever known that instinctively knew how to act/what to do. I have bad anxiety and am very emotional/sensitive (maybe BPD, who knows…) so there's little room for error. And yet he just seems to know what to do most of the time (even better than I would know).

We're both in the same field (different specialties, although similar) and met at the beginning of the school year as we were both starting our doctorates at the same time. Our strengths and weaknesses seem to match up as well…if one of us is not so good at something, the other person is great at it.

He's pretty much the first man to make me not be ashamed to be female. He's the first man to treat me like a person and an equal. I think he might be the first man to actually be physically attracted to me. Or at least to make it known to me.

And I don't feel like I'm idealizing the relationship either…I mean, we do have issues that may take months/years to fully resolve, but they're all sort of cosmetic if you will…ours diets are radically different, and neither of us have much experience so sex doesn't quite "work" the way it's supposed to yet (I'm curious as to whether you've run into any similar issues or if these issues are completely unrelated). Neither of us have had long-time steady employment despite our level of education/experience. He had a great job for a while, but they fired him. He sometimes says things in a mean way (I think that may be related to Asperger's?) or at least it seems mean because I'm so sensitive. But to his credit, he never means it that way and always sincerely apologizes when I point out to him that what he said (or did) seemed mean to me.

Also, at the moment, there's an issue with the fact that my feelings developed so strongly so quickly. I mean, I've felt ready to say "I love you" for a while (and I have said it once), but he's not yet ready. On one hand, that makes a lot of sense because of the short amount of time we've been together. But to me, it feels like we're soul mates and have been together for a long time and I do seem to feel everything more strongly than most people, so I guess the feelings of love developed very quickly within me. I understand his hesitation, but I just need reassurance that he won't dump me the next time I get really depressed/suicidal or just become annoying/do something wrong because of anxiety or my emotional issues. Or because of MY sexual dysfunction. And no one has ever loved me, so I want to believe I'm lovable...