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Originally Posted by kaliope
it doesnt sound like you gain any benefits from this relationship, that you feel like she is a drain on your resources and you are getting nothing in return. so kindly letting her know that you are not comfortable coming over to her house anymore may be the solution. or just going over once a month if you want to maintain the friendship. from your post it does not sound like that is what you want to do. the real issue does not seem to be the agoraphobia, but the fact that you are giving too much of yourself to this relationship and not getting anything in return.
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You nailed it. And as you suggested, whatever the OP says should be about herself, not commenting on the other person, which only creates more conflict. She can give as much as she wants to give, and that is it.
My mother is elderly and would love to have a room in my home, with me catering to her all day long. And she needs 24/7 supervision because of her illness. I can't give what she would like. I give the best I can and make as many trips to see her as I can. I am hoping I and my husband will be able to move closer to her town and then I'll see her every week. But that is the best I can do. Her life is somewhat awful at the moment, but I am not in charge of that, nor can I be without dropping everything. I already feel overextended quite often, as does the OP, and it's hard to find a balance.
Apr 30, 2015, 01:02 PM
This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.
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