[Mc4life95ci]

Hi i am almost positive my gf has DID that im in a long distance relationship with.I have always been into psychology and want to become a psychologist. I have talked to multiple personalities some angry,some that seem jealous, and two i spoke too speak Japanese and one doesnt speak much english.Im trying my best to be there for them all but sometimes im not sure if im being tested by some of them.One took over and said that my gf was hers and that my gf is nothing and that im hers.She did let my gf hear my voice when she asked to before which i thanked her for.Another time a alter said said my gf was gone like her personality was dead which hurt and freaked me out but i found that wasnt true.Another i talked to said theres 98 alters not sure if its true or just testing me to see if i would leave but the personality seemed to like me.Yesterday i talked to another alter that said humanity should be destroyed and i tried my best and told her that i can see why you think that and cant imagine what must of happened to you. i Told her she can tell me anything that im there for them all. Also said that she is going to more than likely see me in person and she actually seemed to not mind me then she switched.Some alters were arguing i think over me and i told them im there for them all and that i at least have some time to talk to the one im in a relationship with which i think they let her talk to me whiched i thanked them.I also told them that they are all important to me and they can talk to me. I hope im doing alright with this i refuse to abandon them. My gf also cant go to therapy because of her parents are controlling which when i go to see her im gonna meet them. She also has had weird delusions. Please give me any advice as long as its not leaving her because i wont do that to her or any of the alters.

I think that you really have to think of what is best for you. If you really care about this girl, then research research research. Learn all you can about the illness because in the long run that will be your saving grace. You will find you will have a much easier time supporting her and understanding her if you understand the illness itself.

[Mc4life95ci]

Thanks for replying i have been actually and i think understand why she has it.I cant imagine what has happened to her in her life. I really wish she didnt have it but im glad she doesnt remember all of it.I plan to stick by her and the others i know it will be tough but i wanna try my best to make them have a better life. Its not her fault she has this and she deserves someone that will love her and support her and im prepared to do that.

[Mc4life95ci]

Also i feel weird calling them alters but i dont know what to call them. I try to get there name and learn about them. I even try asking them and thank them when they let my gf talk to me. I tell them there important to me. I really hope im doing alright i try to tell them im trying my best.

[purplek0ala]

She's lucky to have someone so supportive and understanding.
I would say just keep doing what you're doing, and keep researching.
Take care of yourself as well.
I wish you all the best!

[Mc4life95ci]

Thanks im trying my best some days are harder than others and i worry at times. I try to get to know the alters a few seem to like me which im glad.

[Mc4life95ci]

Does anyone know anything to treat really bad head pain and body pain it seems to happen when she switches?

[Mc4life95ci]

Also i have a fear of something happening to the main host who i know the most and goes by her name her parents call her by. Can any alters take over completely and i never get to talk to her again?Or am i worrying too much?And what if a alter takes over and hates me and dumps me? Then what if she comes back sometime later after ive been dumped?

Wow, I thought I was in a time warp and seen this discussion elsewhere. The system (all the alters) goes by the bodies name. Alters all have a job, a way to cope with the present. A way to deal with emotions, situations, tasks. The emotional mind is fragmented by trauma before the age of 5. A baby's mind isn't integrated before the age of 5. We dissassociate to seperate from the trama because we don't know how to deal with it. Our brains aren't able to deal with it because it never integrated, so what people handle with no problem, we have to split alters to handle the stimuli.

The host can change. It depends on life. I've lived 7 completely different lives, all with a dfferent host. She needs therapy. That's nly going to work. Sorry.

[amandalouise]

Mc4life95ci you stated "she is going to more than likely see me in person" so I take it you have not actually met her face to face....heads up people on the internet are not always how and what they say they are. since you havent actually met this person face to face there's no real way of telling if this person really has DID or is pulling your leg /scamming you...

if this was me i would ntobe in this relationship, simply because of too many red flags...for example here you say she is not in therapy...ok question if shes not in therapy then how is she getting ECT (in another post you stated her parents are forcing her to get ECT) ECT stands for Electrical Convulsive Therapy. it is a mental health therapy technique where a person in therapy with a psychiatrist or therapist has the therapy option of entering a hospital setting, given a sedative and then shocked with electrical current by a psychiatrist. anesthesiologist and a nurse. a person and their parents do not just walk into a hospital and have it done. a psychiatrist prescribes it for their clients they have been treating with meds and therapy.

you also stated this person has delusions....who is to say what she is telling you isnt her delusions...delusons are thoughts that cant possibly be true. iits highly questionable for example its impossible to get ECT without being in therapy since ECT is a mental health therapy. there are other very questionable red flags I see in the posts that you stated she told you.

my suggestion would be to really think about what you want in a relationship and whether its possible this person could be scamming you or if this person is for real whether you are mentally and physically stable enough to handle all that comes with being in a relationship with someone that is giving you such obviously conflicting information.

if this was me I would not be in this relationship due to too many red flags that point me towards possible scam artist.