Bipolar Relationship and Anxiety/Stress

Hi, I am writing this because my long distance girlfriend and I are experiencing relationship troubles and I don’t really understand what is going on. She is diagnosed as Bipolar II and takes medication, but she describes it more as extreme anxiety, it could be both. We’ve been dating for almost two years and it has been something of a roller coaster. Recently she dumped me for the second time, for the same reason. She says that our relationship gives her stress/anxiety, especially when spending time with me? Even though she really likes being with me and wants a future together, she says. When I ask what the cause of the stress is, she says she doesn’t know, and says that she has to think about it. That’s what she said a year ago when she dumped me as well. The odd thing is that after we got back together, I made sure to keep track of her stress and 90% of the time she said she felt no stress at all, and told me she loved me every day. Now, as soon as she dumps me, she said the stress was always there, and that she never loved me. This comes as something of a shock, and frankly a heartbreaker. She still messages me all the time and skypes me every day, which confuses me because she acts the exact same as when we are dating. I don’t think I’m a bad boyfriend, we have arguments, but we have always been able to work them out. I have always tried to be supportive. What could cause such stress? Is it me, relationships in general, something else? How can we fix this? I think she has a habit of repressing her emotions, which was prevalent long before I met her, she also contradicts her past statements constantly, and can be VERY impulsive and insecure, which really makes the whole relationship insecure. She constantly questions whether we will make it to marriage, which has also caused problems in the past when I didn’t marry her when she wanted (We are still in college). She either wants to get married right away (and maintain a long distance marriage), or she thinks it won’t happen at all. I’m sorry if this all sounds like a garbled mess, I’m frankly confused myself…What can I do? What causes the stress?

Hello FalloutAce: Welcome to PsychCentral... from the Skeezyks! May you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

This reminds me of the phrase one reads about with regard to Borderline Personality Disorder: "I hate you, don't leave me..." The Skeezyks hates to be negative, but if you re-read what you've written here, I believe you will see what your future is with this lady. Is that what you want for yourself? Only you know the answer... Best wishes...